Humans tend to mispredict what will make them happy by believing that a specific future event, like getting a promotion, having a family, or finding a partner, will bring everlasting happiness. This mindset, known as the arrival fallacy or happily ever after fallacy, leads individuals to put excessive hopes on that one event, setting themselves up for disappointment as research suggests that the event may not bring the expected level of joy. For instance, a high school student applying to Yale may overestimate the euphoria of getting accepted, highlighting how individuals often overpredict the emotional impact of achieving a future goal.
We're not great at knowing what makes us happy, says Laurie Santos, host of "The Happiness Lab." Laurie joins Maya for a wide-ranging conversation about the latest happiness research and her favorite happiness-boosting strategies. They also discuss how much of our happiness is hard-wired, if there's such a thing as thinking about happiness too much, and what you should know if you ever feel guilty feeling happy, given the state of the world. For more on Laurie, check out her podcast "The Happiness Lab."
If you liked this episode, try this one from the archive: “The Science of Happiness and Change.”
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