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Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life. Whether it's more meaning, a bigger impact, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, solid friendships or a powerful legacy…
What is true success? How can a man actually reach the end of his life and look back without regret -- having lived and loved fully, rather than having been stuck in fear or a life he was "supposed to" lead?
Man Alive is a series of bold, raw and gritty conversations with experts on success, power, sex, love and legacy for men who...are clear they want amazing lives?!
For the past 15 years Shana James, a dating and relationship expert, has worked with thousands of men and women around the world and collaborated with hundreds of teachers and coaches. She has led workshops for dating companies like Table for Six and Match.com and been matchmaker for an MTV reality show.
Shana doesn't buy into the need for rules, games or limitations. She works with men individually to find their unique power, confidence and leadership abilities, breaking open the boxes that keep them stuck, dissatisfied, or settling for less than amazing in any area of life.
Latest episodes

Mar 4, 2021 • 28min
#174: How to Avoid Going Broke - William Matthews
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, William Matthews, is the author of three books, including Financial Lessons Learned From My Broke @$$ Friends. He brings lightness, humor and practicality to the financial domain, to help you make smart decisions with your money. It's important to be current with yourself about how you're doing with money these days. Are you making as much as you need? Are you saving for your future? Do you have a clear sense of a financial plan in the short and long term? Money is one of the greatest causes of stress people face. It's stressful on its own and then navigating it with a romantic, or business, partner magnifies that stress. Having clarity and plans with your finances reduces stress and allows you to strategize and navigate out of financial hardship. But most of us never learned how to create this clarity! Most education, at least in the U.S., does not include financial literacy. In our Man Alive conversation we discussed: Common financial pitfalls and how to avoid them How to set yourself up for a more secure financial future Tips to save and be more conscious about how you spend your money Options for borrowing money when you don't have it on hand Why you may not want to close your credit card and other tips for managing debt Connect with Will Matthews Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-s-matthews-b392b876/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Feb 25, 2021 • 26min
#173: Andropause and Peak Performance - Dr. Nell Smircina
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Dr. Nell Smircina, said Andropause can start as early as your 30's these days. But wait, do you know what Andropause is? Most men don't and it's important that you do! Andropause can be likened to a woman's experience of menopause. It's very common in our culture to talk about women's hormonal phases but we rarely talk about men's and it's so important! I can't believe I'd never heard of Andropause, and neither have many men I asked about it. If you are struggling with brain fog, tiredness, lowered libido, midday exhaustion, or generally not feeling like yourself, this is something to look into. Dr. Nell has a Doctorate in Acupuncture and Traditional Oriental Medicine, as well as many other degrees. With a predominantly male patient base, she became interested in this critical phase in a man’s life. She created PIQUE Health for Men where she also focuses how to help men achieve peak performance, based on their individual needs with work and lifestyle. In our Man Alive conversation we discussed: What Andropause is and how to treat it How to be truly healthy, beyond the western medical model (which often leaves men struggling and confused) The 3 Pillars of Peak Performance and surprising ways to optimize your performance The keys to both mental and physical stamina How to stop settling for brain fog, weight gain, exhaustion or low libido as a fact of getting older Connect with Dr. Nell Website: piquebh.com Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Feb 18, 2021 • 39min
#172: Overcome Fear and Boost Success - David Wood
On today's Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by David Wood, a former Consulting Actuary to Fortune 100 companies who became #1 on Google for “life coaching,” serving 150,000 coaches around the world. David specializes in helping people overcome their fears and reach their goals. To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don't miss precious opportunities? David believes that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. They become the defining moments that shape our lives. He coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams – and even prison inmates – to create amazing results and deep connection, as well as to achieve more, by focusing on less. We discussed: How to shift your relationship with fear so it doesn't keep you stuck and unsatisfied Why fear tends to stop people but doesn't have to stop you When to move through fear and when to stop and nurture yourself How to share about your fear with others to create more connection rather than less What's possible when you let go of the fear of how you're seen or perceived When you're done with this episode, check out David's first Man Alive podcast episode on How to Live a Regret Free Life. Connect with David Wood Website: https://focus.ceo/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Feb 11, 2021 • 40min
#171: Building Healthy Masculinity - Ted Bunch
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Ted Bunch, is the Chief Development Officer of A Call to Men. He is a leading voice on male socialization, the intersection of masculinity and violence, and healthy, respectful manhood. Ted is the co-author of The Book of Dares: 100 Ways For Boys to be Kind, Bold and Brave. The book has been called “a direct answer to parents’ cries for building healthy masculinity, respect, and emotional literacy in their sons.” Many men did not grow up feeling safe to reveal all parts of themselves. They are then tempted to hide their hopes, fears, desires and emotions. The Man Box is now understood as a way to view the limiting persona and characteristics many men have been trained to emulate. Whether its parents, teachers, media, or the culture, the message has been clear for many generations: In order to be manly, you have to be strong and tough. You can't fall apart, need help or ask for it. Thankfully times are changing. You are likely seeing and hearing more organizations and people talking about the importance of welcoming men's vulnerability. Today's conversation is an important one to support men to be free from cultural limitations, creating more safety and well-being for all. We discussed: How being socialized into cultures of sexism hurts everyone, including men Ways to welcome your kids emotions and authenticity What it will take to decrease the astronomical rate of men's anxiety, depression and suicide The importance of speaking up rather than staying silent The Book of Dares and integrating A Call to Men's principles into communities When you're done with this episode, I highly recommend watching my TEDx talk called: What 1,000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women. It's important that you're supported in your vulnerability and this talk is a great first step. Men and women have expressed how helpful this was for them to hear! Connect with Ted Website: https://www.acalltomen.org/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Feb 4, 2021 • 38min
#170: Why Men Need Community - Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stace
Today's Man Alive podcast guests, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stace, are the founders of the Great Man Within Podcast and community. Each has their own story of resisting men's groups, but fast forward a few years and each has found incredible support, strength and freedom as they've joined communities of men. Many men have "shoot the shit over beers" relationships, or "hang out and play sports" relationships with other men in their lives. And it's common, when men first hear about men's groups, to think "hell no, I don't want any of that emotional shit," or "No way am I going to 'open up' about my struggles or secrets with other men.” Whether it's a men's group, or hanging out with men in a way that goes beyond shooting the shit, time with men is vital to your well-being and success as a man. In this conversation we talked about: The sense of emptiness or deadness men, who are doing everything they thought they should, often feel Why taking the lone-wolf path is slower and less effective than being part of a community of men The power of seeing another man express emotions and realizing you're not the only one who feels that way Why men resist joining communities of men The role of competition in both men's success AND unhappiness Connect with Dominick and Bryan Website: https://www.thegreatmanmastermind.com/your-guide Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Jan 28, 2021 • 40min
#169: Your Identity is Your Key to Success - Anthony Trucks
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, former NFL athlete Anthony Trucks, helps people make SHIFT happen! He sees possibilities where others see limitations. He boldly and humbly walks his talk. Anthony had an incredibly challenging childhood and has created a 7-figure business, helping people achieve their goals, while continuing to prioritize his kids and having a positive impact on the world. The roots of success are deeper than most people realize. If you're attempting to be more successful by managing your actions, but haven't looked at who you are and why you do what you do, today's episode with Anthony Trucks is for you. He lays out the path to success and achieving your goals. In this conversation we talked about: Recognizing who you actually are as the door to success, joy and fulfillment What it takes to make consistent and sustainable shifts in your life How to up-level your identity, rather than settle for its limitations The uniqueness of the SHIFT method's everyday doable actions Anthony's personal journey walking his talk and applying the SHIFT Method to parenting Connect with Anthony Website: https://anthonytrucks.com/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Jan 21, 2021 • 32min
#168: Be an Awesome Dad Without Losing Your Life
Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Larry Hagner, is the founder of the Good Dad Project. He is the father of four boys and has been happily married to his wife Jessica for 17 years. Larry is the author of the best-selling book: The Dad's Edge. He also hosts a community of hundreds of men in the Dad Edge Alliance Mastermind. Being a dad is simultaneously one of the most amazing and challenging things you can do. We want to make sure you can actually enjoy your kids and your life, rather than being constantly exhausted, distracted or overwhelmed. With a busy life on top of parenting, do you have any time for yourself, to pursue your dreams and take care of your well-being? In today’s episode, we discuss: What has created success and happiness in Larry's 24-year relationship with his wife How to cultivate patience and the ability to be calm and clear, rather than explode with your kids What men can do to shift from complaining and frustration to empowerment and clarity How to communicate in a way that allows your spouse and kids to open up and trust you with deeply personal stuff Common pitfalls dads stumble into on the parenting journey Connect with Larry Website: https://gooddadproject.com/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Jan 14, 2021 • 38min
#167: The Key To Real Happiness For Men - John Schinnerer
Today's Man Alive podcast conversation is with Dr. John Schinnerer, who spent the past 20 years distilling the best research-based tools and methods to help clients overcome anxiety and anger, and move towards a contented and purposeful life. Dr. John was one of three experts to consult with Pixar on the Academy Award-winning movie, Inside Out. He is a nationally recognized speaker and an award-winning author with a top-rated blog and over 200 radio how appearances. For many men, stress, relationship conflict, parenting, disappointments in sex and intimacy, can all get in the way of consistent happiness. In this episode, Dr. John talks about how to spend more time feeling happy, relaxed and at ease. In today’s episode, we discuss: What happiness actually is and how to have more of it How to escape “man box culture” and its painful limitations Realistic optimism -- what it is and why it allows you to be happier How to tune into more positive emotions so you can feel better for longer Men who bring their emotions to the workplace and are respected for it Connect with Dr. John Website: https://guidetoself.com/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Jan 5, 2021 • 39min
Relaunch: Why Men in Positions of Power are Prone to Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction is something many men experience but few men talk about. In this episode you’ll learn about a natural support for getting help with ED.

Dec 19, 2020 • 37min
#166: Life-Saving Holiday Tools for Men
The holidays are a time of year when life can be more challenging than ever. How can men find support and get through these hard times, coming out even stronger and more empowered? Today's podcast guest Kenny Mammerella-D'Cruz talks about tools he has created to help get men through the holidays and other hard times.