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Wendy Behary specializes in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. With 25+ years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals, and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. She is also a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy. Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy and also served as their Training and Certification Coordinator. She currently serves as the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee. Wendy has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an internationally bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist,” which has been translated into 15 languages. She also has a private practice primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. We chat about...  What inspired Wendy to work with narcissists What narcissism looks like How narcissism presents in men and women What it looks like to grow up with a narcissistic parent How to know you’re in a relationship with a narcissist Whether or not narcissists ever feel bad for their behavior How to have a conversation with a narcissist who always thinks everything is your fault Why you might be triggered by a narcissist The importance of being the narrator of your experience when speaking with a narcissist Why no one is immune to finding themself caught in the spell of a narcissist One of the hardest issues for people coming out of a relationship with a narcissist Hypersexual narcissism and what it looks like Co-parenting with a narcissist How do you cope if you have a narcissist in your life Whether or not narcissism can be successfully treated What Wendy would say to a therapist who’s struggling with a narcissistic client   COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES: https://courageouslyu.com/wendy-behary/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/

Twenty-two years on a psych med! What?! Join me inside an all-new Closet Conversations where I process how one Instagram post left me feeling overwhelmed with emotion. I also discuss my intentions with speaking against the mental health model. At the end of the day, I just want you to be informed, my friend. If you love today's episode, I hope you’ll consider following the podcast and giving it a written review, and checking in with me on Instagram. Have a great listen, my friend!

David Healy is a psychiatrist, scientist, psychopharmacologist, and author. Before becoming a professor of Psychiatry in Wales, and more recently in the Department of Family Medicine at McMaster University in Canada, he studied medicine in Dublin, and at Cambridge University.  He is a former Secretary of the British Association for Psychopharmacology and has authored more than 220 peer-reviewed articles and 25 books, including The Antidepressant Era, The Creation of Psychopharmacology, Let Them Eat Prozac, Mania, and Pharmageddon.  David’s main areas of research are clinical trials in psychopharmacology, the history of psychopharmacology, and the impact of both trials and psychotropic drugs on our culture.  David has been involved as an expert witness in homicide and suicide trials involving psychotropic drugs, and in bringing problems with these drugs to the attention of American and European regulators, as well as raising awareness of how pharmaceutical companies sell drugs by marketing diseases and co-opting academic opinion-leaders, ghost-writing their articles. And that’s not all. David is also a founder and CEO of Data Based Medicine Limited, which operates through its website RxISK.org, dedicated to making medicines safer through online direct patient reporting of drug side effects.  We chat about...  Ghostwriting in scientific research Why his job is knowing when not to prescribe medications How little is known about SSRI’s and what they do Why the negative side of medications needs to be recognized too The impact of taking SSRI’s while pregnant Why people are failing to see that psych meds can be both good and bad How psychiatric medications affect the brain and ability to make love Where doctors are going wrong with prescribing David's thoughts on the chemical imbalance theory How SSRI’s are not correcting anything How medications have become sacramental Why doctors need to wake up to the problems pills are causing ____________________________ Ready to find freedom from your anxiety? CLICK HERE to download your freebie today! ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES: https://courageouslyu.com/david-healy/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/

Aimee Raupp is a renowned women’s health & fertility expert, celebrity acupuncturist, and coach. She’s also the best-selling author of the books Chill Out & Get Healthy, Yes, You Can Get Pregnant, Body Belief, and The Egg Quality Diet: A clinically proven 100-day fertility diet to balance hormones, reduce inflammation, improve egg quality & optimize your ability to get & stay pregnant. Aimee works virtually with clients all over the world. She’s also a licensed acupuncturist and herbalist in private practice in New York and Connecticut. Aimee holds a Master of Science degree in Traditional Oriental Medicine from the Pacific College of Oriental Medicine and a Bachelor’s degree in biology from Rutgers University. She is also the founder of the Aimee Raupp Beauty line of hand-crafted, organic skincare products that are optimized for hormone harmony.  We chat about...  Aimee's thoughts on why so many women struggle to get pregnant The two most common reasons for fertility challenges  The difference between how Western medicine and Chinese medicine approach fertility The role emotional inflammation plays in fertility  How to feel like you're still living while also amplifying health and fertility  The four phases of the Egg Quality Diet How long it takes for the body to reset itself   Why you need to stop giving your power away when it comes to healing your health  The number one thing we need for fertility  Why you need to stop using the word infertility  The importance of exploring the emotional "why" behind why you want a baby  Why you want a warm uterus as opposed to a cold one  The power of connecting to the spirit of the child before they come through  Why you have every right to grieve the fact that your life didn’t work out exactly how you thought it would ____________________________ I want to be your coach! Click here if you're tired of living with anxiety and you're ready to find freedom for your symptoms.  ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES: https://courageouslyu.com/aimee-raupp/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/

If you grew up with an emotionally immature parent, you may still struggle with anger, sadness, self-doubt, or shame. As a child it’s likely most of your emotional needs weren’t met, your feelings dismissed, and you took on adult levels of self-restraint to deal with your parent's behavior. Somewhere along the way, you lost your sense of self. And without this strong sense of self, you may now feel like your own well-being isn’t valuable. Today Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins us on the show to tell you that it’s time to make yourself a priority. Lindsay has been a psychotherapist for over thirty years, working in both public and private practice. In the past, she has served as an adjunct assistant professor in Clinical Psychology, teaching doctoral students clinical theory and psychotherapeutic techniques. We chat about...  The three parts of Lindsay’s book Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents  What an emotionally immature parent looks like Why self-care is crucial when raised by an emotionally immature parent  The importance of taking care of your needs in the moment  Why self-care is not selfish  Our favorite insights from the book  How to maintain connection with self  The power of nature  How social anxiety ignites from not being allowed to be yourself A relaxation technique to help calm your nervous system How lack of self-care leads to self-repair  ____________________________ I want to be your coach! Click here if you're tired of living with anxiety and you're ready to find freedom for your symptoms.  ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES: https://courageouslyu.com/self-care-3/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/   COURAGEOUSLY.U FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1416219115169393

David Carmichael made headlines when he was charged with first-degree murder in the death of his 11-year-old son, Ian.   On July 31, 2004, in a London, Canada hotel room, David crushed up sleeping pills, sedated his son, and strangled him. At the time of the murder, David was experiencing an adverse reaction to the prescription Paxil, which he had begun taking three weeks prior.  While others believed David was “getting better,” he was actually descending into a private chemically-induced hell of delusion. In his state of psychosis, David believed, that his healthy son, who had a mild form of epilepsy, was brain-damaged, dangerous, and needed to die. Out of love for his family, David believed it would be best for him to take Ian’s life and to sacrifice his own life by spending the next 25 years in prison.  Today David shares his story with us as a warning to know your drugs. We chat about...  The delusions that led to his son's death What went through David's mind as he watched tv following the murder  Why David accessed psychiatric medications The side effects David was experiencing while on Paxil Whether he was ever informed of possible side effects  Why he initially stopped taking Paxil What the trial process looked like Why it's important to not blindly trust doctors What David's mental health treatment looks like now When the psychosis lifted and he realized what he had done ____________________________ >>> RATE, REVIEW, AND FOLLOW THE COURAGEOUSLY.U PODCAST 

Dr. Ian Kerner likes to call himself the Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom and is one of the most recognizable voices in clinical sex therapy. He is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress.  He approaches psychotherapy from an integrative perspective, which seeks to explain human behavior by bringing together physiological, affective, cognitive-behavioral, neurobiological, and systemic approaches as they apply to the natural stages of human development and the wide range of human functioning.  Ian is also the New York Times best-selling author of numerous books, including She Comes First. His latest book, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex, is available now wherever you get your books. WE CHAT ABOUT... Why Ian calls himself the Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom Some common challenges couples face when it comes to their sex lives What a sex script is and how it can be useful The difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire How the brain responds to turn-ons and turn-offs What fantasy and mind based arousal look like The importance of making a ritual out of weekly sex Why you should be changing up your sex script to help with arousal What to do when you can’t shut your thoughts off during sex How to navigate through guilt and shame when you were raised in a sex-negative home What to do if sharing a fantasy, or role-play, feels uncomfortable What to do if there’s a mismatch in libido How fantasy and power play are a way of processing and resolving trauma, and that many find kink to be therapeutic Why labeling your partner as “sexless” or “sex addict” isn’t helpful How biological, psychological, sociological, and relational variables can negatively impact sexuality The homework assignments Ian would suggest if you wanted to change your sex script ____________________________ I’m excited to announce that I’m now taking clients for 1:1 anxiety coaching. To learn more and sign up, visit courageouslyu.com/coaching or send an email to hello@courageouslyu.com to join my client waitlist today!  ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES:  https://courageouslyu.com/ian-kerner/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/   COURAGEOUSLY.U FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1416219115169393

Russ Harris is a doctor, therapist, father, trainer of health professionals, and author of The Happiness Trap (plus eight other must-read books). He started his career as a newly-graduated doctor back in 1989 and soon discovered that most of his patients were expressing a significant degree of dissatisfaction in life. He was no stranger to their struggles as he was also experiencing something similar himself.  Even though he had a successful career with a dream job, good income, and high status, he was depressed, anxious, and overweight. He felt his life lacked a sense of meaning and purpose, and at times he was even suicidal. Struggling to understand why he felt this way, he set off on a journey to find out what makes people unhappy and what creates genuine and lasting happiness. After navigating down a lot of blind alleys and dead ends, he eventually discovered Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. It was love at first discovery. Through ACT, Russ learned how to enrich and enhance his life, and transform the way he dealt with painful thoughts and feelings. This marked a big change for him as he realized he was far more interested in helping his patients build richer more meaningful lives than he was in writing prescriptions for medical conditions. So he threw away his prescription pad and retrained as a therapist.  We chat about...  How Russ had all the external markers of success but internally he was miserable What Acceptance and Commitment therapy looks like How emotions are like the weather  What the natural state of human emotions looks like How antidepressants can be an attractive proposition for someone who feels miserable  What we should be aiming for when it comes to happiness Russ's inspiration for writing When Life Hits Hard The difference between grief, sadness, and depression  How you can use ACT to navigate grief, loss, and crisis  The importance of making room for emotions if you're going through acute grief  ____________________________ Click here to download your anxiety freebie today! ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES:  https://courageouslyu.com/russ-harris/   COURAGEOUSLY.U FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1416219115169393   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/

Dr. Colin Ross is an internationally renowned clinician, researcher, author, and lecturer in the field of dissociation, and trauma-related disorders. He is the founder and President of The Colin A. Ross Institute for Psychological Trauma. Colin completed medical school at the University of Alberta and his psychiatry training at the University of Manitoba. He is a Past President of the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation and is the author of over 250 papers and 35 books.  He has spoken widely throughout North America, Europe, China, Malaysia, Australia, and New Zealand.  We chat about...  What inspired Dr. Colin Ross to become a psychiatrist His thoughts on the lack of trauma training in schools What's wrong with the current mental health field The role trauma plays in the presentation of mental illness Colin's thoughts on the chemical imbalance theory Whether or not schizophrenia is a genetic brain disease Auditory and visual hallucinations and how they're related to trauma How different cultures view voices as either good or bad The role voices play in Dissociative Identity Disorder Dr. Colin Ross' thoughts on the core motive of why voices want a person dead What it means to dissociate  Colin's approach to healing trauma in a nutshell  Electrodes being implanted in the brain ____________________________ Tired of anxiety always being a part of your life? Click here to learn how to uncover your triggers and reclaim your power. ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES:  https://courageouslyu.com/colin-ross/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/   COURAGEOUSLY.U FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1416219115169393

Tracey Higgins joins us on the show today to share how she healed from schizophrenia after losing 19 years of her life to a condition that affects millions of people worldwide. At the age of nine, she was taken from her home where she became a ward of the state. Over the next 19 years, she moved around from hospitals, group homes, a juvenile center, and the streets. In her late twenties, Tracey found the courage to leave her schizophrenic world to help a child who was being sexually abused by her father; she discovered at the same time she too had been sexually abused as a child. That triggered off the healing process from her own dark world that robbed her of her dignity and basic human rights. When describing schizophrenia, Tracey calls it a waking nightmare. Coming out of it is a true awakening of oneself—becoming weller than well, a new version of self.  It has been said that schizophrenia is an incurable brain disease, but is it? Tracey says no. She believes it’s a survival mechanism brought on by disturbing or traumatic circumstances.  Today Tracey is here to tell you that schizophrenia doesn’t have to be a life sentence. While some mental health professionals called her hopeless, she went to college, worked in Government, and owned and operated a popular restaurant. We chat about...  Where Tracey's mental health journey began What her symptoms looked like  Why she calls her symptoms "reactions" What life looked like living with paranoid schizophrenia  How she suffered from trauma amnesia  What it was like to have the memories of abuse flood back  How she navigated living with schizophrenia without medications What it was like to be a ward of the state Tracey's thoughts on what is wrong with our current mental health system Why Tracey's against the brain disease theory  What she believes treatment should look like for people who live with schizophrenia Tracey's thoughts on what she believes leads to schizophrenia What she feels would have helped her back in the day Tracey's struggle with suicidal ideations  What her mental health looks like today   ____________________________ Click here to leave The Courageously.u Podcast a written review and rating. ____________________________ COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES:  https://courageouslyu.com/tracey-higgins/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/   COURAGEOUSLY.U FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1416219115169393