Perfections vs Excellence

Self help culture is modelled after this sort of binary machine like perfection and its structive it will never actually succeed, because you can't. But i think one of the profound shifts that's happened as the self help culture has gained momentum is that we've also gotten into this self perfection, optimization engine way of existing. It will make us strive towards perfection instead of excellence. And it will make us feel like failures, make us do all the less helpful things, you know. We need to get out of our own heads a bit more than just saying 'I'm not good enough' or 'I don't want to be perfect so I'll try harder'. That doesn't work.