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Repair Before Reconnection
Therapy typically unfolds in three key phases, with the first two being the most critical. The initial phase focuses on damage control, aiming to understand and mitigate negative cycles in the relationship, ensuring that conflicts occur less frequently and are less intense, with quicker resolutions. The second phase emphasizes bonding and deeper emotional work, where genuine closeness and connection are cultivated. However, there can be a transitional period between the two phases, likened to a bucket of dirty water that must first be drained before being filled with clean water. During this interim, the relationship may experience diminished conflict but might also feel unfulfilled as it hasn't yet reached the desired state of intimacy.