Teach Me How To Adult

We’re joined today by a very special guest for a bonus back to school quickie — introducing my sweet and insightful seven year-old niece, Isabelle! Belle is always coming out with advice far beyond her years, so we’re making it official and picking her brain on friendship, confidence, money, and adulting. Because kids say the darndest things!I hope this conversation brings as much wholesome joy to your day as it did to mine. Join us as we chat about:How to manage stress and feel more confidentHow to make new friendsWhat to do if someone is being unkind to youFinancial advice from a second graderThe best tips to prepare us for adulthoodThanks to Isabelle for being such a great guest — we hope she comes back soon! Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome back to the show!!! We have an incredible fall lineup planned, and I’m so glad you’re here. I don’t know about you, but no matter how old I get, September will always feel like that fresh back to school milestone where you get back into your routine and set new goals and habits. And today’s episode is a must-listen to help us get back on track — we called in the internet’s favourite habits and brain expert, neuroscientist Nicole Vignola. This interview is an empowering reminder that you are not stuck in your life. No matter where you’re at, you are capable of rewiring your brain and changing your life for the better. We’ve probably all said or heard, “I’m just wired this way.” But the science is in… and that’s not true. We can completely reshape and rewire our subconsciously programmed beliefs and change our thoughts, behaviours, and routines. So today, we’re diving into·the science of breaking bad habits and how to make good ones, the principles of neuroplasticity  and how to leverage it for positive change, neurohacks for changing our behavioural patterns, how to focus better and learn new skills, and how to improve our mental health by improving our brain health.Nicole Vignola is a neuroscientist, keynote speaker, author and expert in organizational psychology who teaches people around the world about the science of human optimization, health and longevity, mental health, and peak performance. Tune in as we learn about: The principles of neuroplasticity Why it feels so hard to make big changesThe anatomy of a habit, and the key to making a new habit stickHow long it takes to fully integrate new habitsBuilding a routine around time of day and your chemical reactionsThe truth about negativity bias and positive reinforcement Using big life changes as a catalyst Reducing our phone usage A genius way to break a bad habit How dopamine impacts motivation and warps time Boosting productivity by maximizing your mental currency Why brain health is key for mental health Nicole’s refreshing take on failure Follow Nicole:- Get her revolutionary first book, Rewire: Break The Cycle, Alter Your Thoughts and Create Lasting Change- Follow Nicole on Instagram- Check out her websiteOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Today's summer rewind is a re-release of one of our favourites that we keep coming back to. We'll be back in September with brand new interviews! No matter how old we get, as we approach September back-to-school season, the fresh start new goals vibes are strong. A big focus in my life this past year has been improving my health and creating habits and routines that are better for me. But I still really struggle with creating structure and efficient routines around productivity. Thankfully, today’s guest Siff Haider is well-versed in both. As an entrepreneur in the wellness space, Siff has developed an impressive balance across her work life and health habits, and in today’s episode, she reveals the tips and strategies that she used to improve her health and build a wildly successful business. Siff is the co-founder of popular natural supplement and wellness brand, Arrae, which offers high-quality supplements that solve targeted issues like bloating, constipation and anxiety. She’s also the host of The Dream Bigger Podcast,  where she interviews guests like Tinx, Glucose Goddess, Lauryn Bosstick, Miranda Kerr, and more, about health and wellness, entrepreneurship, beauty and self-care.Tune in as we chat aboutSiff’s journey to healing her health and immune systemWhat fuelled her to launch ArraeThe game-changing healthy habits & changes Siff implementedThe power of a grounding morning routineHow Siff prioritizes routine and consistencyThe goal-setting strategy that’s driven successWhy the delulu mindset is necessaryVisualization and vision boardingFinding balance in the sometimes-rigid wellness worldThe importance of financial empowerment for womenFollow Siff on Instagram Check out Arrae.Listen to Siff's Podcast, The Dream Bigger Podcast.Resources mentioned: The Five Minute Journal, The Artist's Way, Glucose Goddess. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Today's summer rewind is a re-release of one of our favourites that we keep coming back to. We'll be back in September with brand new interviews! If you’re nearing (or in) your 30s, you might’ve noticed a new phenomenon taking over your girls’ night convos, your office, and your Instagram feeds. It seems like everyone is suddenly getting pregnant, trying to get pregnant, or worried about whether they’ll be able to get pregnant when they’re ready. The stress of fertility is real, and in today’s highly-requested episode, we debunk common fertility myths and get valuable medical advice from Reproductive Endocrinologist Dr. Marjorie Dixon on how to prepare for and take control of your fertility journey, whether you’re just starting to learn about natural fertility or dealing with IVF or egg-freezing. If you’re stressed about your fertility, or you feel like you don’t really understand how your body works, this episode is a must-listen. Dr. Dixon is the Founder, CEO and Medical Director of Anova Fertility & Reproductive Health, a full-service fertility and IVF centre. She has an Accredited Fellowship in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility, she’s a member of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Sunnybrook Health Sciences Center, and she’s an Assistant Professor at the University of Toronto. She has won the RBC Canadian Women of Influence Momentum Award, and the Canadian Fertility and Andrology Society’s Mathias Gysler Award for her leadership in improving reproductive care in underserved communities. She’s also a regular expert on Cityline championing women’s health and reproductive wellness.Tune in as we chat about:Fertility 101: Understanding ovulation and how to track itWhen are you considered infertile? How long should it take to get pregnant?Exercise and nutrition tips to improve natural fertility and boost egg qualitySupplements and vitamins to help fertilityThe truth about age-related fertility declineProactive fertility assessments and the labs/tests to getFamily planning options for same-sex couples and people who are singleHow IVF actually works, and why some clinics do it betterDealing with PCOS and endometriosisWhen to consider egg freezing and what to expect PS: If you’ve been dreaming of pivoting into podcasting but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@yunggillianaireFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Dr. Dixon and Anova Fertility: https://anovafertility.com/@anovafertility Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Today's summer rewind is a re-release of one of our favourites that we keep coming back to. We'll be back in September with brand new interviews!How do you talk to yourself? Are you critical? Mean? Doubtful? A lot of us can be our own biggest bullies, but our self-talk is one of the most important factors in the quality of our lives, relationships, career, and happiness. Your thoughts become actions, and they can determine everything in your life. So it’s our job to recognize them, acknowledge them, and then kindly tell these limiting beliefs to eff off, because we’ve got this. Tune in as we chat about: Countering our inner critic with empathyTweaking our language to be more confidentUsing cognitive reframing to shift out of negative thoughtsFighting negative self-talk with factsRethinking our idea of failureCalling out your loved ones on their negative self-talkPositive affirmations and helpful mantras Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Today's summer rewind is a re-release of one of our favourites that we keep coming back to. We'll be back in September with brand new interviews!This might come as a surprise, but telling people “no” isn’t actually one of the seven deadly sins. Here’s what actually happens when you say “no” to things you don’t align with that consistently drain you: You open up all of the doors for the “HELL YES” opportunities to come flooding in!But if you’re anything like us and tend towards people pleasing, creating boundaries can feel foreign. And that inherent desire to avoid conflict and keep the peace can often do more harm than good. That’s why we’ve committed to learning how, and when, to prioritize our own needs, so we can show up as our best selves for all the wonderful things we say yes to. Because we can’t do it all, and our time and energy are finite resources. There's a lot of talk, and a lot to be said, for the power of Yes, but No hasn’t gotten the same star treatment and we think it’s time to change that. From increasing productivity and preventing burnout to building healthy relationships, this week we’re giving “No” the rebrand it deserves!Join us as we chat about:Overcoming the need to people-pleaseHow to rewire your brain to make different decisionsOur one exception for avoiding “no”The ways no has changed our lives and opened new doorsHow to set healthy boundaries and communicate effectivelyTips for getting better at saying noThe importance of honesty and vulnerabilityThe 3 questions to help you make any decisionWe hope this helps you harness the power of doing less shit that you don’t enjoy, so you can make space for all the stuff that’s worth it.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok:@teachmehowtoadult Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Today's summer rewind is a re-release of one of our favourites that we keep coming back to. We'll be back in September with brand new interviews!Making friends can be intimidating at any age, but it feels especially daunting as adults. As we hit our 30s, our groups of friends are getting smaller and smaller (fun fact: We replace half our friend group every seven years as adults!). Life gets busy, people move away, and milestones come at different times. Even though this seems to be universal, it can still feel like something is wrong with us. If we’ve learned anything along our adulting journey, it’s that friendships are crucial to our mental and physical wellbeing. So this week, we’re learning how to prioritize the most underrated of our relationships, how to make new ones, and  why it’s so damn hard to maintain friends as an adult. We’re not the experts, so we called in Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Having spent over a decade researching the science of friendship and helping people live more connected lives, Dr. Miriam is a clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and leading expert on friendship and social connection. She’s appeared on some of our favourite media outlets, from Call Her Daddy to Vogue and The New York Times.She sits on the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a media company co-founded by Selena Gomez, and is a member of The GenWell Project, a human connection movement. She also has a private practice and is one of the first and only licensed clinical psychologists to specialize in friendship therapy!Join us as we chat about:Why our friendships dwindle as we ageDr. Miriam’s best tips for making new friendsOvercoming the fear of rejectionHow many hours it actually takes to establish a true friendshipHow our attachment styles affect our friendshipsAdapting to new life stages and navigating changing relationshipsWhy one friend can’t check every boxHow to prioritize friendships (and why it’s good for your health!)Advice on letting go of friendships that have run their courseWe hope this episode helps you feel less alone and inspires you to get back into the friendship market. You’ve always got a friend in us! Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Today’s adulting confession: I have a toxic relationship with success.Welcome back to another episode of “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the things I’m getting wrong, so we can all learn from the struggle. I’ve always struggled with perfectionism and getting caught up in an endless cycle where no success is ever enough, I’m constantly dissatisfied with my achievements, and always in search of something I can’t grasp because I’m forever moving the benchmark of what success should be.I’ve learned that the antidote to this unachievable idea of success is (spoiler alert!) learning to embrace the journey, and find fulfillment in the doing. Today’s episode dives into the game-changing reframe my amazing career coach gave me to help me redefine success and overcome my limiting beliefs. If you’re feeling stuck, this is a must-listen tool that has stopped everyone I’ve shared it with in their tracks. Tune in to hear more about:Perfectionism and defining your self-worth Feeling dissatisfied with your successes How my toxic ideas of success have held me back The a-ha advice that reframed my idea of successHow I now define failure Overcoming comparison and procrastination The power of self-accountability for confidence and self-efficacy You’ve got this! Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. We're beyond ready to break up with diet culture and food guilt, so today we’re revisiting one of our biggest takeaways from dietitian Abbey Sharp, on how to properly balance your plate and release any guilt around “fear” or “triggers” foods.Abbey shares her game-changing hunger-crushing combo, AKA her anti-diet, additive approach to eating, and spills the tea on how to (quite literally) put all food on the same morally equal plate. Abbey is a Registered Dietitian, food writer and blogger, best-selling author, TV and radio personality, and founder of Abbey’s Kitchen. You might know her from her insanely popular Youtube channel, TikTok and Instagram, which are followed by millions of fans for her empowering nutrition facts, wellness myth debunking, and highly entertaining critiques of BS celebrity diets.Get ready to *actually* start enjoying your meals and freeing yourself from the mental weight of food guilt! Listen to our full episode with Abbey here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Abbey:abbeyskitchen.comAbbey's Youtube Channel@AbbeysKitchenOur show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Public speaking is one of the most common anxieties — surveys show up to 75% of people fear public speaking. And that’s not the only thing fear holds us back from. Fear of judgment, failure, change, coming off as “cringe”… our fear of fear keeps us from reaching our full potential. But as today’s guest Judi Holler explains, our goal shouldn’t be to be fearless. The goal is to be courageous. To be scared, and do it anyway. It’s hard to get uncomfortable, but it’s even harder to never try. This interview is a must-hear pep-talk for reframing our relationship with fear, caring less what other people think, and building confidence so we can show up as our fullest selves. Whether you dream of a life on stage performing or delivering keynotes, or you want to be able to present at work or make a toast at a wedding without having a panic attack, becoming a confident public speaker and saying yes to scary things will level up your life.Judi Holler is a keynote speaker, podcaster, best-selling author, and entrepreneur. She’s built a hugely successful keynote speaking business and a top 13% podcast on iTunes, sharing the power of the CEO mindset and her powerful talks for living a courageous life without regret. Judi has been featured in Forbes and Success Magazine, she’s a Second City Conservatory alumnae, and she is the hype girl that everyone needs in their corner.Join us as we chat about: How to exude confidence Overcoming the fear of judgment to embrace the cringeReframing your relationship with fearHow to fear our fear lessThe power of vulnerability Judi’s steps for overcoming stage fright How to prepare for a big presentation/performance Should we show up before we’re ready?What we can learn from the principles of improv Our show is produced by:Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & EditorOlivia Nashmi, Audio EngineerCarolyn Schissler, Designer & Web ProducerSara Valentine, Content ProducerFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube