what happens when that source of our love often our relationship and the validation and the warm gooey feelings comes to an end it's a sad reality you know we go from talking to that person every day from celebrating our successes with them and mourning our losses and our failures you know we know everything about them and when that's over essentially our brain goes into withdrawal you've spent you know the last six the last five years, however long it may be, receiving that stimulation and the release of these powerful neurotransmitters. And then it drops off and the brain is left scrambling for more, trying to reestablish that sense of homeostasis and normalcy. So post breakup, especially if you go no contact, which I would definitely recommend and we'll talk about that later, but your brain enters basically a state of acute wanting and it makes it really difficult for us to focus on anything other than that person that we're missing. In fact this relative kind of deficit in the neurotransmitters associated with pleasurable feelings and happiness but also with that person it can even give rise to symptoms that resemble clinical depression or withdrawal and that is the love withdrawal hypothesis. It explains why we find that in the months after a breakup we just crave this person like they're a drug. We want to call them. For closure or whatever reason you give we become obsessed and unable to move on but also willing to do really stupid and wild things just as a person who is fighting a drug addiction would do someone who is heartbroken obsesses and craves their ex because they are essentially kicking an addiction that this person has created for them a love addiction a neurochemical addiction That is one possible theory that kind of explains why breakups are so unpleasant. Even when