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How different would your life be if you weren’t afraid to ask for what you deserve?  In this week’s episode, we’re talking all things negotiation and how to confidently go after the things you want in life, with negotiation expert Fotini Iconomopoulos! A lot of us don’t even realize that anytime you want someone to say "yes” to something, you're actually entering a negotiation. So whether it’s saying yes to a raise, to buying your product, to buying a house, or to ordering in from YOUR favourite restaurant...you, friends, are already negotiating!  And here’s the thing: Negotiations are not about bulldozing others so you can get your way...it’s about creating a collaboration that helps both parties get what they want. It’s about confidence, clear communication, listening and empathy, and when you break it down like that, a lot of us already have these skills—we just need to apply them! Fotini dives into all of this and more. She’s been helping people get what they want for decades through her new book, keynotes, workshops and virtual courses, which teach the negotiation and communication skills required to navigate any scenario. She teaches MBA Negotiations at the Schulich School of Business at York University, and in April 2021, Fotini is releasing her first book “Say Less, Get More: Unconventional Negotiation Techniques to Get What You Want”, so stay tuned for that! Listen to our chat to learn more about:  3 ways to practise negotiating on a daily basis: 6:29 All the ways you don’t realize you’re negotiating: 12:47 What’s holding most women back from asking for what they want: 15:10 The most effective language to use in negotiations and phrases to avoid: 19:07 Why pauses are okay and key to any negotiation: 24:26 Key body language cues to look out for: 29:35 How emotional intelligence is crucial in a negotiation: 37:03 The difference between being assertive and aggressive: 41:16 How to ask for a raise in 2021: 43:13 Easy ways to brush up on your negotiation skills: 49:38  We hope this episode inspires you to go after what you want and ask for what you deserve! Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together! For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast  Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/ Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Follow Fotini: fotiniicon.com/ instagram.com/fotiniicon/ linkedin.com/in/fotiniiconomopoulos/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week's (bonus) Quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. It’s the perfect time to plan our 2021 goals as a roadmap to accomplish our dreams and set our intentions. And this isn’t your basic let’s-set-some-new-year's-resolutions chat. We dive into why you need to set clear goals vs. ambiguous resolutions, and give you our secret sauce to pandemic-proofing your plans for 2021.If you want to take control of your life, goal-setting is where it’s at...goals give you focus, direction, motivation and a clear benchmark for measuring your success and progress. So we’re breaking down what a SMART goal is, and eight ways you can plan and execute any goal you set.Listen to our chat to learn more about: The results of how you all responded to our goal-setting polls on socialFinding your “why”Setting positive, future-thinking goalsEstablishing “SMART” goalsHow to integrate your goals into your daily routineScheduling your non-negotiablesMapping out a pandemic-proof planThe importance of accountabilityHow to deprioritize to make room for your new goalsHow we broke down our individual goals for 2021PLUS download our free goal setting cheat sheet that outlines all of the steps to creating and achieving your goals for 2021: teachmehowtoadult.ca/goals.We hope this helps you absolutely slay 2021 with clear direction, motivation and planning, no matter what awaits us in the new year. Thanks joining us on our journey this year and supporting this podcast, it has meant the world to us. Happy New Year, friends! Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.ca Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week's Quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. The holidays can be super jolly and joyful for some, but they can also come with a ton of stress, pressure, grief, and loneliness for many. So, today we’re diving into five expert-backed mindset hacks to survive the holidays.Listen to our chat to learn more about:Setting clear boundaries with yourself and loved ones: 1:50The benefits of an *easy* gratitude practise: 4:08How to “gamify” holiday drama and stress as a way of (pretty damn fun) coping: 5:30Dealing with grief and the loss of loved ones during the holiday season: 8:16Creating new traditions and making your own meaning during the holidays: 12:10We hope this episode helps you survive the “most wonderful time of the year” a little better during these particularly strange times. Remember, you’re not alone—we’re all on this together. Stay safe and happy holidays, friends!Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcastFollow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Diversity shouldn’t be a trend, it should be a standard. Support for Black Lives Matter has dipped significantly since June, but racial inequality continues to permeate every facet of society—including our workplaces. Exactly six months after the senseless murder of George Floyd, we had the privilege of talking with Karlyn Percil about the racial pandemic we’re still facing, and the state of diversity and equality in the workplace, and what we can do to make businesses more inclusive. Because equitable work is a key to breaking the cycle of oppression, and the right to earn a living in a safe, inclusive workplace is a basic human right. In this episode, we learned how to use emotional intelligence and positive psychology to help create equal opportunities for BIPOC employees, to shift hiring practices and dated work cultures, and to eliminate harmful microaggressions that prevent employees from feeling safe enough to bring their whole selves to work.While it is 100% *our* job as white women to educate ourselves on systemic racism and how to be an anti-racist ally, we’re so grateful that Certified Emotional Intelligence and Neuro-Life Coach Karlyn Percil spent time chatting with us about how to leverage bravery, leadership, empathy and vulnerability to create more equitable and safe workplaces for BIPOC communities. Karlyn has dedicated her career to increasing emotional intelligence in the workforce and helping corporations plan and execute Diversity, Equity and Inclusion strategies. She’s the CEO of KDPM Consulting, the Founder of SisterTalk Group, and she spreads her infectiously positive and empowering mindset tools on talk shows like CityLine, on CBC and in the pages of Forbes and Refinery29.Listen to our chat with Karlyn to learn more about: The current state of racial diversity in the workplace: 2:05Changes you can make right now to promote inclusivity and diversity at work: 3:00Why corporate “Listening and Learning” sessions are missing the mark, and how to improve them: 15:35The reality of changing “company culture”: 21:39What microaggressions sound like and how to take accountability: 22:30Why you will 100% screw up on your anti-racism journey, and why you should keep going out of your comfort zone: 24:28Using emotional intelligence to examine defensiveness, shame and fear: 30:16How to be a better ally through Karlyn’s LEAP strategy: 31:30The hiring practices that ensure inclusivity and equity: 36:10How to respond to racial injustice and getting “called in” on social media: 51:08Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Karlyn:karlynpercil.cominstagram.com/karlynpercillinkedin.com/karlynpercil/kdpmconsultinggroup.com/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week's Quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. This week, we’re diving into *realistic* tips on how you can become a morning person with an AM routine that works for you.We all know that research shows having a productive routine in the morning can set the stage for success. So we did our homework and researched the routines of successful, high-achieving women we love, and five science-backed ways to create a morning routine that works for YOU.But let’s be real, mornings are not for everyone. So this won’t be a preachy episode where we tell you how perfect our morning routines are, because we’re not robots, and mornings are tough. But If you’re listening to this, it’s probably because you want to hack your AM routine and be a bit more of a morning person. So listen to our chat to learn more about: Debunking the shame around not being an early riser: 1:55Celebrity morning routines we love, from Pryanka Chopra Jonas to Oprah: 3:30Our current morning routine tricks and hacks: 8:455 science-backed tips for creating your perfect morning routine: 10:54Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

It seems like pivot and resiliency are the hottest buzzwords of 2020. After all, change and adversity are the only constant in this life, and if this year has taught us anything, it’s that the more you focus on building a solid foundation within yourself, the more external chaos you can handle. Shifting our mindsets, perception and reactions is far from easy, but that’s the key to healthily recovering from turmoil and trauma. So, we called in mindset and success coach Leisse Wilcox to teach us everything we need to know about how to cultivate mental resilience and turn whatever life throws at you into a beautiful story. And Leisse is not just your average coach. She is a coveted mindset coach, podcast host, AND bestselling author, who is changing the global conversation on emotional health & wellness. She literally wrote the book on turning adversity into opportunities for growth, joy and beauty. Listen to our chat with Leisse to learn more about:Our tools for bouncing back from adversity: 2:08Why your mindset matters: 8:50The meaning of emotional alchemy (turning the dark and heavy pieces of your life into something beautiful and light): 10:37Leisse’s 10 steps to cultivating emotional alchemy: 13:11How to avoid toxic positivity and *actually* deal with your sh*t: 25:46Ways to process and feel your feelings: 28:33How to make a difficult life change with grit and grace: 30:31The importance of staying in the present moment and “zooming out”: 34:27Why gratitude is the key to mindset: 38:52Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Leisse:leissewilcox.ca/instagram.com/leissewilcox/Get her book:To Call Myself Beloved Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week's Quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. This week, we’re diving into something we all need help with right now... how to navigate the news responsibly, while protecting our mental health. With COVID-19 numbers surging around the world, the upcoming US election, and the onslaught of disasters that 2020 has served up, there is more news being consumed than ever before, and it can be seriously overwhelming trying to stay up to date with accurate info, without going crazy. So we did our homework on how you can stay informed without sacrificing your sanity. Listen to our chat to learn more about: The importance of reading beyond the headlines & fact checking: 2:00How to avoid confirmation bias and learn all sides to a story: 2:45Identifying innate biases in the media: 4:12Finding sources that *explain* the news, rather than just breaking it: 6:13Different ways to consume the news that work for YOUR lifestyle: 8:42Drawing boundaries on your media intake for your mental health: 11:27Good news resources for when you need a smile: 14:46How to stay up to date with COVID without having anxiety: 16:02Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Fact Checking Resource:https://www.snopes.com/Media Outlet Bias Check:https://mediabiasfactcheck.comThe Media Bias Chart:https://www.adfontesmedia.com/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Businesses of all sizes have taken a ROUGH hit in 2020, and unstable employment is a stressor for everyone right now. So today we’re talking about how to bounce back from a layoff and what to do if it happens to you, with the help of Latesha Byrd, a certified career coach, talent development consultant, Google Digital Coach, and CEO of Byrd Career Consulting. Whether you’ve been laid off due to COVID, industry shifts, or company restructuring, remember that you are not to blame, and you’re so much more than what you do from 9-5. The best way to bounce back is with a solid strategy: You can start by identifying your purpose, getting intentional about job applications, and as Latesha says, “staying ready so you don’t have to get ready.”Listen to our chat with Latesha to learn more about: Our experience with how to handle a layoff: 2:40Latesha’s journey to Byrd Career Consulting: 17:273 key things to do after you’ve been laid off: 19:00How to mentally bounce back from job loss: 21:59 How to gain your confidence back: 24:18Why you need a “Career Readiness Toolkit”: 26:36How to grow your network: 28:44How to address your layoff in an interview: 32:013 important traits that all top talent have: 34:37Important questions to ask in an interview: 37:18How to ask companies about their diversity & inclusivity policies: 40:14Using LinkedIn to build your personal brand: 41:11Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Latesha:https://www.instagram.com/latesha_byrdhttps://twitter.com/Latesha_Byrdhttps://www.lateshabyrd.com/Latesha’s Career Chasers Membership Clubwww.careerchasersclub.com/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This week’s topic is a tough one, but it’s something that we’ll all have to navigate at some point in our lives despite most of us feeling totally unequipped to cope with it. We’re talking about grief, with the help of mental health professionals Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, the founders of popular website and podcast What’s Your Grief. Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, the general uncertainty of the pandemic, job loss, a breakup, a difficult diagnosis, or the loss of connection with the people you love, you might be experiencing grief in ways you didn’t even realize. And here’s the thing: there’s no “right” way to grieve. It looks completely different for everyone.Listen to our chat with What’s Your Grief to learn more about:Our personal experiences coping with grief: 2:29How to identify your individual grief coping style: 11:33Coping with anticipatory vs. unexpected grief: 15:59What not to say to someone who is grieving: 18:28Getting comfortable talking about loss, as a griever and a supporter: 24:02How to deal with loss during a pandemic: 27:04How to survive the holidays when you’re grieving: 32:24Identifying and managing grief triggers: 35:36Finding balance between grieving and living life again: 41:20Why alcohol and grief aren’t always bffs: 45:30 Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram: instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow What’s Your Grief:instagram.com/whatsyourgrief/www.whatsyourgrief.comListen to the What's Your Grief PodcastTry the 10 day coping with grief challenge:https://school.whatsyourgrief.com/p/10-day-coping-with-grief-from-home-challenge Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This week we’re mixing things up with a solo deep dive into some career #RealTalk! We’ve gotten lots of questions about how we got our start in the Media and Entertainment industry, so we’re bringing you the good, the bad and the ugly of how we go to where we are today, and our biggest tactical career takeaways.So pour yourself a glass and join us for happy hour as we chat about our career journeys, the biggest lessons we learned along the way, the best pieces of advice we ever received, and how to pursue a career you’re passionate about.Listen along to hear more about:Gill’s journey to magazine editing and video producing: 1:40Cailyn’s journey to movie marketing: 6:07Gill’s biggest lessons, from never playing small to learning when to say yes and no: 10:57Cailyn’s biggest lessons, including the power of good leadership and the importance of negotiation: 20:47Best advice Gill ever received: 29:21Best advice Cailyn ever received: 31:18 Teach Me How To Adult is a podcast that serves up expert interviews, candid experiences and actionable advice on everything you never learned growing up. Follow along as we figure it out together!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow us on the ‘gram: instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian: instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn: instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube