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How embracing emotions will accelerate your career | Joe Hudson (executive coach, Art of Accomplishment)

Lenny's Podcast: Product | Growth | Career

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The Importance of Want vs Should

The distinction between 'want' and 'should' significantly impacts personal growth and self-awareness. 'Wants' reflect our natural evolutionary path, guiding us towards fulfilling connections, meaningful experiences, and aspirations like nurturing relationships, intimacy, and building supportive businesses. In contrast, operating from a place of 'should' often leads to a perception of being broken or inadequate, thus hindering progress. This mindset fosters a cycle of self-improvement based on external validation, which is often unachievable, ultimately trapping individuals in a harmful loop of self-criticism. Emphasizing self-discovery and self-exploration instead of improvement encourages a healthier engagement with our desires, allowing individuals to focus on intrinsic motivations rather than on a list of obligations that breed guilt and unfulfilled expectations. Recognizing that fulfillment is not contingent upon meeting arbitrary goals can liberate individuals from the need for external affirmation, promoting a more constructive approach to personal evolution.

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