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Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world! Get the rest of my interview with Luna here. Find Luna online here. Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub wants to know how to communicate their changing needs in a longterm relationship, and Lina equips them with proactive, active, and reactive tools for sharing feedback and keeping the D/s container safe (but also spicy). To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Get my Conscious Kink course here. Learn how to submit your story for the next Deep Dive here. Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A tour through the literary origins of masochism, as well as some modern mythbusting for the masochistically inclined. Get my full interview with Leigh Cowart, author of Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain On Purpose, here. Join our Deep Dive interview with Luna Matatas all about Diversity in Kink on 4/11 at 5 pacific / 8 eastern. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Instagram Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Today we're tackling the question of how to share kink resources with vanilla people you encounter in your dating travels, strategies for protecting your energy as you do so, and how to hold out hope that you're going to convert seemingly vanilla folks into new kinksters. How To Turn Your Vanilla Partner Into Your Dom | My free writing on kink| Book recs | Thich Nhat Hanh in context Join our Deep Dive interview with Luna Matatas all about Diversity in Kink To support the pod and engage in our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Free & Public Friday Q&As here Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com How To Record A Voice Memo Subscribe to the subby substack & read More on my breakup with Instagram Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Safe Slut joined me to tell me all about her dating life as an HSV+ queen, shared her thoughts on disclosure, and gave us some insight into her first date rituals. Spoiler alert: an HSV diagnosis isn't going to end your sex life! In fact... it might make it even better. How Herpes Became A Sexual Boogeyman (Slate) Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub wants to know how to bring forward feminine energy and suppress the masculine during aftercare. Lina's response? Gender is fake, privilege is real, and pegging your Dom is a submissive act. How did we get there? Guess you'll have to listen. To support the pod and engage in our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! http://www.patreon.com/askasub Free & Public Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/askasub Conscious Kink Online Course: http://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink The Endangered Celebrity Daddy (And The Pedro Pascalification Of My Mental Health): https://askasub.substack.com/p/the-endangered-celebrity-daddy Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com How To Record A Voice Memo: http://www.askasub.com/podcast More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship Subscribe to the subby substack: https://askasub.substack.com Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, we're taking a walking tour through the heart of leather culture in the 1970's - San Francisco's South of Market neighborhood (home of Folsom Street) and the many bars, clubs, and bathhouses that made it famous. Check out my substack piece on the walking tour (which contains a link to download the PDF): https://askasub.substack.com/p/1970s-leather-culture Free & Public Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/askasub Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com How to record a voice memo: http://www.askasub.com/podcast More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship To join our live Q&A with Safe Slut on 3/12, join Patreon starting at $5/month: https://www.patreon.com/askasub Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Today's episode is all about feeling your feelings. One sub asks whether it's possible to introduce kink to her partner in a non-sexual context, while another wants to know how to react in a subby way to conflict with their Dom. Support the pod at http://www.patreon.com/askasub Free & Public Friday Q&As on Discord: https://discord.gg/askasub Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com How To Record A Voice Memo: http://www.askasub.com/podcast More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship Subscribe to the subby substack: https://askasub.substack.com

Join kink educator Lola Jean, known as the Brat Whisperer and a record-holder for squirting, as she dives deep into the playful world of brat dynamics. Lola unveils the six motivations behind bratting, including attention seeking and the thrill of resistance. She shares strategies for engaging attention brats and discusses how trust and autonomy influence submission. Delve into the psychology of past wounds and how they shape the bratting experience, transforming risk into joyful, consensual chaos.

Lina ponificates on curating kinky community beyond the algorithm, then stands at the crossroads with a listener who wants to go from book learning to street smarts. And finally, some thoughts on overthinking, and the perfectly nice orgasms it chases away. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Free & Pubic Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/AvkZ9f6BtY More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship Subscribe to the subby substack for free short form content: https://askasub.substack.com To join our live Q&A with Lola Jean all about Brats, join patreon starting at $5/month: https://www.patreon.com/askasub Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad