Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Brad Reedy talks with Casie Fariello, co-founder of Other Parents Like Me, a subscription-based online platform designed to support young people with mental health and substance abuse challenges.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from a live audience. He discusses how to hold boundaries and develop greater capacity for those we love. He explains how the foundation of compassion develops as we take care of ourselves and do what some might consider selfish.

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD. He covers Schwartz's writings on the parts of the self, the eight C's of Internal Family Systems, and other concepts elucidated in the book. Reedy ends with key takeaways from the work that overlap with Evoke's philosophy. Find out more at www.evoketherapy.com

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what to do when you discover your child might be into dangerous pastimes or behaviors, how to feel and contain your anger so you can then be a safe container for your child's feelings, and how to best support your child while they are in wilderness. He also addresses a parent who will be taking in a Ukrainian refugee, the value of somatic experiencing, and family visits to the wilderness, among others.

Dr. Brad Reedy did a short discussion of parental trauma, including how to think about it and some key take aways for handling it. He then invited parents to share their tough stories, to show everyone that they are never alone in their trials. Parents opened up about dilemmas that felt terrifying and unsolvable. They shared about overdoses, run aways, relapses, and seemingly intractable behavioral problems. The goal in this episode was not to troubleshoot and help parents solve their problems, but rather to model what truly seeing and hearing "the Other" as they vulnerably share looks and feels like.

Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives therapist Noel Koons to the broadcast. Noel covers topics that ranger from Taoism to mindfulness to Fining Nemo as he explains how he helps clients move through difficult and painful emotions to find themselves and heal.

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about compassion vs. enabling, guilt, the nature of addiction, and co-dependency. He also talks about what to do when your therapist may not be the right fit, how much to share with your children about your own personal growth journey, and whether/what to tell a child's potential new school about their time in the wilderness.

Dr. Brad Reedy explains the Evoke Clinical Vision. He explains the Cycle of Health and Wholeness, what Experiential Therapy is, what Attachment Theory is, and why we base our care on it. He then walks through some memorable quotes that have important ways of thinking behind them. He finishes with the Three Keys and explains the Shame Cycle.

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what he means when he refers to "the work," how to handle it when the work feels too hard, and what to do when your co-parent is not doing their work. He also answers questions about when one's child is ready to leave wilderness, whether and how Evoke supports spirituality/religion and its practice for its students, along with several other questions.

In this podcast, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about sex as it relates to parenting teens and young adults. He covers topics such as consent, promiscuity/sexual "acting out," sexual double standards for boys and girls, and how to walk the line between privacy and safety for a child who is under 18. He also makes the case that parents' attitudes/shame/hang ups about sex will have an impact on how their children feel about sex, how they talk about it, and how safe they feel opening up about it.