Building Identity-Based Habits

• Key Takeaways:

  • Focus on how you want to feel (e.g., peaceful, competent, reliable, proud).
  • Create an identity-based statement around a small, doable task (e.g., "I am the kind of person who...").
  • Connect the task to your desired feeling (e.g., feeling positive makes everything easier).
  • Start small and commit to the task for one week.
  • This is for you, driven by your own intentions, not for anyone else.

• Metacognitive Questions:

  • Why might tying habits to my identity be more effective than simply setting goals?
  • How can I ensure my chosen identity statement resonates with my values?

• Action Plan:

  1. Choose one small habit I want to build.
  2. Craft an "I am the kind of person who..." statement around it.
  3. Focus on this identity and the associated task for one week.

• Mindset Cultivation:

  • Self-compassion: Be kind to yourself, especially when starting.
  • Intentionality: Connect the task to your deeper values and desires.
  • Mindfulness: Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after the task.

• Metaphors/Concept Handles:

  • Like building a character in a role-playing game: You define their traits and actions, shaping their identity over time.
  • Like laying a brick wall: Each small task is a brick, contributing to the overall structure of your desired self.