

Relationship Renovation: Marriage Advice, Intimacy & Couples Communication
EJ and Tarah Kerwin
Stronger relationships start here. The Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosted by licensed therapists and partners Tarah & E.J. Kerwin, gives couples the tools to improve communication, rebuild trust, and create lasting intimacy.Tarah and EJ share practical strategies, real-life stories, and therapist-guided insights to help you break negative cycles and deepen your connection.Each week you’ll learn how to:Practice couples therapy skills at homeStop fighting and start communicatingRebuild trust after conflict or distanceStrengthen both emotional and physical intimacyHear real couples share struggles and breakthroughsWith over 20,000 monthly downloads, Relationship Renovation is trusted worldwide by couples who want advice that is expert, relatable, and actionable.Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this podcast is your roadmap to transform conflict into connection.Subscribe today—and start building the relationship you’ve been hoping for.
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Jul 4, 2025 • 48min
232 - High School Sweethearts Reunited: How Dave and Suzanne Built an Unbreakable Bond
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizHosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome Dave and Suzanne to share their extraordinary journey of growth, heartbreak, and reconnection. From meeting as high school sweethearts, a painful breakup, and over 30 years apart in unfulfilling relationships, Dave and Suzanne reveal how fate—and Facebook—brought them back together. Listeners will discover how their commitment to personal healing and working with a proven relationship model helped them nurture a partnership grounded in trust, honesty, and true emotional safety.This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking hope and practical tools for transforming their own love story. Dave and Suzanne's willingness to be vulnerable, seek guidance even when "happy," and prioritize their partnership offers a roadmap for listeners to foster deeper emotional intimacy. Hear how they developed rituals that keep them connected daily, navigated major life transitions together, and became role models for secure, thriving relationships. Whether you’re at a crossroads in your relationship or looking for inspiration, Episode 232 delivers both heartfelt storytelling and actionable insights to help you build a stronger, more fulfilling connection.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jun 27, 2025 • 31min
231 - Navigating ADHD in Relationships: Compassion, Connection, and Understanding
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome special guest Alex Romo, LMSW and therapist, to dive deep into the lived experience of ADHD within relationships. Drawing from both his professional expertise and personal journey with adult ADHD diagnosis, Alex sheds light on how neurodivergence shapes communication, emotional intimacy, self-esteem, and day-to-day interactions between partners. The conversation thoughtfully unpacks misconceptions about ADHD as a “character flaw,” instead reframing it as a neurological difference that deserves curiosity and compassion from both partners.Whether you’re newly navigating an ADHD diagnosis, suspect your relationship is impacted by undiagnosed ADHD, or simply want to foster greater empathy and understanding, this episode offers relatable stories, practical advice, and powerful encouragement. Discover how both partners can move from judgment to acceptance, create supportive systems together, and find empowerment in their unique strengths. Listen now to find out how ADHD can be a source of connection, growth, and deeper intimacy—not just frustration—in your relationship!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jun 20, 2025 • 35min
230 - Understanding Attachment Styles: The Key to Better Sex and Deeper Connection
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this powerful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin unpack the fascinating connection between attachment styles developed in childhood and the complexities of adult intimacy. Drawing on real-life examples—as well as their own personal journeys—they demystify the challenges so many couples face in the bedroom and beyond. From anxious and avoidant dynamics to the lasting impact of family messages around sex, pleasure, and boundaries, EJ and Tarah provide valuable insight, practical guidance, and hope that lasting change is possible.Whether you’re struggling to express your needs, longing for deeper emotional connection, or simply curious how your past might be affecting your relationship today, this episode is packed with psychoeducation, self-reflection questions, and encouragement. Don’t miss the expert tips, relatable stories, and actionable strategies to help you and your partner create more freedom, safety, and satisfaction in your intimacy. Tune in now and take your next step toward a healthier, more connected partnership!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jun 13, 2025 • 51min
229 - Navigating Intimacy, Parenting, and Partnership: Insights From Leanne and Aaron
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this candid and heartfelt episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome their first-ever couple to the hot seat: Leanne and Aaron. From their acro yoga-inspired first encounter in a Tucson park to twelve years of marriage, Leanne and Aaron open up about the real systems and intentional practices that keep their relationship thriving. Dive deep into their journey as they share how open communication, weekly check-ins, and constant growth have helped them face everyday challenges together, including the highs and lows of intimacy, balancing autonomy with connection, and supporting each other’s growth as individuals and as partners.Whether you’re newly partnered or a seasoned couple, this episode offers relatable stories, actionable strategies, and refreshing honesty about what it takes to build a deeply connected relationship. Hear how Leanne and Aaron navigate parenting, work, and the ebbs and flows of intimacy by staying committed to full transparency, forgiveness, and structured support. If you’re looking to strengthen your bond, move past avoidance, or simply find reassurance that you’re not alone in the struggles of love, this episode delivers both inspiration and real-life tools you won't want to miss. Listen now to discover practical ways to create your Relationship Renovation!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jun 6, 2025 • 34min
228 - Reclaiming Connection: Small Steps to Strengthen Relationships Despite a Hectic Life
Are you feeling more like roommates than lovers? Discover how busy lives can diminish intimacy and turn partners into teammates. Gain practical strategies to reclaim connection, including daily emotional check-ins and setting tech boundaries. The hosts dive deep into the hidden costs of neglecting relationships, emphasizing small, intentional gestures to nurture emotional intimacy. Learn how to reassess your commitments and prioritize meaningful interactions to foster a healthier connection, even amid life's chaos.

May 30, 2025 • 57min
227 - Brave Intimacy Adventures: Core Gifts and Deeper Sexual Connection
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizHow do our deepest vulnerabilities and fears relate to our "core gifts" in both emotional and sexual intimacy?What powerful questions can couples (or individuals) use to uncover and share their sexual core gifts with their partner?How can couples move from surface-level connection to deeper, more fulfilling intimacy using practical tools and rituals?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome back renowned psychotherapist and Deeper Dating podcast host Ken Page founder for an intimate Part II conversation on uncovering your sexual core gifts. Building on Ken's transformative framework for meaningful love, the trio dives even deeper, exploring the ways our most shameful or tender places hide our greatest capacity for connection, especially in the bedroom. With practical, heart-opening questions and real-world examples, you'll learn how to identify what truly makes you feel safe, moved, and excited during intimacy, and why discovering (and sharing) these core gifts can reignite your relationship on every level.Whether you’re single and seeking soulful love or in a long-term relationship eager to deepen your connection, this episode is packed with actionable insights, vulnerable stories, and even a step-by-step guide to the Tantra-inspired “Tantric Hug” ritual. Ken, Tarah, and EJ dismantle myths about sexual vulnerability and show how small, intentional practices can move you and your partner from disconnected routines to genuine, loving closeness. Tune in for inspiration, practical advice, and the emotional permission you need to claim the intimacy you truly deserve. Don’t miss this heart-centered roadmap to the core of your sexual and relational self!Learn more about Ken Page and the Deeper Dating PodcastSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

May 23, 2025 • 45min
226 - Discovering Core Gifts with Ken Page: Healing Intimacy and Deepening Connection
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment Quizpartners?What actionable steps can you take to identify, embrace, and communicate your core gifts to strengthen your relationship?In this powerful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with renowned psychotherapist, author, and Deeper Dating podcast host Ken Page to dig deep into the transformative concept of "core gifts." Ken shares his personal journey from feeling chronically single and disconnected to discovering how our most tender, sensitive, and sometimes shame-covered traits hold the key to authentic intimacy. Through heartfelt storytelling and practical insights, you'll learn how embracing your unique vulnerabilities can not only heal past wounds but also spark a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.Whether you're looking to rekindle joy, break down emotional walls, or simply understand yourself better, this episode offers a roadmap for nurturing both self-compassion and true partnership. Ken reveals a simple but profound framework for identifying your core gifts, shifting the way you view your insecurities, and gently guiding your partner to do the same. Tune in to discover actionable tools and a compassionate mindset that will empower you to transform your relationship—and perhaps even your life—by honoring the most authentic parts of yourself. If you want a relationship filled with emotional safety, deeper trust, and revitalized intimacy, you won’t want to miss this episode!Learn more about Ken Page and the Deeper Dating PodcastSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

May 16, 2025 • 37min
225 - Five Relationship Mistakes Couples Make and How to Avoid Them
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin break down the five biggest mistakes couples make—and, more importantly, how to overcome them. From lack of communication and emotional avoidance to taking each other for granted, unresolved conflict, neglecting intimacy, and not growing together, this episode is packed with relatable stories, expert insights, and practical solutions. EJ and Tarah share their personal experiences and proven strategies on transforming everyday challenges into opportunities for deepening connection and trust in your relationship.Whether you’re looking to enhance communication, resolve lingering resentments, or rediscover intimacy, this episode will inspire and equip you with actionable tools. Plus, find out how their “Relationship Renovation at Home” program can help you and your partner create weekly habits for more meaningful conversations and emotional closeness. Tune in and start making small changes that add up to the awesome relationship you deserve!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

May 9, 2025 • 38min
224 - Transforming Relationships Through the Enneagram with Christa Hardin
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with Christa Hardin, renowned therapist, author, and founder of Enneagram and Marriage. Christa dives deep into the power of the Enneagram as a tool for couples’ growth—unpacking how knowing your type, and your partner’s, doesn’t just explain your quirks but opens the door to more compassion, stronger communication, and real healing. Whether you’re new to the Enneagram or already a type enthusiast, Christa shares actionable insights, intriguing stories from the therapy room, and relatable examples of how the Enneagram fast-tracks understanding and connection.Listeners will walk away with a clear overview of all nine Enneagram types, practical first steps to begin their own Enneagram journey, and surprising tips for applying these insights in everyday life and even in the bedroom! Christa’s approach is warm, research-based, and refreshingly down-to-earth, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking fresh hope and new tools for a thriving partnership. If you’re ready for more connection, less conflict, and a better understanding of both yourself and your partner, hit play on this episode—you’ll want to share it with every couple you know!Enneagram and MarriageSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

May 2, 2025 • 34min
223 - Code Word: Transform Your Arguments With This Simple Relationship Tool
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizTarah and EJ Kerwin take you deep into the transformative power of the “code word” system—a real-world tool that has enhanced their marriage and countless others. Discover how couples can use a simple, playful word to hit the pause button before arguments spiral out of control. The hosts share step-by-step guidance on identifying when you’re outside your window of tolerance, negotiating how long to separate, and what to do during your break so you return to the conversation more grounded and connected. Plus, they address the science behind emotional dysregulation, practical tips for using code words with kids around, and the importance of healthy reconnection after conflict.Loaded with relatable stories, actionable exercises, and heartfelt encouragement, this episode will motivate you to create new, healthier patterns in your relationship, whether you’re struggling with frequent arguments or just want more emotional safety and intimacy. Ready to learn the code word approach that Tarah and EJ have used for nearly a decade? Tune in and start transforming the way you and your partner handle conflict. You’ll walk away with a concrete, science-backed system for building a stronger, more connected partnership—and maybe even some new ideas for your personalized code word!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands


