#404 - Adam Lane Smith - 13 More Harsh Psychology Truths
Modern Wisdom
Do You Have a Relationship With Your Kids?
The key insight is that in a marriage with kids, issues often arise not from the woman's relationship with the father, but from the father's relationship with the children. If a man wants to improve his relationship with his partner, he must first focus on building strong and positive relationships with his kids. When a man nurtures strong connections with his children, it often leads to an improvement in the overall relationship with his partner. By being actively involved and fostering a positive environment with the kids, the man increases his likability in the eyes of his partner as she witnesses happy interactions within the family. This approach, rooted in evolutionary psychology, triggers the release of bonding chemicals in the woman's brain when she sees the man's positive involvement with the kids, ultimately making the relationship smoother. Conversely, a distant or strained relationship with the kids can make the marriage challenging, as it increases tension and anxiety within the family dynamics.
