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Punishments don’t work! What skills are they missing for good behavior ?
Challenging assumptions about punishments and behaviors reveals the importance of adopting a more generous interpretation of children's actions. Instead of defaulting to punishment, focusing on identifying the skills lacking in children can lead to more meaningful behavior change. By reframing the situation from 'bad behavior' to 'lacking skills,' it shifts the approach from punitive actions to skill development. This distinction is crucial in guiding children to learn and grow effectively. Rather than asking for punishments, it is more productive to inquire about the skills needed in a given situation to support long-lasting positive changes. This approach is applicable not only in parenting but also in coaching scenarios, emphasizing the value of skill-building over punitive measures for behavior improvement.