I think the most important thing for people to do when they're thinking through traditions is first just acknowledge what is a tradition, what's not, right? What have I absorbed through my society or my family or my friends that I haven't consciously developed a thought on my own. And without taking them with a critical eye and observing whether they as we've talked about really are the optimal case for us today. It becomes hard to identify, okay, am I actually okay with being this deeply rooted and just accepting this tradition? Or do I want to migrate away from it? The hard part about this topic in particular for me is that yes, you made it clear. monogamy often doesn't