Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy explores the trauma and grief of raising a child struggling with mental health issues. He talks about how therapy and 12-Step groups can offer a place to feel and heal. He explains how attachment and attachment trauma relate to trauma and resiliency. He implores parents and other family members to do their own work so they can be present with those struggling, providing a reparative experience.

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how we heal childhood attachment patterns and wounds. He talks about validating feelings but not trying to control feelings and how some skills suggest that when we listen to others’ feelings, we can make they dissipate. He also discusses treating borderline traits and how techniques only show us how to be; they do not dictate what we do and say.

Dr. Brad Reedy discuss trauma and experiential therapies. He explains how the trauma affects the brain and how psychodrama accesses aspects of ourselves beyond words (talk therapy).

Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses the journey of parenting and how enlightenment is a process of accepting our fallibility. He talks about how owning our issues and doing our work is the first step towards awareness and a step that few people take. He talks about how to think about questions regarding boundaries with our children.

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to create a support network for yourself. He talks about how our outer world mirrors our inner world. Brad explains how one must learn to require others to treat them well, instead of threatening, pleading, arguing, debating, or begging to be treated well.

Dr. Brad Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses journey of parenting and how enlightenment is the process of accepting our fallibility.

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the Myths of Being Right, Chapter 9 of The Journey of the Heroic Parent. He talks about how the defense we set up is to protect us from being alone or abandoned. Dr. Reedy explains how being right is a counterfeit form of being who you are, being a self, being a vulnerable human being. He explains how parents can become more human and model this to their children by doing their work and discovering their authentic self.

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about what to do when communication skills don't work. He also talks about when to negotiate boundaries and when to stay firm.

Dr. Reedy talks about how when we support our children, we must avoid trying to control them even when we think our motives are pure or will prevent them from making big mistakes. He explains how children are not capable of holding their parents’ feelings without suffering some great cost, primarily the loss of the authentic self.

Dr. Reedy destroys myths surrounding guilt and shame. discuss how guilt and shame are not effective tools in parenting and moral development. He explains how we have to tolerate feelings of guilt in order to do the right thing.