Love, intimacy and caring depends on understanding

In intimate relationships, one of the most powerful things that we want is for there to be real understanding in those relationships. Things like love and trust simply don't work if there isn't understanding If your understanding of me is different than how i understand myself, then when you tell me how much you love me, you're telling me that you love somebody different than me. So it feels inauthentic and very unrewarding. It'll suppose you got a nice, big raise at work from your boss, and they said they're giving you the rais because of something that isn't true about you. You don't think about how uncomfortable that would feel. He makes you feel like an