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Challenges of dating as a bisexual woman in a straight passing relationship. Exploring queer desire and objectification. Embracing individual consent and expressing gratitude.

A bi-for-bi open marriage, crossdressing, and a series of passionate artistic love affairs — no, it's not 2023, it's 1923! On this month's pride minisode I'm bringing you the story of bisexual it girl Vita Sackville-West, and the letters that made her a queer icon. The Fabulous Forgotten Life Of Vita Sackville-West Our next Deep Dive with bisexual author Zachary Zane is on 6/7 at 5 pacific. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A Dom calls in wondering how to navigate his sub's dynamic with another Dom, and Lina talks about primary partner veto, as well as the ins and outs of navigating side-by-side dynamics. (Our deepest apologies for the title of this episode, we couldn't help ourselves) To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Hear all about the varied kink lives of our ask a sub community! From single folks to people married with kids, kink is a living, breathing practice that meets us where we are and infuses our lives with choice, meaning, and joy. Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. Get our next Deep Dive with Zachary Zane on 6/7 at 5 pacific. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This week we're naming and confronting the pessimism that makes us think all potential sex partners are trash, then discussing what good, real Doms are actually like! They're out there! Upcoming Deep Dive: Real Stories From The Kink World on 5/17 at 5 pacific Mindful Masculinity Deep Dive The Bisexual Ghost | Wife Swapping with Christopher Walken To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Today we're reclaiming our erotic power and studying a holy trinity of queer feminist writers: Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, and Gloria Anzaldúa. Join our free & public community discussion here. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Read The Bisexual Ghost. Get instructions for submitting YOUR STORY to our community-sourced May Deep Dive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A new sub wants to know how to manage jealousy when you're monogamous and your partner isn't. Aka, where is your place in the kink community if not at the so-called "cool kid's table?" Well, it's right here next to me. Get instructions for submitting YOUR STORY to our community-sourced May Deep Dive here. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world! Get the rest of my interview with Luna here. Find Luna online here. Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub wants to know how to communicate their changing needs in a longterm relationship, and Lina equips them with proactive, active, and reactive tools for sharing feedback and keeping the D/s container safe (but also spicy). To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Get my Conscious Kink course here. Learn how to submit your story for the next Deep Dive here. Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A tour through the literary origins of masochism, as well as some modern mythbusting for the masochistically inclined. Get my full interview with Leigh Cowart, author of Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain On Purpose, here. Join our Deep Dive interview with Luna Matatas all about Diversity in Kink on 4/11 at 5 pacific / 8 eastern. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Instagram Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad