

Man Alive
Shana James
If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult
Don't forget to check out my new podcast, Practicing Love!
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Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life. Whether it's more meaning, a bigger impact, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, solid friendships or a powerful legacy…
What is true success? How can a man actually reach the end of his life and look back without regret -- having lived and loved fully, rather than having been stuck in fear or a life he was "supposed to" lead?
Man Alive is a series of bold, raw and gritty conversations with experts on success, power, sex, love and legacy for men who...are clear they want amazing lives?!
For the past 15 years Shana James, a dating and relationship expert, has worked with thousands of men and women around the world and collaborated with hundreds of teachers and coaches. She has led workshops for dating companies like Table for Six and Match.com and been matchmaker for an MTV reality show.
Shana doesn't buy into the need for rules, games or limitations. She works with men individually to find their unique power, confidence and leadership abilities, breaking open the boxes that keep them stuck, dissatisfied, or settling for less than amazing in any area of life.
Don't forget to check out my new podcast, Practicing Love!
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Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life. Whether it's more meaning, a bigger impact, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, solid friendships or a powerful legacy…
What is true success? How can a man actually reach the end of his life and look back without regret -- having lived and loved fully, rather than having been stuck in fear or a life he was "supposed to" lead?
Man Alive is a series of bold, raw and gritty conversations with experts on success, power, sex, love and legacy for men who...are clear they want amazing lives?!
For the past 15 years Shana James, a dating and relationship expert, has worked with thousands of men and women around the world and collaborated with hundreds of teachers and coaches. She has led workshops for dating companies like Table for Six and Match.com and been matchmaker for an MTV reality show.
Shana doesn't buy into the need for rules, games or limitations. She works with men individually to find their unique power, confidence and leadership abilities, breaking open the boxes that keep them stuck, dissatisfied, or settling for less than amazing in any area of life.
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Apr 15, 2021 • 34min
#180: 5 Principles of an Optimized Life – Taylor Morgan
It's common to create a vision for your life and live into it for years, or decades. But at some point you may wake up and realize you have grown and your vision is no longer aligned with the current version of you! You may start to feel adrift in life, or on autopilot -- doing day to day tasks without feeling inspired. You may wonder if what you're doing is meaningful. Today's Man Alive podcast is with Taylor Morgan, a Holistic Lifestyle Specialist and founder of The Captain's Lifestyle. Taylor is an incredible and humble example of a man who is always finding and creating ways to optimize your life, while being more powerful, vital and impactful! In our conversation we discussed: The first thing you can do in the morning to make everything else feel easier How to have work-life balance without sacrificing business How men asking for help is actually a good thing Why no one can actually control you The difference between excellence and perfection Taylor's sniper platoon test and the important lessons it revealed Pay special attention to Taylor's story about his sniper platoon test. Most of us never experience what Taylor did and he turned a potentially devastating experience into wisdom for himself and others! Connect with Taylor Morgan https://www.thecaptainslifestyle.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Apr 8, 2021 • 35min
#179: What to do With a Woman's Anger – Ilan Stephani
Anger is one of the scariest emotions for many people to feel. Often when it is expressed, it is not in a healthy way. But anger is important and we can't overlook it. It arises in moments when our boundaries are crossed, our needs are threatened or we feel disrespected. Today's Man Alive guest is a powerful example of a woman who has gone deep into her own pain to come out the other side with tools and understandings that work with the core of intense emotions and experiences. Ilan Stephani is the bestselling author of Skin and Games and a Somatic Researcher in the Fields of embodiment, sexuality, trauma, health and mysticism. She helps people unlearn cultural conditioning and gain back your natural orgasmic aliveness! Ilan helps us understand what to do with a woman's anger and your own. In our conversation we discussed: Why women can get so angry Why it can be wise to hate your partner (and how to shift that!) How mastering rage, "No," and "Stop" naturally leads to love How sex becomes natural once people feel safe Your body's role in helping you release anger and be more alive and connected Ilan's work is a breath of fresh air and is powerful. These ideas may seem strange at first but she and I agreed that if more conservative methods worked, people would be experiencing a lot more love and connection than they are these days. We cannot only explore the light side of life. We all feel anger, fear and grief and we need to bring them to the surface, rather than holding them in and on our own. Connect with Ilan Stephani www.ilanstephani.com Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Apr 1, 2021 • 34min
#178: 7-Figure Business Lessons - Rylee Meek
You don't have to be the CEO of a business, to be the CEO of your life! The more you are following your visions, rather than the visions laid out by cultural or family expectations, the more you are the CEO of your life, and it will be meaningful, exciting, and successful. Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Rylee Meek, founder and CEO of Social Dynamic Selling System, has taken many businesses to 7-figures and produced $80 in sales in the last eight years. He is also the author of Food For Thought: How to Use Dinner Seminar Marketing to Grow Your Business in Ways You Never Thought Possible. Whether you run your own business or want to become the CEO of your own life, this episode is full of the incredible wisdom Rylee has gleaned on his path. In our conversation we discussed: What it takes to not only grow a business but to create an inspiring life and legacy The path to predictable, sustainable and scalable revenue The language shifts you can make that create more and faster success The keys to effective sales in business, that also work in romantic relationships(!) How to avoid where most men get stuck in their business and financial journey Connect with Rylee Meek https://ryleemeek.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Mar 25, 2021 • 37min
#177: Tap Into a More Powerful Masculinity – Ilan Ferdman
When you hear the word "Manhood," what do you think? It may have a sense of power for you. It may seem suffocating or stifling. It may even be both at the same time. Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Ilan Ferdman has done deep work and exploration around who he is beyond cultural constructs. He has even explored the Divine Masculine and shares his experiences of what it is and how it has impacted his life. Ilan understands that you are programmed into manhood and masculinity from the time you're born. The pressures and limitations are so much a part of "the water we swim in," it can be really hard to see or know where they come from. Ilan is the co-founder of Satori Prime, a personal development, leadership and spiritual growth organization that has served more than 15,000 people with digital products, community events, coaching and corporate trainings. He is also co-host of the Old Souls and Seekers podcast, which blends life coaching, psychology, neuroscience, intuitive guidance and ancient energetic wisdom practices. In our conversation we discussed: A process for working with catastrophic thoughts and fear of failure How to release the pressure of being the "rock" and provider, the one who holds it all on your shoulders The benefit of slowing down to become even more effective How to integrate masculine and feminine energies and what the divine masculine is Ilan's story of losing it all and the gifts that resulted from finally getting honest Connect with Ilan Ferdman www.SatoriPrime.com Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Mar 18, 2021 • 28min
#176: Combining Success, Freedom, and Adventure – Jesse Krieger
In today's episode of the Man Alive, we have a guest who has traveled the world and created businesses based on his passions. Jesse Krieger is the author of Lifestyle Entrepreneur and is now the founder and publisher of Lifestyle Entrepreneurs Press, helping people with great ideas publish their books. Have you wondered whether the thousands of hours you spend each year working could be more enjoyable, or whether you could have more success or make more money doing what you love? Would you like your work life to include more freedom and adventure? If you've set these aside to take on adult responsibilities, this is a good time to reassess. The world has turned upside down and we are creating new ways to work that never before seemed possible. Now is a great time to envision what would be fun and meaningful in your future! Ultimately Jesse believes that being a lifestyle entrepreneur is about living creatively expressed and free, having a network of friends around the world and opportunities that present themselves in auspicious ways. In our conversation we discussed: First steps for entering the entrepreneurial world with low risk and high gain Reframing the idea of risk to allow for less fear and more traction How to get clear about your vision and mission -- the foundation of any business Ways to ride the waves of instability that can come with entrepreneurship and business growth How to start having more adventure and freedom wherever you are, before you start traveling for business Connect with Jesse Krieger www.LifestyleEntrepreneursPress.com www.publishizer.com Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Mar 11, 2021 • 39min
#175: Why Most People Struggle in Love - Riana Milne
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Riana Milne, MA, CCTP, is a Life, Love and Trauma Recovery Coach who has appeared on CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News. She is an author for top media outlets like eHarmony and Digital Romance. Riana specializes in helping people with childhood and love trauma heal and have the love they deserve. You may have wondered what you're doing wrong and why you're falling into the same conflicts or patterns over the years. You may have even beat yourself up about it. Research shows 90% of all adults suffer in love. You are not alone! The reality is, most of us receive hardly any education in communication, emotional intelligence, eroticism or sex. You are not set up to thrive in love. The good news is it's not your fault. This can be fixed. In our Man Alive conversation we discussed: The top 10 childhood traumas that negatively impact adult relationships Some signs that you or your partner has past trauma that is sabotaging your relationship Why and how you can break free from toxic and unsatisfying relationship patterns you've repeatedly experienced The foundations of conscious love and communication Questions to ask, as you're getting to know someone, that clarify whether they can create a healthy relationship Connect with Riana Milne Website: https://RianaMilne.com Success in Dating Program: https://shanajames.krtra.com/t/QAx91SKCqNCp Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Mar 4, 2021 • 28min
#174: How to Avoid Going Broke - William Matthews
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, William Matthews, is the author of three books, including Financial Lessons Learned From My Broke @$$ Friends. He brings lightness, humor and practicality to the financial domain, to help you make smart decisions with your money. It's important to be current with yourself about how you're doing with money these days. Are you making as much as you need? Are you saving for your future? Do you have a clear sense of a financial plan in the short and long term? Money is one of the greatest causes of stress people face. It's stressful on its own and then navigating it with a romantic, or business, partner magnifies that stress. Having clarity and plans with your finances reduces stress and allows you to strategize and navigate out of financial hardship. But most of us never learned how to create this clarity! Most education, at least in the U.S., does not include financial literacy. In our Man Alive conversation we discussed: Common financial pitfalls and how to avoid them How to set yourself up for a more secure financial future Tips to save and be more conscious about how you spend your money Options for borrowing money when you don't have it on hand Why you may not want to close your credit card and other tips for managing debt Connect with Will Matthews Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-s-matthews-b392b876/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Feb 25, 2021 • 26min
#173: Andropause and Peak Performance - Dr. Nell Smircina
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Dr. Nell Smircina, said Andropause can start as early as your 30's these days. But wait, do you know what Andropause is? Most men don't and it's important that you do! Andropause can be likened to a woman's experience of menopause. It's very common in our culture to talk about women's hormonal phases but we rarely talk about men's and it's so important! I can't believe I'd never heard of Andropause, and neither have many men I asked about it. If you are struggling with brain fog, tiredness, lowered libido, midday exhaustion, or generally not feeling like yourself, this is something to look into. Dr. Nell has a Doctorate in Acupuncture and Traditional Oriental Medicine, as well as many other degrees. With a predominantly male patient base, she became interested in this critical phase in a man's life. She created PIQUE Health for Men where she also focuses how to help men achieve peak performance, based on their individual needs with work and lifestyle. In our Man Alive conversation we discussed: What Andropause is and how to treat it How to be truly healthy, beyond the western medical model (which often leaves men struggling and confused) The 3 Pillars of Peak Performance and surprising ways to optimize your performance The keys to both mental and physical stamina How to stop settling for brain fog, weight gain, exhaustion or low libido as a fact of getting older Connect with Dr. Nell Website: piquebh.com Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Feb 18, 2021 • 39min
#172: Overcome Fear and Boost Success - David Wood
On today's Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by David Wood, a former Consulting Actuary to Fortune 100 companies who became #1 on Google for "life coaching," serving 150,000 coaches around the world. David specializes in helping people overcome their fears and reach their goals. To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don't miss precious opportunities? David believes that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. They become the defining moments that shape our lives. He coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams – and even prison inmates – to create amazing results and deep connection, as well as to achieve more, by focusing on less. We discussed: How to shift your relationship with fear so it doesn't keep you stuck and unsatisfied Why fear tends to stop people but doesn't have to stop you When to move through fear and when to stop and nurture yourself How to share about your fear with others to create more connection rather than less What's possible when you let go of the fear of how you're seen or perceived When you're done with this episode, check out David's first Man Alive podcast episode on How to Live a Regret Free Life. Connect with David Wood Website: https://focus.ceo/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Feb 11, 2021 • 40min
#171: Building Healthy Masculinity - Ted Bunch
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Ted Bunch, is the Chief Development Officer of A Call to Men. He is a leading voice on male socialization, the intersection of masculinity and violence, and healthy, respectful manhood. Ted is the co-author of The Book of Dares: 100 Ways For Boys to be Kind, Bold and Brave. The book has been called "a direct answer to parents' cries for building healthy masculinity, respect, and emotional literacy in their sons." Many men did not grow up feeling safe to reveal all parts of themselves. They are then tempted to hide their hopes, fears, desires and emotions. The Man Box is now understood as a way to view the limiting persona and characteristics many men have been trained to emulate. Whether its parents, teachers, media, or the culture, the message has been clear for many generations: In order to be manly, you have to be strong and tough. You can't fall apart, need help or ask for it. Thankfully times are changing. You are likely seeing and hearing more organizations and people talking about the importance of welcoming men's vulnerability. Today's conversation is an important one to support men to be free from cultural limitations, creating more safety and well-being for all. We discussed: How being socialized into cultures of sexism hurts everyone, including men Ways to welcome your kids emotions and authenticity What it will take to decrease the astronomical rate of men's anxiety, depression and suicide The importance of speaking up rather than staying silent The Book of Dares and integrating A Call to Men's principles into communities When you're done with this episode, I highly recommend watching my TEDx talk called: What 1,000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women. It's important that you're supported in your vulnerability and this talk is a great first step. Men and women have expressed how helpful this was for them to hear! Connect with Ted Website: https://www.acalltomen.org/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women


