Teach Me How To Adult

We’re in the splinter era of friendships (as coined by Tinx), where everyone’s suddenly in different life stages, on very different journeys. While one friend is planning their wedding, another is having her second baby, another is single AF traveling the world in the name of self-discovery, and others are going all in on their new business or corporate ladder climbing. It can feel isolating, confusing, and hard to relate to the people you were always in sync with. Cue the old childhood Girl Scouts jingle: “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other’s gold.” It’s so valuable to have friends in different life stages who are going through different experiences, but it’s equally important to surround yourself with people who are where you are in life right now — because being the only single person in a group of married friends fucking sucks. We tend to expect everything from one person, whether it’s a romantic partner or best friend, but we should be diversifying our needs across many people to feed different parts of ourselves. The friends we make to meet us where we are right now don’t need to be ride-or-die forever besties… there is just as much value in having friends for a season who can walk with you through the current phase you’re in. So tune in for some real talk on friendships, where I chat about: The repercussions of splinter era and why this is unique to our generationThe different kinds off friends you needThe value of finding our work wives, single friends, and fellow mamas Investing in seasonal friends and deprioritizing the idea of “forever friends”How to meet new friends that meet your needsThe Mel Robbins analogy that changed how I approach friendship Wherever you are on your adulting journey, I hope you find good people to walk it with. You’ve got this!Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Realtalk: everything is expensive AF right now and the economy is trash, so I’m all for every little thing we can do to save money or passively earn more. So today we’re throwing it back to five easy ways to save money, how to make a little extra on the side, and the best ways to automate it all.Listen to the full episode here.Resources mentioned:https://www.spliiit.com/enWealth Simple (referral code: YFKOLG)Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

You cannot over-perform your way to feeling enough… and if that just hit you like a bus, this episode is required listening. A lot of us are fighting the feeling that no matter how much we accomplish, how hard we work, and how much money we make, we’ll never be enough. These limiting beliefs and patterns can keep us playing small and downplay our worth at work. That trickles into everything, from our relationships to how much income we make. So we’re welcoming back to the show Leisse Wilcox, a performance and emotional intelligence coach who helps people align their net-worth with their self-worth. Leisse was on the podcast all the way back in 2020, in episode 21, to talk about mindset and resilience. And I’m thrilled to share our conversation today as we tackle worthiness, the wage gap, our money stories, and uncoupling our value from what we do for work.Leisse is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, performance coach, emotional intelligence expert and two-times best-selling author. Known as “the Marie Kondo of your Unconscious”, She helps clients and businesses turns self-sabotage into success in each of life's cornerstone areas, combining strategic consulting and therapeutic coaching tools. Tune in as we chat about: Breaking out of the narratives that keep us stuck in doing too much and not feeling like enoughWhat does “enough” feel like?The 4 ‘P’s of self-sabotage What we’re getting wrong about impostor syndrome How “proving our worth” leads to burnoutFinancial anxiety and how our self-worth impacts our incomeUnderstanding your unconscious money storyFixing our scarcity beliefs around safety and money What does living a balanced life actually mean for over-achievers?  Follow Leisse on Instagram and check out her website. Read Leisse’s bestselling books, To Call Myself Beloved and Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging.Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Have you ever thought about how the way you sit — and where you sit — can affect the success of a negotiation or meeting? This week we’re throwing it back to a game-changing episode with negotiation expert, Fotini Iconomopoulos, where she breaks down how body language and where you position yourself in meetings or social situations can lead to better influence and negotiation. Fotini’s been helping people get what they want, both personally and professionally, for decades. Through her keynotes, workshops and virtual courses, Fotini helps teach the negotiation and communication skills required to navigate any scenario. She teaches MBA Negotiations at the Schulich School of Business at York University, and is the author of the book “Say Less, Get More: Unconventional Negotiation Techniques to Get What You Want”.We hope this episode inspires you to go after what you want and ask for what you deserve!Listen to our full episode with Fotini here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Fotini:fotiniicon.com/instagram.com/fotiniicon/linkedin.com/in/fotiniiconomopoulos/Get Fotini’s Book: Say Less Get More Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

It’s mental health awareness month, and it honestly feels like there’s more people than ever before struggling with anxiety, depression and mental health issues. So this week we’re diving into a helpful tool for building the foundation of your mental health, using the Life Force Method from Jonah Hill’s therapist, Stutz. The method builds on the three levels that are key for our emotional wellbeing: our relationship with our body, relationships with others, and our relationship with self. This simple pyramid can be a real game-changing check-in when you feel your mental wellness start to slip. Tune in to hear more about:My personal experiences managing my mental health, and the pillars I use Stutz’s Life Force Method PyramidTaking care of your physical health and body How exercise can help you transform emotionsNurturing supportive relationships for better mental healthWhy you should cut out toxic peopleTools to cultivate a better relationship with yourselfSetting goals and finding purpose Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip that you might have missed. The biggest things that gets in the way of our success and greatness? Our own fear.  So how do we show up and play big? We're throwing it back to some masterful advice from Lori Harder on how to use your fear as a compass to find your purpose, and setting yourself up so you can confidently tackle your fears with systems in place.Lori pushed herself out of her comfort zone to go from a broke, unhealthy, anxiety-ridden introvert, to a confident and abundant self-made millionaire, speaker, podcast host, fitness world champion, and cover model. Lori is a serial entrepreneur and CEO of multiple companies, including Glōci and Lite Pink. She’s a best-selling author and the host of top podcast, Earn Your Happy.Follow Lori on Instagram and on her website and listen to Lori's Podcast, Earn Your Happy.Listen to the full episode here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.This show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host & ProducerOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler , Designer & Web ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Change is one of the only constants in life, but a lot of people are really adverse to it. TBH, I actually thrive in change and chaos, I’m always seeking newness, so this week I’m sharing how I overcome fear of change to approach it with a growth mindset.Tim Ferris says “People would rather be unhappy than uncertain.” Change is hard because it comes with a loss of control, and it often means letting go of how things are to embrace something new. But what is the safety and comfort of remaining the same costing you?And how do we get better at such an important, but uncomfortable, life skill?Tune in as I chat about:The change we choose VS change that happens to usThe grief that can come with changeWhy I struggle with changing relationshipsAdopting a growth mindsetQuestions to ask that will make change easierBuilding resilience and tracking your winsHow practicing impermanence can helpWorking on your inner stability to deal with unstable environmentsIf you’re toying with changes in your life right now, just remember that people often regret what they didn’t do more than what they did. You got this.Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. TBH dating can be stressful and exhausting if you’ve been on the hunt for “the one” for a while. Whether you’re newly single or a seasoned app swiper, we gotchu! We’re throwing it back to the most important lesson we learned from relationship coach Lauren Zoeller: The non-negotiables you should establish going into any relationship, and an insightful exercise to help you figure out your needs in a relationship, and how to give them to yourself, first. Consider this the healthiest dating pep talk you’ll hear, in 7 minutes. Lauren is a CTA certified Love & Relationship Coach, motivational speaker and podcast host. She’s the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a coaching program that teaches women how to attract love. She’s been featured in international publications like Prevention, Shape, Business Insider, Thrive Global, Money Inc., and more. Believe us when we say love is her language!Listen to our full episode with Lauren here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Lauren:laurenzoeller.com@laurenzoeller Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

WTF happened to job security? A new round of tech and media layoffs are announced every week (looking at you, Tesla and Microsoft) and booming industries go bust faster than Tswift tickets sell out. But on the flip side, with layoffs becoming the new norm, we’re starting to detach our worth and loyalty from a corporate job. Gone are the days when quitting a job and jumping between companies was frowned upon: We’re not down with toxic work environments and underpaid gigs. So how do you prepare for the ending of a job, whether by choice or by layoff? Join Carolyn and I as we chat about:Caro and Gill’s layoff experiences Reviewing your severance and why it’s worth consulting a lawyer Things you can negotiate in your contract up-front What to do right after you’ve been laid off The power of vulnerability (and why everyone is sharing on social media) Finding empowerment and detaching your worth from a jobSigns your workplace is toxic How to know when to quit your job Advocating for yourself before you quitOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. It's Mental Health Awareness month, so we're throwing it back to some potent advice from therapist Megan Rafuse on how to battle stress and burnout, and the key exercises she does to find balance and build up her toolkit of fulfilling and nourishing activities. Megan is a mental health innovator who specializes in millennial wellness. She’s the owner of the Toronto-based therapy clinic, Shift Collab, which offers one-on-one therapy and mental health workshops, catering to busy, highly-driven young adults.Track your mental health toolkit with our free downloadable Emotional Bank Account and Life Balance Worksheet.  Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube