Wabi Sabi - The Perfectly Imperfect Podcast with Candice Kumai

In this episode we will focus on: Work- IRA- savings account-cold call-create -fire and re-hire-no victim mentality Finance- downsize-pay off cc - save 10% of each paycheck -invest  Relationships-breakup recovery - pets - nature- sleep -kintsugi- the art of golden repair -grace - it is a slow practice 

acknowledge it is normal to care what others think and we all seek approval of others + when you feel judged by others or say you have made up stories in your head about what others think of you -- ask yourself "Do I know this is 100% true?" if the answer is no -- which It probably is -- stop your own judgement of others -prevent + set boundaries with seeking out self-approval  from others-nobody at your level or above you will ever criticize you-put up boundaries for yourself -what happens within you is in your control - take ownership-go inward  vs outward -material things aren't important -find a group find friends that do not not focus on money, fame, beauty or followers- there are important things to value in this world like: those who volunteer, humility, gratitude, mindfulness +  self-love - and support -be honest and be real -- you'll have nothing to worry about + you won't give a shit what others thinksign up for my newsletter for more + to support my work on this free//no-ad podcast xx ck 

This special episode is a recording of a conversation on clubhouse from MONDAY, MARCH 22 with Ally Maki, Jamie Chung, Erin Lim, Shanina Shaik, Liv Golding,Kristina Rodulfo, Shadai McSween, Nadya Okamoto, Aya Kanai, and Candice Kumai.  In light of recent events, it is more important than ever to understand the challenges facing the Asian community and support through education, awareness, facts and how we create change, together.  In this episode we speak about supporting the AAPI community and stopping Asian hate. As well as our personal experiences facing racism and ways we have learned along the way. Listen to these media professionals open up about the challenges they have experienced. PLEASE follow each of these exceptional women and their work in media.  Below are more resources you can explore to help support and stop the violence. Donate to the cause: https://www.gofundme.com/c/act/stop-aapi-hate Learn more: https://stopaapihate.org Additional Resources: https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/story/2021-03-17/killing-six-asian-women-hate-crime-atlanta https://candicekumai.com/aapi-resources-how-to-support/ xxx ck 

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why business should be infinitely inspiring  + its a good time to start your dream business   1- there are multiple ways to start a biz: types: INC, S Corp, C Corp; each state has different paperwork     2- find someone: biz partner, lawyer or a mentor to help you to launch your Corp: check BizFilings.com and LegalZoom.com    3- share the same morals//values with your team and those who surround your business: love + support is vital to a healthy business. What do you stand for? What's your set of guidelines?   4- why - whats the why? the who? the how? the what?  here's mine for example:    I will leave a lasting legacy for my family + friends  I will live to create, inspire and empower other women + pave the way, pioneering doors for you.   5- save funding on your own: open: business bank accounts: checking and savings    6- hire: smarter, better, faster, much more talented individuals at their specific trade. Excellence matters most.    7- be flexi in a pandemic: be open to change. let the ebb and flow go in and out, let things go --    8- be someone you want to emulate one day, be someone everyone can respect.        9- be kind to everyone, even when it sucks, especially when it sucks.     10. make clean and clear decisions, its not personal, its business: read: Don Miguel Ruiz "The Four Agreements" for more intel on not taking things personal.    11- its not always about $$ - essentials are what matter: work on a legacy that can last a lifetime. Be proud of your legacy work: men and women respect women who are smart and have a solid foundation + a solid business that stands the test of time.    12- give back -- org non profit -- paying forward: this is important and its karma.    13 - feel good supported- love + support are essential, stay healthy while running a biz   14- you cant take the money to the grave: so share, invest in other women, give other women a chance -- invest, invest, invest, 

Dr. Andrew Weil:  Please follow and share the work of our friend and the leading pioneer in integrative medicine: Dr. Andrew Weil  https://www.drweil.com/ instagram.com/drweil https://integrativemedicine.arizona.edu/   Dr. Andrew Weil, originally from Pennsylvania, traveled at a young age, hopping to Japan at just 17 years old in 1959. He then received his undergraduate and medical degrees at Harvard University. An integral part of his life -- he lived to study other cultures with an open mind. He believes that connecting with other living beings is a beautiful way to heal, feel and mend. He has a vibrant +close connection to his three dogs and his family, he loves cooking with his daughter and he lives between Tucson, AZ and up north in Canada.  Andrew Weil noticed our stuffy medical system had some issues: --- physicians should be able to teach people how to live so they don’t get sick and if they do get sick – how to use the most natural least invasive treatments possible available to promote the body’s own healing abilities – integrative medicine. Prevention became key. His books continue to be my favorite source of relevant, useful and to the fucking point information we need, clear as ever and useful for generations to come.  A key aspect of integrative medicine is lifestyle medicine - what we can do to protect and advance the body’s healing abilities starts with nutrition. period. read that line again.  -Social media contributes to anxiety, anger, depression. Limit how much time you spend on social media to an hour or less a day.  -Limit time you spend on all devices.  -Regarding Covid: Take as many precautions as needed and please get tested, often. Wash hands, social distance, be mindful of others.      EASY STEPS TO HELP CARE FOR OTHERS IN THESE TIMES: -WEAR A MASK: Japanese cultural traditions say; wear a mask to respect and care for others; it is a courtesy to protect other people. -NO NEWS: Limit your intake of social media//news. Please try this for a week, it makes a difference -INDEPENDENT: The more you attend to your own wellness, the more resistant you are to any infections. -SLEEP, MOVE, NATURE: Get enough sleep, physical activity, connect with nature. -- shin rin yoku - forest bathing in Japanese.  -BE A BETTER COMMUNITY MEMBER: How to be a better community member: make wise decisions, be mindful of your surroundings. -MEDITATE: Goal of meditation is not only to sit quietly --  it’s to carry that state throughout the day. -COOK: Cooking is meditation for Dr. Weil and Candice.    ON LIFE:  -Always remain curious, chill with people that are not like you. -Food that’s good and food that’s good for you is the same same -- there is no difference. I love this point of Weil's the most.  -First rule: stop eating refined, processed, and manufactured food.  -Concentrate on whole, natural foods like fruits + veggies -Fermented food is the best kind of food and we love Japanese food! Miso, shoyu, natto, vinegars. + be mindful the kinds of food you eat -- take better care everyday + eat well + smarter.   -Eating food fresh garden eats tastes better + has more nutrients -- go to your local Farmer's Market! - Drink more matcha tea: Dr Weil likes Matcha.com (vitamin C, immunity +antioxidant boost!)  -Cultures that have the best general health and longevity: Japanese/Okinawa/Mediterranean countries – meat consumed on special occasions or in small quantities. - We both strongly believe that reducing consumption of animal foods for both personal and planetary health is imperative -- please take note to eat a plant based diet. (Look up Michael Pollan's books, they are extremely useful + to the point).  -Advice for women: don’t smoke (don't vape!), don’t be a victim of the fashion industry, learn the basic facts of lifestyle medicine, learn and practice some method of managing stress. - Try Dr. Weil's 4-7-8 Breath, I personally use this every am while meditating. It's free, accessible and everyone has access to this, even Shinzo Abe-Sama.  -Take Covid seriously, wear a mask, boost immunity by eating real and whole foods.  -Limit exposure to social media and television news.    -Pick up a book that you’ve never read before: Dr. Weil Natural Health Natural Medicine is my fave of all his books! He has so many to choose from, unbelievably successful at writing and so very humbled by grace:   - Like Cooking? I highly recommend: Dr. Weil True Food: Seasonal, Sustainable, Simple, Pure. Dr Weil's Books available here: Spontaneous Healing is also another incredible read + very useful, resourceful and relevant    Thank you Dr Weil, we respect and adhere to your ways bc you're on another cosmic level, levitating.    Check out:  https://www.drweil.com/ instagram.com/drweil https://integrativemedicine.arizona.edu/

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PODCAST 51:  Black lives matter BLM  Clarity and Answers from Jenelle + Barry + We love you, all of you, always Please listen to this full podcast to meet my friends Jenelle and Barry  What makes us American: we all come from different walks of life + it is our differences, the history of our mixed cultures and our variance of stories that make us more beautiful. My best friends Jenelle and Barry work the frontlines of communications across the US.. from NYC to LA..It was always the tough times that brought us closer together…  Our parents and grandparents survived war, famine, racism and discrimination -- let’s also celebrate many of our grandparents chose to help to fight racism:  Black, white, Asian, Hispanic, Latino, Native American, Middle Eastern -- we all are coming to you with love.  Our Grandparents faced greater hardship in their time: what can help is knowing we are part of a continuation of history -- but change will only come when we put ourselves into uncomfortable situations. We are better than this. This is a call to action podcast, not a sit around and be comfortable podcast. Stay woke friends: Please listen to this full 2 hour podcast - it contains valuable information that we do not usually publicly discuss + you’ll do your part just by listening -- we wanted to make this easy and memorable for you -- and all of this is shared only with love -- no judgement.  We have a responsibility: Here’s the challenge we all have to step up to:   We must implement change:  “what did you do in this time?” - we will be remembered by the actions we took during Covid + the Financial Crisis + the #BlackLivesMatter movement.  Jenelle, Barry and I, as friends, would like to welcome you to check out our shared resources: we have thoughtfully put together for you + we also would love for you to do your own research, read, learn, educate yourself. Make a point to reach out to friends of diversity. Create your 5 year plan -- hold your company accountable. - ask them to set this up.  You’re going to have to get uncomfortable + we’re going to have to talk about these hard conversations + we send our thanks to Jenelle and Barry for sharing their personal stories + the times that challenged them + tried them -- We thank them for shining their light in those trying times, because they know the golden cracks, the imperfections, their grace is what makes them even more beautiful.   FOLLOW GUESTS + MY BESTIES: @JENELLEHAMILTON& @BARRY_PR ACTIONABLE ADVICE FOR US ALL TO LEARN FROM FOR THE GREATER GOOD OF  HUMANITY DOCUMENTARIES TO WATCH:  Just Mercy  The Thirteenth  Selma Do the Right Thing:Directed by Spike Lee  When they See Us Coming to America -- just for fun  BOOKS TO READ:  Angela Davis Books Maya Angelou Books The Hate U Give; Angela Thomas Yes Chef, Marcus Samuelsson Every Body Yoga: by my friend Jessamyn Stanley  Take the Bias Test Barry Suggested: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/selectatest.html  From Jenelle's Mention of following SHAUN KING:  Great to follow to keep up with current info on the movement: https://www.instagram.com/shaunking/ GRASSROOTS LAW:  This is the initiative people can sign up for to donate their time, money or expertise:  https://www.instagram.com/GrassrootsLaw// OR https://www.grassrootslaw.org/ CORPORATE AMERICA:  This organization is asking for major retailers (Wholefoods, Target, GOOP, etc) to pledge 15% of their shelf space to black-owned businesses. Incredible infographics and mindblowing stats and info on this page. Definitely worth a follow: https://www.instagram.com/15percentpledge/ BARRY'S FRIEND'S INSTYLE STORY: Great resources for people to go to - https://www.instyle.com/news/an-explicit-guide-to-being-anti-racist SUPPORTING PROTESTORS’ BAIL AND RELEASE: The Bail ProjectAn effort to combat mass incarceration at the front end of the system. They pay bail for people in need, reuniting families and restoring the presumption of innocence. Donations to The Bail Project National Revolving Bail Fund can be recycled and reused to pay bail two to three times per year, maximizing the impact of every dollar. The Bail Project is currently providing funds across the country to bail out activists and protesters. SUPPORTING LEGAL ACTIONS AND LEGISLATION FOR RACIAL JUSTICE AND SYSTEMIC CHANGE: NAACP Legal Defense and Education Fund Premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. Currently suing the national policing Commission on Law Enforcement created by Attorney General Barr in addition to many other open cases supporting justice. ADVANCING DATA-BASED BASED POLICY SOLUTIONS: Campaign ZeroA comprehensive package of urgent policy solutions informed by data, research and human rights principles which can change the way police serve our communities to effectively reduce police violence nationwide. SUPPORTING CAMPAIGNS THAT HOLD LEADERS AND CORPORATIONS ACCOUNTABLE: Color of ChangeHelp people respond effectively to injustice. As a national online force driven by 1.7 million members, they move decision-makers in corporations and government to create a more human and less hostile world for Black people in America. They also have suggested detailed proposals on the War on Black People. IN SUPPORT OF GEORGE FLOYD: Visit Grassroots Law Project’s Justice For Big Floyd to hold the police accountable. Sign the petitionto get justice for George Floyd.  NATIONAL A C T I V I S M Black Lives MatterGlobal organization aimed at eradicating white supremacy and building local power to intervene in violence inflicted on Black communities by the state and vigilantes. By combating and countering acts of violence, creating space for Black imagination and innovation, and centering Black joy, they are winning immediate improvements in lives. BYP100  Member-based organization of Black youth activists creating justice and freedom for all Black people. They mobilize through building a network focused on transformative leadership development, direct action organizing, advocacy, and education. They believe in the principles of decision-making, radical inclusivity, and is building a Black politic through a Black, queer, feminist lens. Dream Defenders  A multiracial group of young people who are organizing to build power in our communities to advance a new vision for the state. Their agenda is called the Freedom Papers. Through it, they are advancing their vision of safety and security – away from prisons, deportation, and war – and towards healthcare, housing, jobs and movement for all. Know Your Rights  Camp Founded by Colin Kaepernick, they aim to advance the liberation and well-being of Black and Brown communities through education, self-empowerment, mass-mobilization and the creation of new systems that elevate the next generation of change leaders. Showing Up For Racial Justice SURJ  is a national network of groups and individuals working to undermine white supremacy and to work toward racial justice. Through community organization, mobilization, and education, SURJ moves white people to act as part of a multi-racial majority for justice with passion and accountability. P O L I C Y A N D A D V O C A C Y ACLUExists to preserve and protect the liberties and privileges guaranteed to each individual by the Bill of Rights. They fight injustice legally and legislatively. They created an app to help people record police misconduct and they are on the forefront of legal defense for protests around the country.  MORE PLACES YOU CAN DONATE TO NOW:  Help Educate on Culture  +  Let’s Fight Racism, Now with the UN #HateIsAVirus Campaign The Boys and Girls Club  In closing, we would encourage you to peacefully educate yourself, you can do something, many things today, right in this moment, register to vote now, vote out those local leaders who aren’t doing their part, sign petitions, hire more ethnic talent and employees, and call a friend -- ask them how they are doing, reach out, date blindly-- with love, make a new friend, make a donation to a charity above, work with inner city children, volunteer to be of greater use. It’s not just a tax write off, its a human right -- exercise your right to heal humanity. -- thank you jenelle and barry -- love and light to you and God’s grace to all. Xx love, Candice   

Stay Centered Through the Challenging Times A Self-Care love note this week + pls share Wirth friends! You will be tested throughout your lifetime. Until now, however, most have never experienced a global shutdown. During this time, it’s important to have a better understanding of life itself and stay centered for your mental well-being. Everyone’s COVID-19 experience will be different. You will grieve different losses than those around you— How Are You Helping? The global population faces an awakening. What the COVID-19 pandemic has revealed is that, despite the fact that you are a unique individual in an individualistic culture, your life heavily relies on the actions of others.  This test of humanitarian change is a challenge that relies on people to cooperate as a group. It doesn't matter whether you're a health care worker, custodian, delivery driver, grocery store employee, teacher, or writer—you are being called upon to do your part in helping others.  Here are some ways you can rise to the challenge at hand:   Stay Home Unless you have no other choice, stay home. It's a tiny win and it helps save lives.    Care for Yourself Because you can't help others if you're depleted or not well, prioritize self-care. A few of my favorite practices on self-care: reading Tara Brach books -- like “Radical Acceptance".   Learn Something New You can learn to cook, spend time reading new books (and sharing them!), learn a new skill (how to shoot a camera, start a podcast, grow some fresh produce, cook a new ethnic meal, tend to a garden), check in on a friend, practice limiting news intake, and/or stay away from your screens.Learn a new language—there are dozens of online courses or books to study from. Learn about where people come from and where your lines of lineage are drawn. Read more books on history, culture, geography, and war. Reset Meditate, get to bed earlier, and commit to better and longer sleep (away from your phone). You'll feel a positive change. Consider What Matters  Money, power, beauty, and greed aren’t imperative to health and joy. And quite possibly, they were destroying you—environmentally, socially, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally.  Cultivate Empathy Listen to others. How is another person's experience different from—and the same as—yours? Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” Cry When you need to do it, let yourself do it. No judgment. Release Start letting go of the things that do not serve you. When you hold on to things that are not meant for you, suffering results. Release anger, pain, suffering.  When this is all said and done, you will remember—and be remembered by—what you do to keep yourself and others safe and healthy. Use this opportunity wisely to rise to the challenge of practicing inner peace, helping others, and learn to accept what you can and can’t change.  Most Importantly: Volunteer Use this opportunity wisely. I've shared on my website, CandiceKumai.com, some organizations that could use support right now. This emergency is an opportunity to serve, whether through sweeping initiatives, petitions to be drawn, hands to feed  We can be grateful for all the years of freedom we have shared, and reflect upon it. A simple hike, a night out with your girlfriends in heels in New York City, a surf session in Encinitas, picking wildflowers in the mountains. I miss it all, and I know you do, too. Today, what we can do: we can practice inner peace, choose to help others, and we can learn to better accept what we can’t change. Wee can believe that this too shall pass.  Be present. Take action. Here’s how you CAN HELP.  NOTABLE PLACES TO DONATE + HELP NOW:  Support by buying my Books: Kintsugi Wellness  + 5 star rate the wabi sabi podcast  shop: amazon.com/shop/candicekumai thematchashoppe.com 

Dear Little Candice,  Here are 10 legit things, I wish I could tell you.. but, I'd rather you dream, learn and grow on your own.. look at how good you turned out!? LOL xx    xxx Off to Japan in the morning ... to crush more dreams xxx I almost can't believe it xx  10 Things I Wish I Told My Younger Self: The Legit Gangsta Ways💝💛 1- Don't Rush Anything.  2- Hard Work will Get you Everywhere: Kaizen  3- Date as much as you want, for reals tho.. don't settle  4- Be Honest  5- When you Lose Yourself, Wabi Sabi -- Perfectly Imperfect  6- Be Kind Whenever Possible, everyone is fighting a battle  7- Friends Will come and go, and that's okay.  8- Love is really the only thing that matters, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you 9- Dreams Will Come True, but not overnight  10- Live in the present moment, its all we really have Ganbatte ne, off to complete the journey xx ki yo tsukete, ne! xx ck