**Bohnhoeffer - let marriage support love - love in container **

Dietrich bonhoffer famously offered this bit of advice to a young couple at their wedding as they're standing in front of him. Let your marriae sustain your love, he said. And that means it cannot be sustained on fluttery feelings or spontaneous moments alone. It needs a container, something like the fidelity of a marriage,. within which it can grow, mature and blossom.