The three second rule is a mental hack that encourages making a decision to approach someone within three seconds to avoid overthinking and self-doubt. Overthinking can lead to constructing reasons to avoid taking action, as humans tend to mitigate risks by sticking to the known and perceiving the unknown as dangerous.
If you'd like to give up on friendship for good, this is for you. Of course, you could ignore this advice and make friends instead, but who would want that?
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Earning Passive Income The Smart Way With Pat Flynn (Ep. 7)
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How to Buy Your First House, Pt. 1: The Research Process (Ep. 205)
How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie
The Power of Habit, by Charles Duhigg
Lifehacker's 90 Hours to Make a New Friend article
How to Be a Good Significant Other (Ep. 177)
How to Meet New People - 6 Tips for Making More Friends
How to Build Closer Friendships
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Timestamps:
0:06:27 - Don't approach someone to start a conversation
0:11:23 - Don't try to become better at socializing
0:20:48 - Don't try to be the leader
0:27:35 - Don't talk to people about things unrelated to the current situation
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0:32:19 - Sponsor: CuriosityStream (Learning new topics)
0:34:33 - Don't take an interest in other people's interests
0:38:26 - Don't try new things to meet new people
0:42:02 - Don't try to remember people's birthdays or send them gifts
0:44:07 - Don't try to become friends when you don't immediately "click"
0:53:26 - Don't work on improving yourself
1:02:52 - Conclusion and good luck on being alone forever
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