The speaker recounts how in a cult, individuals are conditioned from a young age, starting from playing tackle football at age five where only the best players are selected for further engagement. It is likened to a mob, with an inner circle that one can be born into but not all members are negatively impacted if they exit by age 12. The cult builds a sense of meritocracy by grooming and indoctrinating individuals, leading to a commitment for life by age 18. There is a strong emphasis on separating members from their families, creating a need for individuals to work hard to stay in the group and believe that it is challenging to remain.