Modeling self-compassion and ownership to children involves acknowledging imperfections, apologizing when mistakes happen, and taking ownership without blaming others. This approach teaches children that it's okay to make mistakes and encourages self-compassion. Harshness and self-judgment only contribute to increased reactivity and stress, hindering personal growth. Accepting oneself allows for positive change, as stated by Carl Rogers.
Self-compassion isn't selfish, says psychologist Kristin Neff, a pioneer in research on the topic. Kristin busts cultural myths about self-compassion, such as the idea that it makes us lazy or self-indulgent, and explains why it’s actually a more effective motivational tool than self-criticism. She also breaks down why fostering more self-compassion is a better strategy than trying to boost self-esteem and offers some simple practices for being kinder to ourselves.
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