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140. The psychology of envy

The Psychology of your 20s

ADVICE

Taming Envy

Questions:

  • How can we shift our perspective from comparison to gratitude when faced with others' success?
  • What practical steps can we take to cultivate genuine happiness for others' achievements?
  • How can mindfulness and self-compassion help manage feelings of envy?

Summary:

  • Envy is a mindset opposing gratitude and generosity.
  • We can choose how to react to others' success: compare and feel inferior, or be genuinely happy for them.
  • To combat envy, ask yourself: How would I want to be celebrated? How can I make this person feel amazing? What led to their success?
  • We are in charge of our emotions and how they influence our behavior.
  • View envy as a controllable aspect of yourself.
  • Talk to your envy as if it were a separate entity, questioning its benefits and offering alternative thoughts.
  • Replace envious thoughts by focusing on what you have.
  • Practice mindfulness by paying attention to your internal and external experiences without judgment.
  • Acknowledge envy without reacting, and instead list your own sources of fulfillment and security.

Maxim: Choose gratitude over comparison. Celebrate others' success and acknowledge your own.

Elaboration: This snip suggests we can actively choose how we respond to feelings of envy. Instead of letting comparison and negativity take over, we can practice gratitude for what we have and celebrate others' accomplishments. This mindset shift can lead to greater happiness and fulfillment.

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