Simplify to Clarify: The Accordion Method

We’ve all been to parties where we meet people at the centre of the room, oozing charisma and confidence, and we think they must be born with it. But I’m beginning to discover that social confidence can be practice and learned - it’s not just something you have or you don’t. Today’s guest has a personal story that illustrates this really well. Aliénor Hunter is a professional public speaking coach with Ultraspeaking, a company that helps people speak confidently, spontaneously and conversationally in 30 days. But - she used to be too nervous to even phone the hairdressers or speak to cashiers at the grocery store. In this episode, we’re going to talk through Aliénor's journey, and give you some clear, effective, and actionable steps to improve your confidence and to feel less anxious in social situations, when you’re giving a work presentation or meeting someone for the first time. If we have the tools to manage our social anxiety we’ll also be better at putting ourselves out there and looking for opportunities that might change the course of our lives. We’re going to talk about public speaking, and even play a few of Ultraspeaking’s confidence building games, so you can see that there’s a path towards getting the most out of life through levelling up your mindset.

Sponsored by Huel - go to https://www.huel.com/deepdive and with your first order you’ll get a free t-shirt and shaker.

Sponsored by Kajabi - go to https://www.kajabi.com/ali to get FREE access to the keynote.

Sponsored by Trading 212 - download the Trading 212 app https://trading212.com/promocodes/ALI and use the promo code "ALI" after signing up and depositing to receive a random free share worth up to £100. This is not financial advice. Investments can fall and rise. Past performance is no guarantee of future results. Other fees may apply*. Capital is at risk.

📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity!
Amazon
Website

Season 7 Episode 10
(00:00) Intro
(02:20) Aliénor's backstory
(04:13) The difference between social anxiety and shyness
(08:47) Is shyness bad?
(14:42) Aliénor's journey to becoming confident 
(24:27) Breaking down limiting beliefs
(32:54) The unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves
(36:41) The impact of ultraspeaking
(42:40) Change your perspective on speaking
(50:25) The importance of conviction
(59:09) How Aliénor became a speaking coach
(1:05:21) Habit One: Musicality
(1:06:56) Habit Two: One thing
(1:12:42) Habit Three: Recovery
(1:17:06) Habit Four: Silence
(1:20:24) Habit Five: Self-talk
(1:24:04) How to start a conversation
(1:29:53) Getting over the fear of judgement
(1:32:01) Boosting your self-esteem
(1:36:33) Finding joy in speaking
(1:40:55) Ultraspeaking games
(1:51:17) Final words of wisdom

🔗 CONNECT WITH ALIÉNOR 
👥 Linkedin
💻 Website

🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI
📲 Join My Telegram Community
🎥 YouTube Channel
🐦 Twitter
📸 Instagram
💻 Website
👥 Linkedin

📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED
Leading Psychologist: How To Finally Overcome Stress & Anxiety - Dr Julie Smith

🎙 ABOUT THE PODCAST

Deep Dive is the podcast that delves into the minds of entrepreneurs, creators and other inspiring people to uncover the philosophies, strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives.

Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor

If you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏

Check out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.

See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacy