Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to cope and respond to siblings who experience trauma because of the disruption caused by an identified patient. He talks about containing reflecting back to the sibling a sense of “okay-ness.” He talks about the pitfalls of trying to force siblings into treatment or to talk about their feelings before they are ready. He also suggests the parents focus on their own regulation as a means of providing children what they need.

Dr. Reedy takes live question from the audience and talks about the right time to bring a child home after treatment. He talks at length about boundaries and working on yourself. He explains how sibling work is often a parent’s work.

Dr. Reedy talks all things enmeshment: What is it? Why does it exist? How to we repair it? How does anxiety and codependency figure into the enmeshment dynamic?

Dr. Reedy takes live question from the audience and responds to parents who have tried everything. He talks about how doing your work changes you, which may result in changing your relationships with others.

Dr. Reedy discussed ways that our children and others manipulate us. He explains what creates our vulnerability to manipulation and the work we need to do to be able to resist losing ourselves in relationship to others.

Dr. Reedy take live questions and talks about finding a therapist, and how to find a therapy program when a child is high-risk. He also talks about how to avoid putting pressure on our children when offering treatment or therapy. He explains ways to support siblings of the identified patient.

Dr. Reedy talks about how to engage resistance in others without provoking it and making it worse. He talks about how attachment theory and attachment-based therapy inform therapists and parents about how to deal with troubling symptoms or defenses in children. He explains how "honoring" the defense heals and how the goal is to "find" clients and others rather than try to "fix" them and in finding them, they fix themselves.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro back to the podcast. Sanford shares the story of parenting a stepson through mental illness, doing our own work, and how neuroscience informs parenting.

Dr. Reedy takes live questions and talks about how to find people that can support you on your journey. He explains how children need to retain their dignity and how to respect their boundaries while still holding true to yourself.

Dr. Reedy talks about when our children self-sabotage and how understanding primary and secondary gains can prevent reactive parenting.