A husband, experienced partner in an 11-year relationship, shares tools for relational tune-ups with his wife. They discuss effective communication using the drive-through method, differentiating between critique and complaint, and the power of wording. They encourage enjoying the ride together and embracing the mystery of relationships.

"Come on, man, read the room..." We've all heard some variation of that phrase at some point in time. It typically means someone assessed a situation incorrectly before behaving and then the disconnect was palpably felt by the others in the group. But, I have noticed that, when asked, most people they would say they DO have the ability to read a room correctly. My question is - is that really true? Can people accurately interpret the energy, behaviors, undertones, and body language in a sociological manner? I bring in my friend Mebra and we talk a bit about what is required to hone in on this skill (curiosity, self awareness, and a bit of humility) and what it feels like to be read by someone (depends on who is doing the reading, doesn't it?) Ultimately, it is important to tap into this ability, but what you DO with that information is far more valuable. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

IT’S A TAKE-OVER!! My husband Aaron is my #1 requested return guest so we took it a step further and let him entirely take over this episode. I had no clue what direction he wanted to go in… I just showed up on the couch and was along for the ride.  Ultimately he wanted to explore the topics of labels together - some labels we are proud of, they make us feel giddy or older or special. While other labels can stick to us in a way that we don’t want to be known for or identified with.  Why do we feel misunderstood when given labels we don’t think we align with? When is the appropriate time to label things - in the moment or in hindsight? We explore a few of these questions together and also share some of our favorite DTR (define the relationship) memories from years ago.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you noticed that once you’re aware of something you somehow see it everywhere? 🚙 Considering buying a particular car - you then see it driving all over town 💍 Maybe you're about to get engaged - hello all the sudden noticing everyone’s rings 🪒 Perhaps you were in 4th grade and someone commented on your leg hair and then you realize everyone else in your grade shaves and you had no idea this whole time… no? That one just me? My friend Ava and I talk more about whether this concept is a self fulfilling prophecy, confirmation bias, or just the power of our words. How can two people experience the same stimuli but have entirely different interpretations/meanings/stories behind what happened? Where is the line between trying to focus on the good vs. entering into the delulu land of toxic positivity? Listen in to see what we discover together. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The second installment of “What’s it like to be a teenager rn” is out! My neighbor, 14 year old Pearl, came back on to talk more about her current experiences navigating the world as a teenager. We talk dating, the shift from childhood to teen, plus some more serious topics of mental health together. Tune in to catch a glimpse of what it feels like to be 14 in 2024. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many of us know what it feels like to be a teenager - the ups & downs, wild hormones, and ever-changing friend dynamics. But, I think this current generations of teenagers has entirely new circumstances to face on top of it all... Social media pressures 24/7 access to phones Internet trolls & anonymous bullying Any content they want at the touch of their fingertips So, I wanted to bring in my friend Pearl, a 14 year old who lives nearby here in LA to tell us a bit more about her experience. We quickly realized there was no way we could fit this into one hour so we have split it up into two episodes to really give us time to sink our teeth into this topic. I shared a bit about my Millennial experience with the Internet, dating, style trends etc. and thoroughly enjoyed hearing her take on it all as a current teen. Fair warning: my generation did get a bit roasted, haha. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spicy title coming from a woman, I know.  But I did an episode last season called “What Men Don’t Understand” and it was talking about just the unwanted comments, not always feeling safe walking places, as well as the expectations and stigmas of even working parenthood on women, etc. alongside a girlfriend of mine. Yet after that I realized I would really like to explore a follow up conversation from a male’s perspective on what conditioning looked like for you guys growing up or even wrestle with now.  So, I brought in my friend Joe Smith to talk about what kind of things did YOU guys have growing up or perhaps still deal with that we as women aren’t privy too and it would help us to be brought into your world a bit more. We talk a bit about high school bullying, team dynamics in sports, bro code, and even about the stigma of it being okay for little girls to dress up a super heroes but not for young boys to wear princess dresses. I definitely left with a little better understanding of men and I hope that's the case for you too! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Help! I Like My Friend's Ex" is what one of my girlfriends said to me over lunch a few months ago... Yikes. This is a recipe for something messy and the likelihood of it going wrong is more possible than it going right. But, I think we've all known someone where they went down this path and it DID work out for them. So it may not always be a hard & fast "no" in this scenario. So, if you're faced with this problem - how does it go RIGHT? What questions should you consider going into making decisions that can't be taken back? I bring in my husband Aaron Weits for the male perspective on this and he even brings in his own experience dating one of his friends' exes... spoiler: didn't go well. We pull the thread of this sweater until its a dismantled ball of yarn asking some pertinent questions for this scenario... what you end up doing if you're faced with this situation is up for you to decide :) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Inspired by a cooking/therapy combo class my sister and mom took a while back, this episode is exploring the concept of "the way you do one thing is the way you do everything." As a part of the greater series on Relationships in Season 2 this is about the relationship with YOURSELF. My guest for this episode is is my husband Aaron Weits who had no idea going into it what "pie therapy" meant, but by the end of it he did agree it was a pretty insightful exercise! Here are the questions we went through should you want to play along with your friends: What pie are you choosing and how do you get that recipe? Is it a new one you have never tried, or a family recipe passed down? Going to the store how do you get ingredients? Are you doing this solo or with someone? When you’re baking how do you start?  Do you clean as you go?  Do you follow the recipe exactly? Who do you enjoy the pie with afterwards?  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

BFFS! Is it realistic to think you can keep a best friend forever? How do you nurture a friendship over time so that it can evolve throughout the years and seasons? Or, when do you know that it's time to cut bait and appreciate it for what it was? I bring in one of my longest friends (17 years!) Mariah McManus Goss to talk about the concept of longterm friendships. Our relationship start off bonding over some chunky Forever 21 necklaces and has now evolved through job changes, cross-country moves, marriage & children. What I've realize is that my nature is to nurture relationships and keep them afloat, but the underbelly of that is a tendency is to hold on too long past its expiration date and hope it can get back to what I loved initially. Together we talk about the give & take of longstanding relationships and also sprinkle in some of our favorite memories together too. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/haven-the-podcast/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices