Embrace Power Under: Choose Invitation Over Control

Power dynamics can be understood through two contrasting approaches: power over and power under. Power over is characterized by imposition, coercion, and control, leading to a harmful dynamic where force dictates actions. In contrast, power under reflects an approach of invitation and surrender, allowing for genuine choices without compulsion. This model emphasizes that true authority comes not from enforcing outcomes, but from inviting individuals to make their own decisions, even if those decisions don't align with personal desires. By practicing power under, one acknowledges the autonomy of others and embraces the unpredictability of relationships.