Transitioning from being told to do things to being taught to do things transformed the speaker's career overnight. The shift from one platoon to another was perceived as a significant achievement, symbolizing a positive change in responsibilities. The speaker emphasizes the importance of treating individuals as leaders to encourage them to step up. Building relationships based on trust, listening, respect, influence, and care is crucial in fostering leadership qualities. Providing opportunities and acknowledging trust in subordinates can empower them to demonstrate leadership capabilities and professionalism.