The key idea is that making others feel interesting is more important than being interesting yourself. By focusing on others and making them feel valued, one can exude a sense of charisma without being outgoing or gregarious. This concept of 'inverse charisma' emphasizes the importance of asking good questions and creating an environment where the other person feels valued and appreciated. True charisma is seen as the ability to make others feel charismatic, suggesting that the true power lies in making those around you feel special and interesting.
Gurwinder Bhogal is a programmer and a writer.
Gurwinder is one of my favourite Twitter follows. He’s written yet another megathread exploring human nature, cognitive biases, mental models, status games, crowd behaviour and social media. It’s fantastic, and today we go through some of my favourites.
Expect to learn why our mental model of the world assumes people are just like us, why Narcissists tend to inject themselves into every story no matter how unrelated or tenuous, the role of Postjournalism in a world of fake news, why we navigate the world through stories and not statistics or facts, why people specialise in things they are actually bad at and much more...