The Challenge of Holding the Line in Relationships

Holding boundaries and having difficult conversations are crucial for maintaining good relationships. Without setting and enforcing boundaries, one ends up in a state of confusion and uncertainty. Making exceptions to boundaries sets a precedent and can lead to people questioning your consistency. Conversely, holding firm to boundaries can lead to others becoming upset. It is important to consistently hold strong boundaries and say no when necessary, as it becomes increasingly challenging to do so as one progresses. Learning to say no is a skill that must be continually practiced.

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Mark Manson (@IAmMarkManson) is a three-time #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck as well as other titles. His books have sold nearly 20 million copies worldwide and have reached number one in more than a dozen countries.

Since 2008, he has written articles at MarkManson.net, one of the largest personal-development blogs in the world, with more than a million monthly readers. In 2023, a feature film about him and his work will be released in theaters by Universal Pictures. See SubtleArtMovie.com for more details, and click here for the trailer.

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[07:02] Difficult changes and modified default behaviors.

[10:22] Be careful what you wish for.

[12:14] How Mark’s feature film deal came to be.

[15:55] The teamwork that makes Mark’s dream work.

[20:26] Sourcing talent.

[24:45] How Mark knew he’d found the right agent.

[28:36] From Entropy to F*ckery.

[47:21] Learning the subtle art of strategic F-bombing.

[56:31] Prioritizing health maintenance.

[1:04:04] Co-authoring a book with Will Smith.

[1:11:34] In a post-slap world, what should we know about the real Will Smith?

[1:16:36] How Will Smith depends on and interacts with his team.