
#799 - David Robson - The Science Of Building Genuine Friendships
Modern Wisdom
The Fast Friends Procedure: Building Deep Connections
The Fast Friends Procedure involves asking probing questions developed by psychologist Arthur Aaron, gradually becoming more intimate without being sexual. These questions prompt individuals to share about their fears, dreams, and desires. By encouraging people to reveal secrets or hidden vulnerabilities, such as through a prompt about a crystal ball revealing their future, the procedure reveals insights into their inner selves. Contrasting with typical small talk, the procedure aims for profound connections over surface-level conversations like discussing favorite films. Participants in the Fast Friends Procedure felt as close to each other as they did to old friends from childhood or university, showcasing the effectiveness of the procedure in fostering deep connections.