

back from the borderline
mollie adler
I don’t want to talk to your personality; I want to talk to your soul. Imagine if your most painful and debilitating mental health symptoms and self-sabotaging behaviors aren’t evidence of 'disorder' or 'dysfunction', but adaptive strategies that once kept you safe. My goal is to help you shift from asking ‘What’s wrong with me?’ to ‘What happened to me?’The word ‘borderline’ in this podcast has nothing to do with psychiatric labels. It has everything to do with coming back from the inner psychological brink we all experience. Everyone has found themselves on the edge, in that liminal space where the old self falls apart and the new Self emerges. Here, we explore what it means to undergo true emotional alchemy: that ancient and primordial process of falling apart, confronting the underworld of our psyche, and falling back together into someone stronger, wiser, and more whole.Many highly sensitive people who identify with the seemingly never-ending list of diagnostic mental health labels contained within ‘the bible of psychiatry’ (the DSM) share the same underlying sense of being irreparably broken, disconnected from their intuition, and paralyzed by life’s existential questions. I believe the resulting—and perfectly understandable—chronic feelings of emptiness and spiritual starvation are the TRUE causes of our current collective ‘mental health crisis.’Together, we’ll dive into depth psychology, mythology, human consciousness, critical psychiatry, and the impact of trauma to help you begin the process of emotional alchemy. This exploration will help you get to the root cause of your suffering and free yourself from the toxic shame, limiting beliefs, and mental programming that have kept you locked in the chains of your past.In an era where mental health and spirituality are too often commercialized, I’m not here as a guru with a quick fix to sell you. I don’t believe anyone is ever truly ‘healed’ or ‘cured.’ There is no return to some mythical state of pre-trauma purity, but rather a continuous spiral of unbecoming, unlearning, and transformation. As a fellow seeker, I will be there in your ear, walking alongside you on your path toward wholeness as a sort of parasocial big sister. That, I can promise.By integrating the concepts we explore together, you’ll begin to see that anyone—even you—can come back from the borderline.CRAVING MORE? Visit backfromtheborderline.com to dive into my universe, connect with me, access my Patreon, and discover more about my journey and work. Don’t forget to follow Back from the Borderline so new episodes on Tuesdays and Thursdays automatically drop into your podcast feed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 8, 2024 • 41min
anatomy of evil: charles manson (charisma, manipulation, and control) [preview]
In this very first episode in my “Anatomy of Evil” series, I delve deep into the complex psychological landscape of Charles Manson, exploring the dark interplay between personality, power, and manipulation.Join me as we peel back the layers of Manson’s early life, examining how his childhood—marked by neglect and manipulation—fostered a personality that thrived on the same chaos and control he experienced. From his formative years in a string of institutions to the formation of the infamous Manson Family, we’ll explore how Manson’s cunning use of psychological tactics crafted a cult-like following that carried out one of the most infamous killing sprees of the 20th century.This episode also investigates a unique aspect of Manson’s psychological makeup: his remarkable yet tragic ability to adapt and survive. Manson's story provides a compelling case study on how innate sensitivities, when exposed to continual adversity, can evolve into 'maladaptive resilience'. This trait, while helping him navigate a turbulent early life, also highlights the devastating outcomes when such resilience is misdirected due to a lack of nurturing and supportive care. But this episode goes beyond historical recounting. It asks pressing questions about the nature of influence and leadership and reflects on how our own times are not immune to the types of manipulation Manson mastered.What can we learn from this notorious figure about preventing manipulation in our digital age? How can understanding Manson's psychological profile help us address the root causes of manipulative behaviors in society today? Don’t miss this compelling narrative that connects historical events to modern psychological insights—because understanding the mechanics of manipulation is more relevant today than ever before. Craving the full episode? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 6, 2024 • 1h 21min
online stigma and BPD: reacting to the internet's worst takes on pete davidson and jenna ortega
↓ Want to unlock ALL my BPD-related episodes? Scroll to the bottom of this post for more info. ↓Episode Description: This episode was inspired by a viral tweet about rumors swirling regarding Pete Davidson’s alleged (and now completely debunked) 'new relationship' with actress Jenna Ortega, highlighting the paradox of how 'a man with BPD' could possibly do so well with women. The tweet sparked a firestorm of replies that revealed incredibly troubling, deep-seated biases regarding the borderline personality disorder diagnosis in general, and highlighted our collective societal tendency to dehumanize one another online behind the anonymity of keyboards and smartphones.Together, we’ll unpack the layers of sexism, stigma, and stereotypes evident in the tweet itself as well as the replies. We’ll dissect how gender biases color our perceptions, the widespread misconceptions and ill-informed societal views about borderline personality disorder and other DSM diagnoses, and emphasize the damaging effects of labeling and reductionism perpetuated by the biomedical model of mental health. You’ll also gain insights into how trauma, like that experienced by Pete Davidson with the loss of his father on 9/11, is often overlooked in favor of simplistic, stigmatizing narratives and labels.By tuning in, you’ll learn about the harmful trends in how society views and speaks about personality disorders, the importance of considering the whole person beyond their diagnosis, and the critical need for more humane, nuanced, and compassionate conversations around psychological suffering.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aug 1, 2024 • 58min
the antidepressant controversy: inside the heated debate over SSRI withdrawal symptoms
Have you ever wondered about the real risks of antidepressants? Do you feel like the information you're getting from the psychiatric establishment and pharmaceutical companies might not be the whole truth? In this hard-hitting episode, I dive deep into the recent controversy surrounding antidepressant withdrawal, uncovering the layers of misinformation and hidden interests that shape public perception. From the initial backlash to revealing the deep conflicts of interest within the pharmaceutical industry, this episode aims to equip you with the knowledge you need to navigate your mental health journey with confidence. Join me as I explore the key players and critics in this debate, including insights from prominent voices like John Read, James Davies, Joanna Moncrieff, and Mark Horowitz. We'll dissect their critiques of the studies that downplay withdrawal symptoms and discuss the personal stories of those affected, such as Amy Fenton's harrowing experience with venlafaxine. You'll learn about the call for better patient safety measures, the importance of informed consent, and the pressing need for long-term, independent studies on antidepressant withdrawal. This episode isn't just about uncovering the truth—it's about empowering you to take control of your mental health. I'll share practical tips on how to critically evaluate the information you're given, how to have informed discussions with your healthcare providers, and introduce you to valuable resources like the Maudsley Deprescribing Guidelines. Remember, your health decisions are yours to make. By listening to this episode, you'll gain the insights and tools you need to be an active participant in your own care.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 30, 2024 • 1h 7min
how to work with your dreams: uncovering your soul’s messages and transforming trauma with louise rosager
Join me for an intimate conversation with Louise Rosager, a celebrated dreamwork teacher and creative coach, who has transformed countless lives by reconnecting people with the potent messages of their subconscious minds. In this enlightening episode, Louise opens up about her own struggles with stage fright and how mysterious synchronicities and dream figures not only guided her through dark times but also deepened her understanding of the profound connection we all share with our dreams and intuition—a bond often silenced by societal expectations. Throughout our discussion, Louise revisits a powerful insight from Carl Jung: "If you were conscious of the material that the dream reveals, you wouldn’t need the dream." This thought-provoking idea resonates as a recurring theme, highlighting how our dreams serve as direct links to our subconscious, urging us to confront and heal the parts of ourselves that need attention most.Louise demystifies the process of dreamwork, explaining how engaging actively with our dreams can offer profound insights and facilitate healing, particularly valuable for those healing from trauma. She shares her innovative methods for transforming nightmares into therapeutic dialogues and discusses how skepticism often surrounds such practices, offering practical advice and clear examples of how dreamwork leads to transformative realizations and healing. For newcomers to dreamwork or those curious about integrating this fascinating exploration into their lives, Louise provides simple and effective techniques to get started. She emphasizes the importance of creating a supportive council of dream figures, animals, and loved ones, which can assist us not just in our dreams but in our waking lives as well. Prepare for a deep dive into the transformative power of your subconscious mind. Tune in if you're ready to unlock a deeper understanding of yourself, transform your healing journey, and connect more deeply with your creative potential.✧ Connect with Louise via her website @ https://www.louiserosager.com/✧ Learn more about Dream Tending via https://dreamtending.com/ Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 25, 2024 • 1h 23min
takedown: laila mickelwait’s battle to expose the 'executive megapimps' behind pornhub's sex crimes
Join me for a conversation with Laila Mickelwait, a fearless anti-human-trafficking activist and the author of the newly released book, Takedown: Inside the Fight to Shut Down PornHub, a gripping account of her journey to expose and dismantle what she describes as ‘not just a porn site’ but a ‘crime scene.’ Throughout our conversation, which was her very first interview just days before her book was published, Laila sat down with me to share how her years of advocacy led her to uncover the disturbing practices of PornHub and its parent company, Mindgeek and how these ‘ubiquitous sex crimes remained hidden in plain sight for over a decade.’ Together, we’ll dive into the stories of victims and whistleblowers, the shocking lack of moderation on the site itself, illegal and non-consensual content, and how PornHub harvests user data.Laila's story is not just about exposing sex crimes and systemic failures but also about the incredibly transformative power of grassroots movements, strategic litigation, and public pressure. She shares practical steps on how you can get involved and support the ongoing fight to make the internet safer for future generations.This issue goes beyond politics and ideologies, attracting ardent support even from within the adult film industry. As Laila puts it in her book, ‘This fight for justice isn’t just about a website and pixels on a screen. It is about real, living, breathing, feeling human beings—people who have been severely harmed by those who abused them, and by the men running this website that is immortalizing their trauma.'TIME STAMPS:★ Intro + Takedown book trailer: 00:00 – 07:24★ Interview with Laila Mickelwait: 07:24 – 01:23:25RESOURCES:★ Order your copy of the book at https://takedownbook.com/★ Connect with Laila at https://lailamickelwait.com/★ Click here to sign the Traffickinghub petition [over 2.3m signatures as of July 2024]★ Click here to join Team Takedown to donate to the Justice Defense Fund★ Click here to read my full review of Laila’s book on my SubstackVICTIM SUPPORT: If you are a victim of online sexual exploitation and want information about possible legal assistance options fill out the form at https://justicedefensefund.org/#find-help.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 23, 2024 • 1h 52min
mending mind and spirit: the path of sacred psychiatry with dr. judy tsafrir
Join me for a transformative journey with Dr. Judy Tsafrir, a board-certified psychiatrist, Harvard Medical School faculty member, and a visionary in the field of mental health. A recipient of the 2024 Silver Nautilus Award for her groundbreaking book, "Sacred Psychiatry: Bridging the Personal and Transpersonal to Transform Health and Consciousness," Dr. Tsafrir brings a unique perspective shaped by her background as the daughter of Holocaust survivors. This deep personal connection to generational trauma has profoundly influenced her holistic approach to mental health care.In this episode, Dr. Tsafrir discusses her transition from traditional to holistic psychiatry, integrating spiritual, environmental, and physical healing practices. She shares insights on the limitations of conventional psychiatry, which often relies heavily on pharmaceuticals and overlooks the holistic integration of the spiritual, emotional, and physical dimensions of health. Her comprehensive method includes extensive initial consultations to understand the deep-rooted causes of her patients' ailments, who often find her after being disillusioned with mainstream psychiatric approaches. Dr. Tsafrir is passionate about addressing Environmentally Acquired Illnesses (EAI), such as mold toxicity, a frequently unrecognized condition in conventional medicine with significant psychological and physical impacts. She elaborates on the extensive list of symptoms associated with mold toxicity and employs a multimodal approach to treatment, emphasizing diet, lifestyle changes, trauma healing, and community connection.Moreover, Dr. Tsafrir engages with the existential questions that paralyze many of us—fears of death, impermanence, and loss. She criticizes societal tendencies to stigmatize those who confront these profound issues and praises the sensitivity needed to tackle such existential concerns. Throughout the episode, she discusses how embracing inevitable aspects of life such as aging, illness, and death can be transformative experiences. Tune in to gain invaluable insights into how the integration of heart, mind, body, and spirit can lead to a more fulfilling and healed life. Dr. Tsafrir shares strategies to foster resilience in a world facing ecological crises, offering a comprehensive look at how holistic practices can transform personal and global health.✧ Click here to connect with Judy via her website (https://www.judytsafrirmd.com/)✧ Click here to learn more about or purchase her book “Sacred Psychiatry: Bridging the Personal and Transpersonal to Transform Health and Consciousness”Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 18, 2024 • 27min
old tricks, new faces: modern female pickup artists and their (outdated) 90s dating playbook [preview]
Does he actually love you, or is he just tolerating you for as long as it takes him to get what he REALLY wants? It's a jarring question, one that challenges the very foundation of romantic relationships. But it's precisely the kind of provocative statement that modern female dating influencers use to capture the attention of millions. These influencers, with their sharp advice and confident personas, have sparked a resurgence in dating strategies that many thought had been left behind in the past. They are telling women to make men chase, to withhold affection, and to use their feminine wiles to manipulate relationships in their favor. But is this truly empowering, or is it simply recycling toxic advice from decades ago?In this episode, we'll dive deep into the fascinating world of modern female pickup artists. We'll explore how these influencers are repackaging old dating tactics under the guise of empowerment and financial independence. Drawing parallels to the notorious pickup artist culture of the past, we'll examine how these strategies echo the advice from the 90s best-seller "The Rules," a book that preached the art of playing hard to get. Through this journey, we'll uncover the striking similarities between these eras and how these tactics have been modernized to fit today's digital landscape.Listeners can expect to learn not just about the history and evolution of these dating strategies, but also about their implications for modern relationships. We'll discuss the rise of influencers like SheRa Seven, whose advice to women includes withholding sex to keep a man interested and using reverse psychology to manipulate men into financial support. We'll also delve into the social and economic factors that make these strategies appealing today, from financial instability to the pervasive pressures of modern dating.By the end of this episode, you'll have a comprehensive understanding of how old dating advice is being repurposed for a new generation. You'll gain insights into why these strategies are resonating with young women today and the potential pitfalls they may lead to. We'll challenge you to think critically about the advice you consume and to consider what truly empowers you in your relationships. So, buckle up and get ready for a deep dive into the world of modern female pickup artists and their outdated 90s dating playbook.Craving more? Become a Premium Submarine. Join an exclusive community and unlock hundreds of hours of members-only content: full-length episodes, deep-dive series, guided meditations, and more—all for the cost of a couple of coffees a month. Start exploring at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 16, 2024 • 1h 48min
how psychiatry became the fast food of mental health treatments: exposing systemic failures and hidden agendas with dr. roger mcfillin
In this hard-hitting episode, I sit down with Dr. Roger McFillin, a board-certified clinical psychologist, executive director of the Center for Integrated Behavioral Health, and host of the globally popular "Radically Genuine" podcast. Known for his fearless critique of the mainstream mental health system, Dr. McFillin exposes the detrimental consequences of psychiatric diagnoses and drugs, advocating for a deeper understanding of human suffering.Dr. McFillin shares his journey from a disillusioned practitioner of evidence-based treatments to a vocal critic of the American mental health system. We discuss his "red-pill moment" while working in an in-patient child psychiatric unit, where he witnessed the heartbreaking reality of children being restrained and drugged. This pivotal experience led him to question the efficacy and ethics of psychiatric interventions and to explore the profound impact of the placebo effect in psychiatric drug studies.In our conversation, Dr. McFillin highlights the hypocritical nature of psychiatric drugs being labeled as "medicine" when prescribed, yet still considered "drugs" when obtained elsewhere. He argues for the importance of finding the "story behind our suffering" rather than merely labeling and pathologizing it. Dr. McFillin also critiques the current mental health system, describing it as the "fast food of health care," prioritizing quick fixes over addressing the systemic issues underlying the mental health crisis.We delve into his views on antidepressants, which he describes as potentially "one of the most lucrative scams in history." Dr. McFillin explains how our culture has "lost its language for suffering," and how focusing excessively on mental health can paradoxically harm our well-being. He emphasizes the need for a paradigm shift in understanding and addressing psychological distress.Join me as Dr. McFillin shares his provocative insights and well-researched perspectives, challenging the status quo and advocating for a more compassionate, story-driven approach to mental health. This episode is a must-listen for anyone questioning the mainstream narrative on mental health and seeking deeper, more humane approaches to understanding and alleviating human suffering.✧ Click here to listen to + follow Roger’s podcast Radically Genuine✧ Click here to learn more about (or join) the Conscious Clinician Collective✧ Click here to watch the video that was originally banned on YouTube mentioned in our discussionCONTACT ME + UNLOCK PREMIUM: To join the Premium Submarines on Patreon (unlocking full + ad-free episodes), check out my sponsors and book recommendations, or contact me directly, visit backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 11, 2024 • 24min
the evolution of melancholia: from ancient narratives to modern depression [preview]
What if everything we think we know about depression is wrong? What if the very framework we've built around the concept of depression has been shaped, not by the inherent nature of the experience, but by changing cultural narratives and evolving medical perspectives? In today's episode, we’ll trace depression’s origins back to ancient times, where it was known as melancholia—a term that encompassed a broader and perhaps more human understanding of the experience. Unlike the clinical, often pathologizing perspective we hold today, melancholia was viewed as a natural response to life's inevitable sorrows and hardships. Fast forward to the modern era, and we see a shift—one that frames depression as a medical condition, a disorder to be treated and cured. This transformation didn't just happen overnight. It was the result of centuries of evolving thought, influenced by cultural changes, medical advancements, and societal expectations. As we navigate through this historical tapestry, we'll uncover how these shifts have impacted the way we experience and talk about depression today. You'll learn about the ancient notion of melancholia, how it was perceived by thinkers like Freud and the ancient Greeks, and how modern psychiatry has redefined it. We'll discuss the implications of viewing depression as a disorder versus a natural human experience and explore how language and culture shape our understanding of mental health. But more importantly, we’ll reflect on what these insights mean for us today. Are we, perhaps, pathologizing what might be a normal aspect of the human condition? Could our modern approach to depression be limiting our understanding and empathy towards those who suffer from it? By the end of our journey today, you’ll have gained a new perspective on depression and melancholia. Perhaps you will see these experiences not just as conditions to be treated but as essential parts of what it means to be human. So settle in and prepare to uncover the rich history and evolving narrative of these deeply human experiences, and consider how we can move forward with a more compassionate and nuanced understanding of psychological suffering.UNLOCK THE FULL EPISODE: visit https://www.patreon.com/backfromtheborderline to join the community on Patreon. From here, you'll be able to access all full-length (and ad free!) episodes of BFTB, opening up hundreds of hours of additional bonus content. CONTACT ME CHECK OUT MORE OF MY WORK: To read my Substack articles, access my Amazon book recommendation list, or contact me for collaborations, visit backfromtheborderline.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jul 9, 2024 • 1h 28min
healing your dysregulated nervous system: from flailing through life to micro-dosing silence with elisabeth kristof
In this episode, I sit down with Elisabeth Kristof, an expert in nervous system health and trauma resolution, the founder of Brain-Based Wellness and a co-host of the Trauma Rewired podcast. Elisabeth shares her journey of discovering neurosomatic intelligence, a path sparked by her own experiences with childhood sexual abuse, self-sabotaging behaviors, and toxic relationships. When her life fell apart, she found healing through understanding the brain-body connection and applied neurology. Before her healing journey, Elisabeth felt she was "flailing through life," constantly in reaction mode, always sensing an internal lack of safety. She describes feeling like she was "running from something all the time," as if life was chasing her. Despite years of cognitive therapy, self-help books, and understanding the psychology behind her suffering, she couldn't get past the behaviors that kept her stuck. Many of my listeners find themselves stuck in repeating toxic and self-sabotaging behavior patterns, attracting unhealthy relationships, and constantly in a hyper-reactive state. This is a painful place to be. However, there is a way to heal our nervous systems. The key is to connect body, brain, and spirit. Join me as Elisabeth shares how to make this vital connection. She provides insights, tools, and her personal story of transformation, illustrating how applied neurology and somatic practices can lead to profound healing and lasting change. RESOURCES: ✧ Click here to start your 2-week free trial of nervous system healing with The-Rewire [unlock your 20% discount with the code BFTB20]✧ Click here to follow and listen to the Trauma Rewired podcast✧ Click here to visit Elisabeth’s website @ brainbased-wellness.com.✧ Click here to buy Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter LevineCONTACT ME + UNLOCK PREMIUM: To join the Premium Submarines on Patreon (unlocking full + ad-free episodes), check out my sponsors and book recommendations, or contact me directly, visit backfromtheborderline.com. Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.