Indulging in fantasies can provide vicarious pleasure, but it may also discourage individuals from taking practical steps toward achieving their real desires. The danger lies in becoming complacent after visualizing a dream without transitioning into action. While positive fantasies can spark meaningful conversations, they risk creating a false sense of fulfillment. Gabrielle's concern is that people may become satisfied with mere visualization, leading to inaction and unfulfilled ambitions. Realistic dreams require actionable steps; otherwise, individuals can remain trapped in a cycle of excessive dreaming without progressing towards their goals. This reflects the broader observation that some of the most unhappy people are those who harbor grand ambitions yet fail to take decisive action.
Are fantasies helpful or harmful? How is daydreaming like a drug? And what did Angela fantasize about during ninth-grade English class?
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