It's the stuff that your parents don't actually say, and that's why it's the nastiest stuff of all right? And so it's kind of interesting because, like, it's not actually what they've conditioned you. Cause your parents would never go quite that far, or they do so rarely. And then you kind of fill in the gaps, and you kind of carry it with you. Now this makes it very, very difficult to deal with,. Because if some one says something to you, there is at least the possibility of some kind of response or conversation. There's no chance for apology, there's no ands for resolution.