Judging ourselves and others often overlooks the complexity of our identities, which can lead to self-delusion. To improve self-perception, a helpful approach is to shift from asking 'why' to 'what'. Instead of delving into the reasons behind feelings, one should explore the specific situations that trigger those feelings and identify common patterns. This methodical shift enhances understanding of emotional responses and provides clarity in self-reflection.
Do you see yourself the same way others see you? What’s the difference between self-perception and self-awareness? And why do Mike and Angela both hate fishing?
- SOURCES:
- Luis von Ahn, co-founder and C.E.O. of Duolingo; former chair of the board at Character Lab.
- Paul DePodesta, chief strategy officer of the Cleveland Browns; former baseball executive.
- Daniel Kahneman, professor emeritus of psychology and public affairs at Princeton University.
- Michel de Montaigne, 16th-century French philosopher.
- Barbara Tversky, professor emerita of psychology at Stanford University and professor of psychology and education at Teachers College, Columbia University.