Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on setting boundaries with our parents when our parents are toxic. He talks about how to motivate others to enter treatment and accepting what is outside of our control.

Dr. Reedy talks about the shift that occurs when parents turn inward. He talks about how parents can model vulnerability and accountability. He uses communication skills to illustrate that the work of healing is to take responsibility for your own life. He explains that what happened to us as children is not our fault but how dealing with it and healing from it is our responsibility.

Dr. Reedy takes questions from the live audience on how to effectively encourage those we love to seek treatment. He explains that resistance is a threat response, and the primary objective is to create safety. He explains how curiosity replaces judgment and he explains how and why a sense of self and boundaries must be at the foundation of anything we do with those we love. He gives the audience an assignment to apologize to the identified patient as a starting point for creating safety.

Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship between attachment (secure or anxious) and trauma. He explains that how we relate to our children - focusing on our nervous system regulation, our personal trauma histories, and how well we “see” and provide safety for our children, the more we can minimize the effects of traumatic events. He explains how exposure to a regulated and healed parent can foster resiliency in our children.

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about how to create safety while still holding boundaries. He explores how to set boundaries without judgement.

Dr. Reedy discuses Evoke’s perspective on Behavioral Contracts. He talks about why they don’t work and now attachment is more important that managing behavior. He talks about how the key is for parents to use such tools to get clear on their boundaries and focus on their own relapse and regression.

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parental alienation and how much is ideal for the kids know about the other parent’s responsibility for divorce. He talks about the outcome of doing your work: unlearning and becoming a larger person. He explains how boundaries are for self-care and not for changing the child or other person.

Dr. Reedy discusses the tasks in building a strong and healthy marriage. The talks about the critical do’s and don’ts in co-parenting.

Dr. Reedy takes live questions on setting boundaries with parents, dealing with a child with Borderline Personality Traits, and helping children resolve difficult feelings.

Dr. Reedy talks about the diagnosis of PTSD, C-PTSD and trauma in general. He talks about small and big “T” traumas. He talks about how resiliency is tied to how well a parent sorts out their childhood and how it this is the greatest predictor of the quality of attachment that can mitigate trauma in a child.