Haven!

Many of us know what it feels like to be a teenager - the ups & downs, wild hormones, and ever-changing friend dynamics. But, I think this current generations of teenagers has entirely new circumstances to face on top of it all... Social media pressures 24/7 access to phones Internet trolls & anonymous bullying Any content they want at the touch of their fingertips So, I wanted to bring in my friend Pearl, a 14 year old who lives nearby here in LA to tell us a bit more about her experience. We quickly realized there was no way we could fit this into one hour so we have split it up into two episodes to really give us time to sink our teeth into this topic. I shared a bit about my Millennial experience with the Internet, dating, style trends etc. and thoroughly enjoyed hearing her take on it all as a current teen. Fair warning: my generation did get a bit roasted, haha. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spicy title coming from a woman, I know.  But I did an episode last season called “What Men Don’t Understand” and it was talking about just the unwanted comments, not always feeling safe walking places, as well as the expectations and stigmas of even working parenthood on women, etc. alongside a girlfriend of mine. Yet after that I realized I would really like to explore a follow up conversation from a male’s perspective on what conditioning looked like for you guys growing up or even wrestle with now.  So, I brought in my friend Joe Smith to talk about what kind of things did YOU guys have growing up or perhaps still deal with that we as women aren’t privy too and it would help us to be brought into your world a bit more. We talk a bit about high school bullying, team dynamics in sports, bro code, and even about the stigma of it being okay for little girls to dress up a super heroes but not for young boys to wear princess dresses. I definitely left with a little better understanding of men and I hope that's the case for you too! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Help! I Like My Friend's Ex" is what one of my girlfriends said to me over lunch a few months ago... Yikes. This is a recipe for something messy and the likelihood of it going wrong is more possible than it going right. But, I think we've all known someone where they went down this path and it DID work out for them. So it may not always be a hard & fast "no" in this scenario. So, if you're faced with this problem - how does it go RIGHT? What questions should you consider going into making decisions that can't be taken back? I bring in my husband Aaron Weits for the male perspective on this and he even brings in his own experience dating one of his friends' exes... spoiler: didn't go well. We pull the thread of this sweater until its a dismantled ball of yarn asking some pertinent questions for this scenario... what you end up doing if you're faced with this situation is up for you to decide :) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Inspired by a cooking/therapy combo class my sister and mom took a while back, this episode is exploring the concept of "the way you do one thing is the way you do everything." As a part of the greater series on Relationships in Season 2 this is about the relationship with YOURSELF. My guest for this episode is is my husband Aaron Weits who had no idea going into it what "pie therapy" meant, but by the end of it he did agree it was a pretty insightful exercise! Here are the questions we went through should you want to play along with your friends: What pie are you choosing and how do you get that recipe? Is it a new one you have never tried, or a family recipe passed down? Going to the store how do you get ingredients? Are you doing this solo or with someone? When you’re baking how do you start?  Do you clean as you go?  Do you follow the recipe exactly? Who do you enjoy the pie with afterwards?  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

BFFS! Is it realistic to think you can keep a best friend forever? How do you nurture a friendship over time so that it can evolve throughout the years and seasons? Or, when do you know that it's time to cut bait and appreciate it for what it was? I bring in one of my longest friends (17 years!) Mariah McManus Goss to talk about the concept of longterm friendships. Our relationship start off bonding over some chunky Forever 21 necklaces and has now evolved through job changes, cross-country moves, marriage & children. What I've realize is that my nature is to nurture relationships and keep them afloat, but the underbelly of that is a tendency is to hold on too long past its expiration date and hope it can get back to what I loved initially. Together we talk about the give & take of longstanding relationships and also sprinkle in some of our favorite memories together too. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is a continuation of last week's discussion about the necessity of evolving your parenting style as your child transitions between seasons. I brought in my own mom, Lisa Whelchel, to talk a bit about the her motherhood journey with us three kids over the years. In Part 1 we talked about toddlerhood through jr. high, while in this episode, Part 2, we explore high school through adulthood. The teen years can be a tricky time for both child/mom as they learn to navigate unchartered territory and new boundaries, but then after they become an adult another dramatic shift needs to take place in order to evolve together. Hint: It requires more & more autonomy until ultimately you aren’t “parenting” your adult child whatsoever.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

🚀 NEW SEASON LAUNCH 🚀Season 2 is all about relationships and my own Mom so graciously agreed to come and talk about the mother/child bond & evolution over time in our kick-off episode! The title of the episode is a bit tongue in cheek as I’m not sure how many will get that tongue in cheek reference, but my Mom, Lisa Whelchel, was on a show in the 80’s called The Facts of Life.  Yet, the reason I’m having her as a guest is because she is truly the person who has had the biggest impact on me out of anyone in my life. After a clip of me reading some feedback she gave me went viral and hit over a million views the comments were flooded by people curious what a healthy mother/adult daughter even looks like with request to hear more from her wisdom.  Season 2 will have more frequent content (mini-episodes dropped weekly!) and this ep is broken out into two parts and the final portion will be dropped next Mon! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our culture says “be the main character of your own story” which I can understand and get the idea… But, I am the main character in only one movie - my own - and I’m a side character in everyone else’s. How can I make the most in my supporting role in other people’s lives?  Where I would see this most frequently is in my relationship to my kids - as their parents, we have to see them as the main characters and not just an extension of OUR story. Our lives. Our wishes for them. Etc.  I bring in a mom I’ve looked up to from afar whose 11 year old prospected me in the neighborhood with her babysitting resume. On the intro call she asked if my kids “had any allergies she needed to know about” and I was sold. I thought “who is this young female entrepreneur and also how did her mom do it?” So I took Lara Richardson to lunch. She is a badass professionally as the CMO of Hallmark Media (helloooo Hallmark Christmas movies have already started, yay!) but she took her role as a mother with just as much focus, intention, and leadership as she does her career.  We talk all things toddlerhood to pre-teen together! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has your heart ever longed for something you couldn't quite reach? Whether you're held back by circumstance, talent, timing, capabilities, fate, or luck it doesn't really matter on the "why" when it comes to dealing with the disappointment. What do you do in the interim of an unmet desire? In my experience it can be hard to hold both truths at the same time: a lot of this is out of my control, but not all of it. My nature is to white knuckle something to force it into existence, but sometimes there are odds bigger than me that I can't quite budge. Maybe your nature is to "let go and let God" then subsequently abdicating any responsibility in the situation. How can we hold both equally? Not forcing our will into a situation but also not being entirely laissez faire to things we hope for. I bring in my friend Gaia as we talk a little bit about our own journeys with this topic and also how to support a friend if perhaps they are in this current season. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a sister and wonder if you're complicated relationship is "normal?" Or do you not have a sister and are curious if it really is all that it's hyped up to be? Inspired by my last episode where a childhood friend ratted me out (in a loving way) for complaining about my sister buying matching Ugg boots... I bring back my little sister as a guest to the show. We talk about how being born 13 months apart caused me to crave independence while she would have been happy to tag along to anything & everything I was doing. She also brings up the great point that there seems to be more of a competition element within the sister/sister dynamic more-so than a brother/sister dynamic. I will add the caveat that my Producer encouraged me to re-do the intro and warn people that we were a bit unhinged / all over the place in our storytelling - so just be prepared for the multiple story tangents we go on together down memory lane... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices