Assess Before You Feel

Understanding the sequence of emotions can drastically improve parental responses in challenging situations. It starts with assessing the situation before emotions escalate. Richard Lazarus highlighted that before a reaction, individuals often subconsciously evaluate an impending scenario, determining how to approach it. Emotions do not arise in a vacuum; instead, they follow an assessment process where one appraises the circumstances. Recognizing subtle physical cues from children can aid in this assessment. By actively engaging with the environment, such as connecting with teachers or injecting humor, parents can modify the situation, reducing anxiety and promoting a supportive atmosphere. This proactive approach fosters relatability and connection, influencing both emotional responses and actions in a positive direction.