Teach Me How To Adult

What’s your relationship to money? Is it rooted in fear? Scarcity? Shame? Abundance? Generosity? It turns out, all the hot stock tips and budgeting hacks are only half of the equation… for a lot of us, the missing ingredient is improving our mindset around money. Approaching your money management from a place of empowerment, compassion and self-worth can make all the difference for your financial success, and embracing that financial success can unlock new opportunities and impact in your life: After all, money is a gateway for other areas of growth in your life. But money is still considered taboo for many, and it can come with all sorts of judgment and anxiety. So we called in Nicole Stanley, the Founder & Head Financial Coach of Arise Financial Coaching. After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole enrolled in her first personal finance course and made changes to go from 30K in debt to building over a quarter-million in net worth for her family at age  27. Arise Financial Coaching has now served over 600 clients and has been featured in TIME, Yahoo Finance, & CNET.Today’s episode is a must-listen reframe if you struggle with financial stress and toxic money patterns. As Nicole says, the way you earn money becomes half of your life… and the way you spend money becomes the other half. Tune in to hear more about:Financial habits we should be starting early, no matter how much money we makeHow Nicole moved her family from debt to an impressive net worth on a modest salaryOvercoming toxic frugality and financial diet cultureHow to budget while still living a life you can enjoyThe energetics of money and what we believe about itHow to overcome scarcity and develop a positive, generous mindset with moneyThe differences between financial stress and financial anxietyNicole’s refreshing take on “lifestyle creep”The Steps To Success money frameworkLeveraging the power of compound interestResources mentioned in this episode: How To Start Saving Money (Today!) How To Recession-Proof Your Finances How To Budget How To Invest Your Money How To Make Passive Income (And Make Your Money Work For You) Happy Money by Ken HondaFollow Nicole: On Instagram: @arise.financial.coachingArise Financial CoachingOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

I have a hot take: Boundaries are giving a lotttt of people a permission slip to be assholes. They’re being mis-used to control, manipulate, and justify selfish behaviour. As therapy speak and buzzwords take over the internet and group chats, the overuse can lead to misuse, and a lot of these ideas have become convoluted and misrepresented. (Guys… not EVERYONE is a narcissist, and a disagreement doesn’t mean you were being gaslit.) Boundaries should start with a respectful dialogue, but these days they’re being used as excuse to ghost, cancel people, always get your way, and avoid dealing with real issues. Don’t get me wrong, as a newly reformed anxious people-pleaser, learning about setting proper boundaries has legit changed my life. But bailing on friends or suddenly cutting off loved ones when you don’t get your way to “protect your peace” isn’t actually how healthy boundaries work. Boundaries are an amazing tool to protect our wellbeing and our relationships. They should be rooted in kindness and respect, they should aim to bring us closer and build bridges, not walls. And they should always be about the actions you will take to keep yourself safe, not controlling other people or making demands.So join me as I go offffff on:The most common ways boundaries are being unfairly usedHow power and control can masquerade as boundariesHow to *actually* set a healthy boundary Melissa Urban’s traffic light framework for boundary-settingScripts for kind and gentle boundaries How improperly using boundaries leads to avoidance Why selective enforcement is hurtfulResources mentioned: Listen to episode 88 with boundaries expert Melissa UrbanOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Okay here us out... breakups don't always need to be dramatic, and you can co-create an amicable next chapter for you and your ex-boo with conscious uncoupling (thanks Gwyneth!) Of course breakups are never fun, but this week we're throwing it back to the key lessons that will help you have a healthy breakup with honesty, compassion, and maybe even... friendship? If you're over the ghosting era and want to lead with humanity the next time you need to end a situationship, longterm partnership, or something in-between, take notes. Listen to the full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

You can have it all... but not all at the same time. We’re conditioned to believe that we should have it all — a career, a family, good health, a social life, nice things, without having to give anything up. But everything has its season. So the real key to “balance” is figuring out what you want to prioritize right now, and what can take the backseat.  For this week's No Dumb Questions, we're kicking it back to this rerelease tackling the question of how to balance and prioritize everything when you’re feeling overwhelmed and stretched too thin. Join us as we chat about:The myth of having it all and the truth about balanceThe “seasons” we're in right nowThe best advice from Shonda RhimesThe difference between “legitimate overwhelm” and “lifestyle overwhelm”Mel Robbins’ antidote to overwhelmIdentifying lies we tell ourselvesHow to actually prioritize what's important right nowOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. We're often our own biggest bullies, but our self-talk can determine our happiness, confidence and success. So it's time to rethink how we think about ourselves. Your thoughts become actions, and they can determine everything in your life. So join us as we throw it back to a hit of advice on how to change your inner dialogue and reframe self-criticism.  Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure. It’s especially important during Pride Month to de-stigmatize sex and sexuality, eradicate judgment, and create safe communities to explore pleasure and identity. So we’re diving deep into ethical non-monogamy, kink, sexual health, boundaries, consent, dating apps, and how to communicate what you want with honesty.I chat with Hayley Folk, a sex writer whose work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships. Trigger warning: After the first hour, we talk about the impact of nonconsensual sex and assault. If this is something you’d like to avoid, you can stop listening after the 1 hour mark. Tune in to hear more about:Ethical non-monogamy 101: Polyamory, open relationships, swinging and moreHayley’s journey coming out as queerBoundaries and communication for healthy non-monogamous relationshipsMeeting other couples, unicorns, or open partners on apps or play partiesThe “one penis policy”Dealing with jealousy and storytellingHow to get comfortable with dirty talkConsuming ethical pornDemystifying BDSM and the kink communityPhysical VS verbal kinksThe importance of aftercareNavigating sexual incompatibilityConsent, respect, and sexual health educationI hope you learn something new about yourself or the spectrum of sexuality from this convo! Follow Hayley:https://www.instagram.com/hayley.folk/?hl=enhttps://www.nakedfolk.comhttps://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=enOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Money is one of the biggest causes of fights and disagreements in relationships. But there are some super helpful questions and conversation-starters you can use to get on the same financial page as your partner (and your parents) without all the stress. We’re throwing it back to some key advice from Alyssa Davies, the mastermind behind award-winning Canadian personal finance website and YouTube channel, Mixed Up Money, where she dishes out financial content for women who care about their money. Alyssa published Her first book, The 100 Day Financial Goal Journal, in 2020, and launched a personal finance podcast with her husband, Learn From Us, where they make talking about money feel less awkward and more relatable by sharing their own tough lessons.Listen to our full episode with Alyssa here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Alyssa:mixedupmoney.cominstagram.com/mixedupmoneyBudgeting Downloadables: mixedupmoney.com/shop Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We’re in the splinter era of friendships (as coined by Tinx), where everyone’s suddenly in different life stages, on very different journeys. While one friend is planning their wedding, another is having her second baby, another is single AF traveling the world in the name of self-discovery, and others are going all in on their new business or corporate ladder climbing. It can feel isolating, confusing, and hard to relate to the people you were always in sync with. Cue the old childhood Girl Scouts jingle: “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other’s gold.” It’s so valuable to have friends in different life stages who are going through different experiences, but it’s equally important to surround yourself with people who are where you are in life right now — because being the only single person in a group of married friends fucking sucks. We tend to expect everything from one person, whether it’s a romantic partner or best friend, but we should be diversifying our needs across many people to feed different parts of ourselves. The friends we make to meet us where we are right now don’t need to be ride-or-die forever besties… there is just as much value in having friends for a season who can walk with you through the current phase you’re in. So tune in for some real talk on friendships, where I chat about: The repercussions of splinter era and why this is unique to our generationThe different kinds off friends you needThe value of finding our work wives, single friends, and fellow mamas Investing in seasonal friends and deprioritizing the idea of “forever friends”How to meet new friends that meet your needsThe Mel Robbins analogy that changed how I approach friendship Wherever you are on your adulting journey, I hope you find good people to walk it with. You’ve got this!Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Realtalk: everything is expensive AF right now and the economy is trash, so I’m all for every little thing we can do to save money or passively earn more. So today we’re throwing it back to five easy ways to save money, how to make a little extra on the side, and the best ways to automate it all.Listen to the full episode here.Resources mentioned:https://www.spliiit.com/enWealth Simple (referral code: YFKOLG)Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

You cannot over-perform your way to feeling enough… and if that just hit you like a bus, this episode is required listening. A lot of us are fighting the feeling that no matter how much we accomplish, how hard we work, and how much money we make, we’ll never be enough. These limiting beliefs and patterns can keep us playing small and downplay our worth at work. That trickles into everything, from our relationships to how much income we make. So we’re welcoming back to the show Leisse Wilcox, a performance and emotional intelligence coach who helps people align their net-worth with their self-worth. Leisse was on the podcast all the way back in 2020, in episode 21, to talk about mindset and resilience. And I’m thrilled to share our conversation today as we tackle worthiness, the wage gap, our money stories, and uncoupling our value from what we do for work.Leisse is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, performance coach, emotional intelligence expert and two-times best-selling author. Known as “the Marie Kondo of your Unconscious”, She helps clients and businesses turns self-sabotage into success in each of life's cornerstone areas, combining strategic consulting and therapeutic coaching tools. Tune in as we chat about: Breaking out of the narratives that keep us stuck in doing too much and not feeling like enoughWhat does “enough” feel like?The 4 ‘P’s of self-sabotage What we’re getting wrong about impostor syndrome How “proving our worth” leads to burnoutFinancial anxiety and how our self-worth impacts our incomeUnderstanding your unconscious money storyFixing our scarcity beliefs around safety and money What does living a balanced life actually mean for over-achievers?  Follow Leisse on Instagram and check out her website. Read Leisse’s bestselling books, To Call Myself Beloved and Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging.Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube