Teach Me How To Adult

’Tis the season to set some hardcore boundaries, because they really are the key to living a less stressed, healthier, happier life. Upholding boundaries doesn’t mean you’re in your villain era… the truth about how to properly set and hold them may pleasantly surprise you, because they actually work to improve your relationships — not to restrict them. We got a game-changing rundown on how boundaries will change your life, with the incredible Melissa Urban, who literally wrote the book on boundaries, aptly called The Book of Boundaries. This is THE boundaries 101 crash course for anyone looking to overcome people-pleasing tendencies and improve their relationship with themselves, their family and friends, and in the workplace. Melissa Urban is a six-time New York Times bestselling author, the co-founder and CEO of the wildly popular Whole30 nutritional program, and host of the Do the Thing podcast. You may have seen her on her hugely popular social accounts or heard her on some of your favourite podcasts, from Glennon Doyle’s to The Skinny Confidential. Melissa has helped millions of people live their best lives through the work she does in the health and mental wellness spaces.Join us as we chat about:Melissa’s journey to helping people establish healthy boundariesSigns that it’s time to set a boundary with someoneHow to *actually* set a boundaryWhy boundaries improve your relationshipsMelissa’s green, yellow, red frameworkHow to stop breaking your own self-boundariesBracing for pushback from othersSetting boundaries at work to crush it without burning outWays to set boundaries this holiday seasonWe hope this episode motivates you to set some boundaries in your life, so you can take back your time, mental health, energy and relationships!  For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Melissa @melissau Buy Melissa’s book: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0735243212 Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Taking on the world by yourself can seem overwhelming, but if Eat, Pray, Love taught us anything it’s that solo travel can lead to some of our most liberating, life-changing experiences. This week we’re diving into one of our most frequently asked questions for our in-house globe trotter, Gill: How do I travel alone? Travelling solo might feel entirely out of your comfort zone, but the benefits of taking time to explore a new place (and yourself) on your own terms can be a serious game-changer for your mental well-being, confidence, and fulfillment. So buckle up, because we’re taking you on a journey through the good, bad, and best parts of flying solo!Join us as we chat about:Gill’s epic trips and why she decided to travel on her ownHow travelling solo can be healing during hard timesThe importance of setting an intention for your tripHow to keep the vacation sparks alive when you’re back homeHow to decide where you should go, and whenWays to combat loneliness when you’re on your ownTips for putting yourself out there and meeting new peoplePlanning your trips with “possibilities” vs. a strict itineraryKey safety tips you need to know while travelling soloGill’s brutal experience getting mugged in Lisbon3 key tips for anyone who’s thinking about travelling aloneWe hope this episode inspires you to take the leap and book your next solo trip! You won’t regret it.If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Just in time for the holiday season, we’re here to help you get back to being the social butterfly, conversational queen that you are. Because between the endless Zoom calls and virtual happy hours, a lot of us have lost the art of real conversation. So as we return to the office and real holiday parties, it’s about time we all brushed up on our social skills and learned how to carry a convo IRL. Solid talking and listening skills are an essential piece of thriving in your love life and work life, so this week we’re saying BYEEE to social anxiety so we can work any room with confidence.Join us as we chat about:How a little pre-event prep can ease your nervesFinding common ground with someone you don’t knowBrushing up on current events/pop cultureAvoiding small talk by staying curious and using open-ended questionsThe power of being vulnerable and sharing 50/50 in a conversationHow to approach heavy topics in a respectful wayThe power of a good compliment and positive vibesBody language tips for being more approachableThe 50/70 rule of eye contactWe hope these tips will help you work any room you’re in and add a little charisma to your conversations. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

The real estate market is crazy right now, but if there’s one thing we learned from today’s episode, it’s that home ownership is absolutely still possible right now, and there’s not necessarily a “good” or “bad” time to get into the market — if you can afford to get in, start building that equity, boo! But is it *really* more expensive to get into the market right now with current lending rates, or do the costs even out in a cooler buyers’ market? Tune in for some stress-busting answers. As homeowners themselves, Gill and Cailyn both know how stressful it can be buying a first home, especially in a volatile economy. From hidden costs and mortgage options, to offer strategies when you find the right home for you, we get all the answers from licensed realtor, Alexandra Cote. Alexandra has been voted best realtor in Toronto in NOW Magazine’s Reader’s Choice Awards since 2016, and beyond helping her clients reach their real estate goals, she also works alongside the Government Relations and Affordable Housing Committees to create positive change in housing policies.Join us as we chat about:Gill and Cailyn’s journeys to home ownership Avoiding being “house poor” Navigating the current market and higher interest ratesPlans and incentives for first-time home buyersSetting a budget for your home hunt, and hidden costs to considerMortgage term options, finding a broker, and getting preapproved What to know about down payments Creating a winning offer strategyNegotiating conditions and inclusions in your offer We hope this episode helps you feel a bit more clear and confident on your road to home ownership!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Alexandra:thefoxteam.ca@alexandracote Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We’ve talked about how to successfully network and interview for jobs, but what comes next when you do get the job, and you’re ready to move up? Climbing the corporate ladder is a whole other beast, but with our own years of experience, and tips from the experts, we have plenty of advice on how to make moves.This week we’re answering a question sent in on how to get promoted from a coordinator to a management position at work, but the advice applies to anyone looking to move up a level in their career. From building solid relationships and mapping out a plan with your boss, to learning how to lead, this is your official guide to getting promoted!Tune in as we chat about:How to ask for what you want Gaining visibility within your companyExploring lateral movesWhy understanding communication styles is keyBeing an adaptable leaderHow to find a mentorWhen it’s time to jump ship We hope this episode helps you get the recognition you deserve at work, so you can keep crushing as a corporate baddie!If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Moving in with your significant other sounds like a dream… that is until they start loading the dishwasher all wrong. Taking the leap and living together is a make-or-break step in any relationship but there are ways to set yourself up for success and today we’re giving you the cheat sheet!From how to start the conversation about your boundaries (and finances!) to tips on keeping the spark alive, this week’s quickie has everything you need to know before you move in with your partner and tips for making the transition as smooth as possible.Tune in as we chat about:Creating goals for your relationshipHow to protect yourself and the legal agreements you might needAn easy guide to tackling financesWhy communication and setting boundaries are keyHow to make your design styles meshRespecting routines and making new onesThe positive side of healthy conflictHow to keep your sex life alivePrioritizing YOU time We hope this episode helps you decide if you’re ready to move in with your partner and makes the transition a little smoother. Good luck to all the love birds ready to make their nest together, you got this!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultMentioned in this episode:How To Spice Up Your Sex Life with Sexologist Dr. Jess O’ReillyHow To Manage Money In Your Relationship with Finance Expert Alyssa Davies Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Our limiting beliefs get the best of us sometimes, and it’s something that so many of us struggle with in life and at work. The truth is, we can’t always trust the things we tell ourselves. Our brain pumps out around 6,000 thoughts per day and with that much going on, it’s bound to get a few things wrong. So this week we called in Komal Minhas to help us develop the confidence and mindset skills to tap into our potential and get out of our own way. Komal is an executive coach, business strategist, interviewer, and resilience educator who coaches people to build successful businesses while improving their wellbeing and mastering their mindset.She’s landed a spot on Oprah’s Super Soul 100 list, screened her film, Dream, Girl, at the Obama White House, and has interviewed legends like Glennon Doyle and Michelle Obama. She’s overcome great adversity to accomplish so many incredible things in her life, sharing her insights and wisdom on her podcast, Lessons Learned, and in her own column for Fortune Magazine.Tune in as we chat with Komal about:Her journey through adversity and how she found her purposeThe most common limiting beliefs people hold3 research-backed ways to build confidence (and why we should all re-watch Legally Blonde)How to pursue success while maintaining your health and wellbeingTips for setting boundaries at workCultivating resilience during difficult timesHow to find your purposeDesigning a life with balanceWe hope this episode helps inspire you to relentlessly pursue your full potential, protect your wellbeing as you own your success, and believe in your damn self!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Komal:Komalminhas.com@komalminhasMentioned in this episode: Ikigai: The Japanese Concept Of Finding Purpose In Life Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome back to our AMA episode series, Asking For A Friend, where we tackle your biggest questions and deep dive into our own personal experiences and expertise.So many of us have daydreamed about moving somewhere new. And since the pandemic opened the doors to remote work and afforded us new freedoms in work and life, it's no wonder that people are considering making that leap. But whether you’re thinking of moving to a new city, a different state/province, or a whole new country, there’s a lot to consider. Luckily, Cailyn is our very own in-house expert on this, as she just uprooted from Toronto to Vancouver for a fresh start on the West coast.From deciding where and when to go, to the emotional impacts and logistical surprises, we’re grilling Cailyn on what it’s like to move somewhere new so you have the full scoop before taking off. Tune in as we chat about:Deciding where you should go and if you’re *actually* ready to moveHonouring your values and hobbies wherever you goMaking sure you’re financially preparedThe logistics of moving and setting up your new lifeTips for packing and making the move easierEmotionally preparing for a big change Why TikTok and IG are the best travel guidesThe importance of saying yes to new experiences and peopleIf you have any burning questions and want to get us in the hot seat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming tell-all.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

It’s true what they say: Change is the only constant. From parenthood to career pivots, big moves to breakups, big changes are unavoidable, but they can leave us feeling lost and totally destabilized.So in this week’s quickie we’re diving into life’s big transitions, and how to find ourselves (maybe even a more evolved version of ourselves) on the other side. Every change is a chance to recalibrate, so let’s get comfortable with being uncomfortable, and figure out how to come back to yourself when you’re finally through the turbulence. Tune in as we chat about:Leveraging change into growth opportunitiesCailyn’s big transition into motherhoodTaking time to grieve your old lifeHow to visualize a new chapterCreating an action plan to help you get back to yourselfFinding joy and romanticizing your lifeThe importance of hobbies and passions Easy ways to shake up your life when you’re stuckWe hope this episode helps you on your journey to finding yourself again. You’ve got this. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

The one where Cailyn and Gill get realll honest about honesty… and it’s a juicy, therapeutic and vulnerable ride. Because let’s be honest: It isn’t always easy to tell the truth — to ourselves or to others. Whether you’re struggling to have honest conversations, to admit the truth (to yourself or others), or you tend to hide things that are uncomfortable, it’s true what they say: The truth will set you free, and allow you to live your life unapologetically.This week we’re diving into our own journeys with honesty, how fear and shame can hold us back, how figuring out who you really are will help you live more honestly, and when it might be okay to tell a little fib. Buckle up, because we’re going deep.Tune in as we chat about:Different kinds of lies and the toll they take on our healthThe motivations behind being dishonestHow being honest with ourselves is the first stepOwning who you are and what you really wantHow shame and fear influence honesty Accepting that you won’t have the answer to everythingThe freeing benefits of radical honestyWhen it’s appropriate to tell a white lieWe hope this episode helps you get real with yourself, who you are and how you feel, for a freer, more connected life!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube