

Relationship Renovation: Marriage Advice, Intimacy & Couples Communication
EJ and Tarah Kerwin
Stronger relationships start here. The Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosted by licensed therapists and partners Tarah & E.J. Kerwin, gives couples the tools to improve communication, rebuild trust, and create lasting intimacy.Tarah and EJ share practical strategies, real-life stories, and therapist-guided insights to help you break negative cycles and deepen your connection.Each week you’ll learn how to:Practice couples therapy skills at homeStop fighting and start communicatingRebuild trust after conflict or distanceStrengthen both emotional and physical intimacyHear real couples share struggles and breakthroughsWith over 20,000 monthly downloads, Relationship Renovation is trusted worldwide by couples who want advice that is expert, relatable, and actionable.Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this podcast is your roadmap to transform conflict into connection.Subscribe today—and start building the relationship you’ve been hoping for.
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May 16, 2025 • 37min
225 - Five Relationship Mistakes Couples Make and How to Avoid Them
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin break down the five biggest mistakes couples make—and, more importantly, how to overcome them. From lack of communication and emotional avoidance to taking each other for granted, unresolved conflict, neglecting intimacy, and not growing together, this episode is packed with relatable stories, expert insights, and practical solutions. EJ and Tarah share their personal experiences and proven strategies on transforming everyday challenges into opportunities for deepening connection and trust in your relationship.Whether you’re looking to enhance communication, resolve lingering resentments, or rediscover intimacy, this episode will inspire and equip you with actionable tools. Plus, find out how their “Relationship Renovation at Home” program can help you and your partner create weekly habits for more meaningful conversations and emotional closeness. Tune in and start making small changes that add up to the awesome relationship you deserve!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

May 9, 2025 • 38min
224 - Transforming Relationships Through the Enneagram with Christa Hardin
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with Christa Hardin, renowned therapist, author, and founder of Enneagram and Marriage. Christa dives deep into the power of the Enneagram as a tool for couples’ growth—unpacking how knowing your type, and your partner’s, doesn’t just explain your quirks but opens the door to more compassion, stronger communication, and real healing. Whether you’re new to the Enneagram or already a type enthusiast, Christa shares actionable insights, intriguing stories from the therapy room, and relatable examples of how the Enneagram fast-tracks understanding and connection.Listeners will walk away with a clear overview of all nine Enneagram types, practical first steps to begin their own Enneagram journey, and surprising tips for applying these insights in everyday life and even in the bedroom! Christa’s approach is warm, research-based, and refreshingly down-to-earth, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking fresh hope and new tools for a thriving partnership. If you’re ready for more connection, less conflict, and a better understanding of both yourself and your partner, hit play on this episode—you’ll want to share it with every couple you know!Enneagram and MarriageSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

May 2, 2025 • 34min
223 - Code Word: Transform Your Arguments With This Simple Relationship Tool
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizTarah and EJ Kerwin take you deep into the transformative power of the “code word” system—a real-world tool that has enhanced their marriage and countless others. Discover how couples can use a simple, playful word to hit the pause button before arguments spiral out of control. The hosts share step-by-step guidance on identifying when you’re outside your window of tolerance, negotiating how long to separate, and what to do during your break so you return to the conversation more grounded and connected. Plus, they address the science behind emotional dysregulation, practical tips for using code words with kids around, and the importance of healthy reconnection after conflict.Loaded with relatable stories, actionable exercises, and heartfelt encouragement, this episode will motivate you to create new, healthier patterns in your relationship, whether you’re struggling with frequent arguments or just want more emotional safety and intimacy. Ready to learn the code word approach that Tarah and EJ have used for nearly a decade? Tune in and start transforming the way you and your partner handle conflict. You’ll walk away with a concrete, science-backed system for building a stronger, more connected partnership—and maybe even some new ideas for your personalized code word!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Apr 25, 2025 • 34min
222 - Emotional Affairs Unveiled: Boundaries, Transparency, and Steps for Recovery
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this honest and insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin dive deep into the complicated world of emotional affairs. Drawing directly from their extensive experience working with couples and real-life questions, they tackle the common dilemma of defining emotional infidelity versus friendship and shed light on the subtle boundaries that can get blurred. The hosts break down key signs of emotional affairs, including secrecy, emotional intensity, and prioritizing another person over your partner. They also discuss why emotional affairs can feel just as damaging—if not more—than physical ones, and why so many people unknowingly slip into these situations.If you’re seeking practical guidance to strengthen your relationship, this episode offers actionable strategies to address unmet needs, create emotional safety, and establish healthy boundaries. EJ and Tarah share hope-filled insights, including statistics on recovery and tips on building stronger emotional connections with your partner. Whether you’re concerned that an emotional affair may be happening, experiencing it firsthand, or want tools for prevention, this episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to build trust and intimacy in their relationship. Don’t miss out on this essential guide to understanding and healing from emotional affairs—tune in now!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Apr 18, 2025 • 44min
221 - Building Healthier Relationships Through Personalized Physical Wellness with Wits & Weights' Philip Pape
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this compelling episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin welcome Philip Pape from the acclaimed Wits & Weights podcast for an insightful and motivating conversation. Philip shares his unique, data-driven approach to strength training and nutrition, emphasizing the power of flexibility over rigid, one-size-fits-all rules. Together, they explore how embracing customized wellness strategies can foster lasting confidence, both as individuals and within couples. From overcoming obstacles and judgment to building sustainable habits, the discussion is full of practical tips and real-life stories that will inspire you to rethink your own health journey.Whether you're tackling fitness alone or trying to get in sync as a couple, this episode is packed with actionable advice you can use right away. Discover how redefining success, encouraging choice, and focusing on daily "micro-wins" can help you and your partner become stronger—physically, mentally, and emotionally. If you're ready for a realistic, empowering perspective on health and relationships, this episode is your perfect starting point! Don’t miss Phillip’s insights and new ways to pursue wellness together.Philip Pape - Wits & WeightsWits & Weights PodcastWits & Weights InstagramSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Apr 11, 2025 • 34min
220 - Reversing Intimacy Anxiety: Strategies for Couples to Reconnect
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizDive deep into the intricacies of intimacy anxiety with EJ and Tarah Kerwin in this enlightening episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast. Discover what intimacy anxiety truly means and how it could be silently influencing your relationship. EJ and Tarah break down the common symptoms and root causes—that range from past traumas to mismatched libidos. Whether it’s a feeling of unease during date night or avoiding your partner’s advances, uncover the subtle signals that indicate intimacy anxiety might be present in your relationship.As the episode unfolds, EJ and Tarah provide listeners with practical tools to combat intimacy anxiety and foster deeper emotional and physical connections. They emphasize the significance of timing, setting, and mutual understanding when addressing sensitive topics with your partner. Equip yourself with the knowledge to identify and manage intimacy anxiety, and take the first steps towards nurturing a more connected and harmonious relationship. Tune in to unlock the potential of vulnerability and communication as paths to an enriched partnership.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Apr 4, 2025 • 42min
219 - Simplifying Parenting & Strengthening Relationships with Susie Pettit
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this eye-opening episode of Relationship Renovation, Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with parenting expert Susie Pettit for an enlightening discussion about simplifying parenting while nurturing healthy relationships. Susie, a certified life, relationship, and parenting coach, demystifies the complexities of raising teens in the digital age by emphasizing the power of boundaries, emotional intelligence, and parental role shifts as children grow. With her unique background as a mother of five and host of the global podcast, the Love Your Life Show, Susie brings a refreshing perspective that's both actionable and reassuring for parents navigating the challenging waters of teenage and young adult years.Listeners will be inspired by Susie's practical advice on adopting a "popcorn parenting" mindset, encouraging a balance of loving detachment and empathy. Her innovative approach allows parents to see parenting as a rewarding journey rather than an overwhelming task, providing listeners with tools to foster resilience and independence in their children. Tune in to learn how to transform your parenting style and strengthen your relationship with your partner, empowering your family to thrive. Don't miss this opportunity to rethink and renovate how you approach parenting and relationships!Susie Petitt - Life and Wellness CoachLove Your Life Show: Personal Growth, Mindset, + Habits for Busy Moms PODCASTSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Mar 28, 2025 • 28min
218 - Couples Therapy Myths That Could Be Sabotaging Your Relationship
Dive into the myths that often hold couples back from seeking therapy. Common misconceptions about couples counseling are debunked, revealing its true transformative potential. Statistics highlight how therapy can lead to improved relationships and emotional health. Experience the structured approach that fosters deeper connections and better communication skills. Explore how therapy can also spark individual growth, leading to resilience and clarity. Embrace the journey of meaningful change together!

Mar 21, 2025 • 36min
217 - Rediscover Your Authentic Self: Mindfulness for Deeper Connection & Joy with Kelly Smith
Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizIn this deeply insightful episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome back mindfulness expert Kelly Smith, founder of Yoga for You for an enriching conversation. As a podcaster, author, and mindfulness coach, Kelly shares inspiring tools and practices to help listeners reconnect with their true selves. With a particular focus on how mindfulness, like Yoga nidra, can transform your inner world and soften your emotional edges, Kelly reveals the potential for couples to gain deeper connections. Tune in to discover how a regular mindfulness practice not only benefits your personal growth but also strengthens the bonds with your partner, creating a harmonious relationship that thrives even amidst life's pressures.Join us as we explore practical steps to incorporate mindfulness into your daily routine, and learn why even just a few minutes each day can have profound effects. Find out how these practices can make you more productive, reduce stress, and pave the way for a joyful, authentic life with your partner. Don't miss out on these actionable insights and start your journey towards a happier, more connected life today!Meet Kelly - Yoga for YouSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Mar 14, 2025 • 32min
216 - Breaking Free from Criticism and Defensiveness in Relationships
Explore ways to break free from the blame game in relationships. Learn how vulnerability and open communication can strengthen your bond. Discover the impact of criticism and defensiveness on trust and emotional safety. Hear personal anecdotes highlighting the ease of slipping into negative patterns. Equip yourself with actionable strategies to transform conflicts into opportunities for deeper understanding. Understand the significance of empathy and proactive communication for healthier connections.


