4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Self-Deprecation & Self-Sabotage Effects
Self-deprecating humor can be a compelling trait, reflecting a healthy sense of humor and humility. However, excessive self-denigration manifests through habits like over-apologizing, excessive humility, or downplaying achievements, potentially backfiring by conveying insecurity and undermining self-esteem. Research indicates that women tend to apologize more than men, often as a reflex, which, while courteous, can signal self-doubt. Moreover, individuals struggling to accept compliments may inadvertently harm their self-image; for instance, downplaying career successes can project insecurity and confound confidence. These behaviors often stem from childhood influences, such as critical parenting or past experiences shaping one's self-worth. The reluctance to acknowledge success may arise from fears of alienation or preempting others' criticisms. Though self-deprecation might generally correlate with better psychological health, overindulgence risks the perception of incompetence. It's crucial to evaluate whether such self-talk serves a purpose of genuine self-affirmation or merely acts as a shield against potential judgment.
