The speaker shares the journey of learning to manage temper and emotions, citing examples from personal experiences in the Seal teams. They reflect on how losing temper was perceived as a sign of weakness rather than strength, influenced by childhood observations and realizations during their service. The impact of temper on relationships and the importance of controlling emotions is emphasized. Insights on dealing with children who lose their temper are shared including discussing outcomes of behavior rather than simply reprimanding and the significance of not losing one's temper when dealing with such situations.