Reflection on Past Relationships and Avoidant Attachment Patterns

The speaker reflects on past relationships where they quickly gave up on the relationship at the first sign of conflict or imperfection, believing that constant honeymoon stage is the norm. They now understand that most issues in past relationships were fixable, and their behavior stems from dismissible avoidant attachment pattern. This pattern originates from a lack of healthy conflict resolution modeling, leading to learned helplessness and a belief that finding a flawless partner is the key to happiness. In actuality, working through conflicts is crucial in secure relationships, as avoiding conflict does not equate to a healthy relationship. The speaker highlights how dismissible avoidant individuals struggle with conflict resolution, as demonstrated by a friend who ended a long-standing friendship after their first disagreement without attempting to resolve it.