

What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood | Parenting Tips From Funny Moms
Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson
When you're a parent, every day brings a "fresh hell" to deal with. In other words, there's always something. Think of us as your funny mom friends who are here to remind you: you're not alone, and it won't always be this hard.We're Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables, both busy moms of three kids, but with completely different parenting styles. Margaret is a laid-back to the max; Amy never met a spreadsheet or an organizational system she didn't like.In each episode of "What Fresh Hell" we offer lots of laughs, but also practical advice, parenting strategies, and tips to empower you in your role as a mom. We explore self-help techniques, as well as ways to prioritize your own needs, combat stress, and despite the invisible workload we all deal with, find joy amidst the chaos of motherhood.If you've ever wondered "why is my kid..." then one of us has probably been there, and we're here to tell you what we've learned along the way.We unpack the behaviors and developmental stages of toddlers, tweens, and teenagers, providing insights into their actions and equipping you with effective parenting strategies.We offer our best parenting tips and skills we've learned. We debate the techniques and studies that are everywhere for parents these days, and get to the bottom of what works best to raise happy, healthy, fairly well-behaved kids, while fostering a positive parent-child relationship.If you're the default parent in your household, whether you're a busy mom juggling multiple pickups and dropoffs, or a first-time parent seeking guidance, this podcast is your trusted resource. Join our community of supportive mom friends laughing in the face of motherhood! whatfreshhellpodcast.com
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Jul 1, 2024 • 6min
Ask Amy: I've Already Got the End-of-Summer Scaries
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourWhy is it that summer never seems to be the picture-perfect, sun-washed experience we want for our kids? Amy helps a listener ditch her mom guilt over not providing her kids with the "perfect" summer."I have the end of summer scaries. Or end of summer mom guilt. I feel so bummed that I have spent most of the summer in survival mode instead of really enjoying it with my children. I probably have seen way too many of those "you only get 18 summers" posts. My oldest starts first grade in two weeks and I feel like I completely failed. I wish we had spent more time swimming, riding bikes, all of that quintessential summer stuff. Instead, I feel like I've spent most of it breaking up fights with his 4 year old brother, keeping the 18 month old from injuring himself, and saying "no" to every request. I'm notoriously hard on myself so I probably just need a reality check. Does anyone else feel this way?"It's totally normal to feel like the summer is a more difficult time of year, especially with three little kids to entertain, Amy explains. There are more hours of daylight and more unstructured time.And, by the way, your kids don't vaporize once they turn 18, and if they're away at college, summer is when you WILL see them, at least somewhat more than you did during the school year. Try to decouple yourself from the overwhelming "you only get 18 summers with your kids" messaging. It robs you of the ability to remain present THIS summer with your kids.So how do you try and be present with your kids without worrying about how many summers you have left in the bank? Start super small. Declare that it's "ice cream dinner" tonight or let the kids cover the driveway in chalk drawings. The "summer memories" we're supposed to be making are by definition lazy and unstructured. And those little things we may think are nothing special are probably what our kids will look back on most fondly.Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/whatfreshhellcastWe love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website:https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid’s behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, summer, vacation, summer vacation, summer activities, staycation, summer break Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jun 28, 2024 • 40min
Fresh Take: Mr. Chazz on Breaking Generational Patterns
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourHow can we be responsive, rather than reactive, when our child misbehaves? Chazz Lewis, host of the podcast Learning Curve with Mr. Chazz, explains practical steps for navigating our children's behavior issues with empathy and compassion, rather than judgement.Mr. Chazz is an educator, speaker, and activist. With over 1.5 million followers across social media, Mr. Chazz has helped countless parents and teachers navigate the challenges and triumphs of raising and teaching children.Margaret and Mr. Chazz discuss:
The one thing that can really help a child who comes from a troubled home
The five steps for a conscious-based parenting approach
Simple mantras to keep in mind for a healthy perspective on parenting
Here's where you can find Mr. Chazz:
mrchazz.com
@mrchazz on IG
@mrchazzmrchazz on TikTok, FB, and YT
Listen to Learning Curve with Mr. Chazz, an Adalyst Media podcast!
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Jun 26, 2024 • 47min
Sibling Rivalry
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourMost of us have either experienced—or refereed—sibling rivalry. So what do we do when our kids are constantly at each other's throats? Why do they fight constantly, and how do we get them to stop?In this episode, Margaret and Amy discuss:
How parents consciously and unconsciously contribute to sibling rivalry
How to know what's normal sibling rivalry and what's harmful bullying
When to step in and when to let your kids work it out themselves
Why treating your kids fairly is not the same as treating them equally
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Rob Quinn for Newser: This Bird Takes Sibling Rivalry to Extremes
Claire McCarthy for Harvard Health Publishing: Sibling rivalry is normal — but is it helpful or harmful?
Anahad O'Connor for the New York Times: When the Bully Is a Sibling
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Jun 24, 2024 • 43min
BEST OF: Would You Rather...? (Mom Edition)
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourParenting is a constant process of choosing the lesser evil. When it's stomach flu or Coxsackie, they're both bad, but when you're playing Would You Rather?, you've still got to pick one.In this episode, Amy and Margaret discuss:
What their kids' names REALLY are
Rat backpacks
The horror of perma-noisemakers
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Jun 21, 2024 • 30min
Fresh Take: Lucas Mann on Fatherhood
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourWhat does it mean to perform the role of "dad" in today's world? How do the ways the world perceives our children affect the ways we perceive ourselves?Lucas Mann is the author of ATTACHMENTS: ESSAYS ON FATHERHOOD AND OTHER PERFORMANCES, a collection of essays about parenting that The New Yorker just called "intense, poetic, and almost uncomfortably honest." In this interview, Lucas tells us about his experiences, how and why he writes, and what he's learned along the way.Here's where you can find Lucas Mann:
www.lucasmann.com
@lucaswmann on IG
@LucasWMann on X
Buy ATTACHMENTS: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781609389536
https://www.newyorker.com/books/under-review/should-we-expect-more-from-dads
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Jun 19, 2024 • 42min
Dumb Things We Thought When We Were Kids
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourAmy thought The Love Boat was filmed in real time, at sea. Margaret's grandfather had all the kids convinced his dining room light switch controlled the Tappan Zee Bridge. We asked our listeners for all the silliest things they fully believed as children, and in this episode, we highlight all of the absolute dumbest.We got all of these answers from our Facebook group! You can join in on the fun here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whatfreshhellcastWe love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website:https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid’s behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jun 17, 2024 • 45min
BEST OF: Toxic Positivity
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltour“God never gives you more than you can handle.” “Look on the bright side.” “It could be worse.” These are examples of toxic positivity. They're platitudes we’ve all heard and we all know are (to say the least) less than helpful.So why do people feel the need to put a good spin on things when disaster strikes, and how do we break out of that habit? We talk about our own experiences with toxic positivity, what we’ve learned from them, and what we’re still working on.In this episode, we discuss:
How overvaluing positives functions as a survival mechanism
Why toxic positivity actually makes us less happy
How to counter toxic positivity and how to stay graceful towards people who offer us outlooks we may not want or need
Here are links to some of the articles we discuss in this episode:
Brock Bastian and Ashley Humphrey for The Conversation: “How to avoid ‘toxic positivity’ and take the less direct route to happiness”
Allyson Chiu for The Washington Post : Time to ditch ‘toxic positivity,’ experts say: ‘It’s okay not to be okay’
Elizabeth Bernstein for The Wall Street Journal : Toxic Positivity Is Very Real, and Very Annoying
Links to other episodes that mention toxic positivity:
Fresh Take: Kate Bowler on the Truths We Need To Hear
Fresh Take: Taylor Harris on Motherhood, Genetics, and Facing the Unknown
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Jun 14, 2024 • 29min
Fresh Take: Ruth Whippman on What We Get Wrong About Raising Boys
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourHow do the stereotypes we harbor about raising boys harm them in the long term? Ruth Whipmann, author of BOYMOM: REIMAGINING BOYHOOD IN THE AGE OF IMPOSSIBLE MASCULINITY, discusses what most modern parenting advice misses when it comes to raising boys.Ruth, Margaret, and Amy discuss:
why so much parenting advice for boys has historically sidelined the role of mothers
the ways in which the emotional lives of boys are suppressed
how to be "annoying in service of the project" of changing the conversation in your own family
Here's where you can find Ruth:
https://www.ruthwhippman.com
@ruthwhippman on X and IG
Follow Ruth on Substack: https://substack.com/@ruthwhippman
Buy BOYMOM: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780593577639
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Jun 12, 2024 • 46min
When Your Kid is Being Bullied
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourMost of us hear “bullying” and picture a sand-kicking, lunch-money-stealing menace. But today’s bullying can take other forms. Research by Dr. Charisse Nixon shows that about 7% of kids report experiencing physical aggression once a week— but that HALF of kids report experiencing relational aggression at least once a month. On the other hand, as bullying expert Signe Whitson explains, some things get termed “bullying” that are more correctly described as mean or rude. Knowing the difference as parents will help our children navigate these waters more effectively. In this episode we discuss how to help our children understand what bullying is, plus how to know if our kids are being bullied themselves— since it’s the kids who are truly frightened and struggling who are often the most likely not to tell us. We also discuss whether, how much, and in what ways parents should intervene— somewhere in the middle ground between “so find new friends!” and beating the bully up yourself. (Spoiler alert: don’t do either of those things.) Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in this episode:
Katie Hurley for Washington Post On Parenting: "What does childhood anxiety look like? Probably not what you think."
Katie Hurley for PBS Kids: What to Do If Your Child Is Being Bullied
Sherri Gordon for Very Well Family: 7 Tips for Helping Kids Deal With Being Ostracized
Sumathi Reddy for WSJ: Little Children and Already Acting Mean
Signe Whitson for Huffington Post: Rude Vs. Mean Vs. Bullying: Defining The Differences
Louis Sachar: There's a Boy in the Girls' Bathroom
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Jun 10, 2024 • 45min
BEST OF: Uh Oh, It's Summer!
What Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can’t wait to go back on the road! https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltourHooray, summer is finally here! No more French quizzes or spirit days to dress for last minute! So now what? Million-dollar summer camps? Kicking our kids outside from sunup to sundown so they don't drive us crazy?Here's how to give everyone, including yourself, a sane summer that won't send you into bankruptcy.Margaret and Amy discuss:
Why summer light affects our mood
Summer camp inflation
Farmer's almanac predictions - here are the 2024 predictions
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Johns Hopkins School of Public Health: 7 Things To Know About Daylight Savings Time
Michele Marchetti & Mia Taylor for Parents: How To Handle the Rising Costs of Summer Camp
American Camp Association: How To Afford Camp
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