Self-compassion is not selfish or narcissistic as it does not deplete our ability to show compassion to others. Research indicates that self-compassion reduces burnout and fatigue when caring for others and improves relationships by making individuals more giving and less controlling. By resourcing oneself, individuals have more emotional energy to care for others, shifting focus from self-criticism to a more compassionate and caring state.
Self-compassion isn't selfish, says psychologist Kristin Neff, a pioneer in research on the topic. Kristin busts cultural myths about self-compassion, such as the idea that it makes us lazy or self-indulgent, and explains why it’s actually a more effective motivational tool than self-criticism. She also breaks down why fostering more self-compassion is a better strategy than trying to boost self-esteem and offers some simple practices for being kinder to ourselves.
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