Becoming UnDone

About The Guest:Paul Fenner is the founder of TAMMA Capital and the host of the Emotional Balance Sheet podcast. He has a background in finance and accounting and has built a successful career as a financial planner. Paul is passionate about helping families navigate the emotional and financial challenges of life transitions.Summary:Paul Fenner, founder of TAMMA Capital and host of the Emotional Balance Sheet podcast, shares his journey from corporate America to entrepreneurship. He discusses the challenges of balancing a career and raising triplets, and how he found the courage to pursue his own business. Paul emphasizes the importance of emotional and lifestyle planning in addition to financial planning, and how he helps families navigate these complex areas. He also discusses the role of fear in both his own life and in his work with clients, and the power of storytelling in inspiring others.Key Takeaways:Paul Fenner's journey from corporate America to entrepreneurship was driven by his passion for finance and helping families navigate life transitions.Emotional and lifestyle planning are just as important as financial planning when it comes to achieving personal and financial goals.Fear can be a major obstacle in pursuing one's dreams, but it can also be a motivator for growth and change.The power of storytelling and sharing personal experiences can inspire and empower others to overcome their own challenges.Quotes:"I think people become paralyzed by that fear. And that's one reason why people have a hard time taking the first step with working with any financial planner, let alone me." - Paul Fenner"I think listening to other people's stories has really helped solidify that. And again, I take all that, and I can now see how my firm has grown and developed over the last three years with the growth and the conversations and the insights of the guests I've had on my show." - Paul FennerReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About The GuestJohn Ballenger is a former Marine Corps pilot who served as the pilot of Marine One, the helicopter that transports the President of the United States. He has a background in aviation and has overcome personal tragedies, including the loss of his daughter and multiple family suicides. John is now involved in various pursuits, including coaching and real estate development.SummaryJohn Ballenger shares his journey from childhood dreams of becoming a pilot to serving in the Marine Corps and eventually piloting Marine-One. He discusses the setbacks and challenges he faced along the way, including the loss of his daughter and family suicides. John emphasizes the importance of resilience, faith, and a strong support network in overcoming adversity. He also talks about his current endeavors, including coaching and real estate development.Key TakeawaysThe importance of recognizing and addressing mental health struggles, especially in the face of personal tragedies.The value of surrounding oneself with a strong support network and seeking help when needed.The significance of staying true to one's values and faith in navigating difficult times.The power of vulnerability and open communication in building meaningful connections and overcoming challenges.The need to prioritize and focus on the basics in order to achieve success.Quotes"Failure can define you if you let it. I've been blessed to be around it, but it has not shaken me from my foundation." - John Ballenger"Surround yourself with people that you want to be like, and that will make all the difference." - John Ballenger"Life is 10% what actually happens to you, 90% what you do about it." - John BallengerConnectwww.michaelandjohn.comJohn on LinkedInReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About The Guest:Nick Hutchison is the founder of BookThinkers, a digital marketing agency that helps authors promote and market their books. He is also the author of Rise of the Reader: Strategies for Mastering Your Reading Habits and Applying What You Learn. Nick is passionate about personal development and helping others overcome challenges through reading and learning.Summary:Nick Hutchison shares his journey from being a competitive athlete to becoming a successful entrepreneur and author. He discusses how reading books helped him overcome personal insecurities and develop confidence. Nick explains the purpose behind his book, Rise of the Reader, which provides strategies for taking action on the information learned from books. He emphasizes the importance of scheduling reading time, setting intentions for each book, and effective note-taking and reading strategies. Nick also discusses the impact of failure on his growth and the mindset shift from fearing failure to embracing it as a learning opportunity.Key Takeaways:Reading books can help overcome personal insecurities and develop confidence.Scheduling reading time and setting intentions for each book are essential for effective learning.Reading and note-taking should be separate activities to enhance comprehension and retention.Failure is a valuable teacher and should be embraced as an opportunity for growth.Small, consistent steps in the right direction lead to exponential progress over time.Quotes: "Your purpose comes from your pain." - Nick Hutchison"Failure is actually the best teacher, and you should be encouraged to fail as fast and as often as possible." - Nick Hutchison"Comparison can create joy when you compare yourself to where you were a few years ago." - Nick HutchisonConnectwww.bookthinkers.comBookThinkers on Instagramwww.nickhutch.comReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Summary:Jacob Slichter, drummer for Semisonic, shares his journey in the music industry and the lessons he has learned along the way. He discusses the band's rise to success, the challenges they faced, and the importance of gratitude and perseverance. Jacob also talks about the process of writing his book and the recent release of Semisonic's new album.About The Guest:Jacob Slichter is the drummer for Semisonic, an American rock band known for their hit song "Closing Time." He is also an author and a professor.Key Takeaways:Success in the music industry is not guaranteed and can be unpredictable. It is important to be grateful for the opportunities and experiences that come your way.Showing up and doing the work is essential for growth and success as an artist. Persistence and compassion are key.Impostor syndrome is common among artists, but it is important to recognize your own worth and not let self-doubt hold you back.The process of creating art can be challenging, but it is important to embrace the difficulties and keep pushing forward.Growth as an artist is ongoing and requires continuous practice and self-reflection.Quotes:"Our success had actually come much earlier. And it was just merely the fact that we had an audience and that we had a band, and we were making music that really spoke for us." - Jacob Slichter"You've got to actually enjoy the work because that's really what you have. In the end, that's the only thing that's guaranteed, is you get to do the work." - Jacob Slichter"You've got to be willing to just hang in there and keep showing up and just trust in the power of showing up." - Jacob Slichter"Being blocked is part of the work. The difficulty that we have making things is part of the work, and we may have friends who are much more prolific than we are. That's great for them, but we have to recognize that for us, our work is to do our work." - Jacob Slichter"You've got to learn how to have compassion for yourself, and you've also got to learn how to... have persistence and show up." - Jacob SlichterReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About The Guests:Dr. Mike Galyean is a Professor and the Former Provost and Chief Academic Officer at Texas Tech University.Dr. Erin Justyna is the Associate Provost for Student Affairs at the Texas Tech University Health Sciences Center.Magie Lacambra was the Head Football Athletic Trainer at the University of Arizona and is now the Team Sports Manager for the Western United States for  Gatorade Sports Marketing.John Okerson is a retired First Sergeant from the 82nd Airborne Division in the U.S. Army.Summary:Toby Brooks reflects on his podcast, Word to the Third, and shares his progress in reaching his goal of 75 episodes in the first year. He then introduces four guests who discuss their experiences and insights on leadership. Dr. Mike Galyean talks about the challenges of assessing one's own performance as a leader and the importance of communication. Dr. Erin Justyna emphasizes the value of understanding key metrics and providing meaningful communication to assess the performance of those you lead. Magie Lacambra highlights the importance of helping underperforming individuals by providing guidance and support, while also recognizing and encouraging high performers. John Okerson discusses the significance of understanding individual potential and the need for continuous learning and growth as a leader.Key Takeaways:Assessing one's own performance as a leader can be challenging, but feedback from those you work closely with can provide valuable insights.Understanding key metrics and effective communication are essential for assessing the performance of those you lead.Providing guidance and support can help underperforming individuals improve their performance, while recognizing and encouraging high performers can help maintain their optimal performance.Continuous learning and growth are crucial for effective leadership.Quotes:"A sense of when I was doing a good job is what I would get from talking with the people I was working with." - Dr. Michael Galyean"Effective communicators are almost always effective leaders." - Dr. Michael Galyean"As long as you keep those three essentials in mind and understand what is critical, you can effectively assess performance." - Dr. Michael Galyean"Acknowledging someone's effort and helping them see a different perspective can improve their performance." - Dr. Erin Justyna"Leadership is not something that comes easy. You always have to be willing to grow and learn." - John OkersonReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About The Guest:Phil Millan served as the Assistant Minor League Baseball Athletic Training Coordinator and Latin American Medical Coordinator with the Boston Red Sox organization. He has a background in athletic training and has worked with various professional sports teams, including the Kansas City Chiefs, Oakland Raiders, and in a variety of other athletic training practice settings.Summary:Phil Millan shares his journey from being a pre-nursing major in college to working in professional sports as an athletic trainer. He discusses the challenges he faced, including burnout and mental health struggles, and how he made the decision to leave the Red Sox organization and take a job in Texas. He also talks about the importance of finding joy in the little things and the role of failure in personal and professional growth.Key Takeaways:-Phil emphasizes the importance of finding joy in the little things and taking time to reflect on personal and professional growth.He highlights the role of failure in learning and growing, and the importance of not making the same mistakes twice.Phil discusses the challenges of working in professional sports and the need for effective communication and relationship-building skills.Quotes:"Finding joy in the little things has been the biggest thing for me, as well as just trying to be better about the relationships that I have, the relationships that I keep." - Phil Millan"Failure is going to happen. It's just a matter of how often are we going to allow it to happen and are we going to sit there and dwell on the failure itself?" - Phil MillanReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About The Guest:Ian Westmoreland is the founder of Mentoring Men and Kintsugi Heroes, two nonprofit organizations based in Australia. He is passionate about helping men overcome challenges and find purpose in their lives.Summary:Ian Westmoreland shares his journey of self-discovery and the founding of Mentoring Men and Kintsugi Heroes. He discusses the importance of resilience and finding value in our lived experiences. Ian emphasizes the need for men to have mentors and support systems to navigate life's challenges. He also highlights the power of vulnerability and the impact it can have on individuals and communities.Key Takeaways:The metaphor of Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold, teaches us that our brokenness can make us more valuable and resilient.Men often struggle with shame and vulnerability, but finding a mentor and support system can help them navigate life's challenges.Success is not defined by material wealth or societal expectations, but by using our skills and experiences to positively impact the world around us.Sharing our stories and experiences can inspire and encourage others who may be going through similar struggles.It is important to redefine masculinity and create a safe space for men to express their emotions and seek help when needed.Quotes:"The metaphor of Kintsugi teaches us that our brokenness can make us more valuable and resilient." - Ian Westmoreland"A real man doesn't go and beat up women or kids. A real man shows vulnerability and empathy." - Ian WestmorelandReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About The Guest:Emma Middleton Morris is a former college basketball player who had a successful career at Lubbock Christian University and Abilene Christian University. She overcame challenges and setbacks throughout her athletic journey and has learned valuable lessons about resilience and personal growth.Summary:Emma Middleton Morris shares her journey as a college basketball player, from struggling with confidence and self-esteem to finding success and redemption. She discusses the highs and lows of her career, including her decision to transfer schools and her experience as a super senior. Emma also reflects on the importance of identity and the lessons she has learned from failure.Key Takeaways:Emma's confidence was shaken when she entered college basketball, but she persevered and worked hard to improve her skills.Failure can teach valuable lessons, especially when it comes to personal growth and relationships.Emma's journey has taught her the importance of finding her worth and identity outside of basketball.She has learned to embrace the process of becoming undone and growing through challenges and setbacks.Quotes:"Failure is a term that can be taken in a couple of different ways... The most growth that I've had through failure was my failure socially and relationally." - Emma Middleton Morris"Your value is not in what you do... It's literally not. You can't possibly do enough good things to gain the rewards in heaven that you want." - Emma Middleton MorrisReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Summary: Gio Marin grew up in a Christian home but went through a period of rebellion before finding his way back to his calling in the ministry. He emphasizes the importance of pursuing truth and being honest with oneself. After hitting rock bottom, he made the decision to change his life and pursue a healthier lifestyle. He started tracking his nutrition and began weightlifting, which led to significant changes in his body composition. He believes that discipline is key to achieving one's goals and that consistency is more important than motivation. Gio shares his experience with juicing and intermittent fasting, and how these practices helped him overcome cravings and achieve his fitness goals. He also discusses the importance of finding balance and not being too strict with one's diet. Gio is now a co-host of the Built by FitBod podcast and writes on his Substack platform about life, lifting, and nutrition.About The Guest: Gio Marin is a minister, podcaster, fitness personality, and plant-based advocate. He grew up in the South Bronx and had a calling to the ministry at a young age. After going through a period of rebellion, he eventually found his way back to his calling and pursued a career in ministry. He is passionate about fitness and nutrition and believes that physical health and spirituality go hand in hand.Key Takeaways:Pursuing truth and being honest with oneself is essential for personal growth and development.Discipline is more important than motivation when it comes to achieving goals.Physical health and spirituality are interconnected, and taking care of one's body is important for overall well-being.Tracking nutrition and incorporating weightlifting into one's fitness routine can lead to significant changes in body composition.Finding one's "why" and keeping it in mind can help maintain motivation and discipline.Juicing and intermittent fasting can help reset cravings and improve overall health.It's important to find balance and not be too strict with one's diet.Quotes:"Truth is paramount, no matter whether you believe in Christianity or some other religion." - Gio Marin"Your health doesn't care about your feelings. Your health is going to behave the way you treat it." - Gio Marin"Health is wealth, and everything flows out of health." - Gio Marin"Discipline carries the day. Motivation is needed, but discipline is what will help you achieve your goals." - Gio Marin"The one song, as soon as you ask that question, but it's unstoppable. I'm unstoppable. And so my song is Unstoppable by SIA, because now that I have become the man that I want to be, nothing could stop me but me." - Gio MarinReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About The GuestTony Wagner is the head basketball coach at Estacado High School in Lubbock, Texas. He has built a powerhouse program at Estacado, with numerous district championships, regional appearances, and a state championship title. Wagner is known for his dedication to his players and his commitment to their success both on and off the court.SummaryTony Wagner, head basketball coach at Estacado High School, shares his journey from being a late bloomer in basketball to becoming a successful coach. He talks about the importance of being a multi-sport athlete and how it helps develop accountability and resilience. Wagner reflects on his own experiences with academic difficulties and how it shaped him as a coach. He discusses the culture he has built at Estacado and the impact he hopes to have on his players' lives. Wagner emphasizes the importance of being present and involved in his players' lives, even after they graduate. He shares his perspective on success and the moments that truly matter to him as a coach.Key TakeawaysBeing a multi-sport athlete helps develop accountability and resilience.Overcoming academic difficulties can shape you as a coach and make you more empathetic towards your players.Building a positive and supportive culture is crucial for the success of a team.The impact a coach can have on a player's life goes beyond wins and losses.The moments that truly matter are the ones where you see your players succeed and grow as individuals.Quotes "Kids need to be able to compete at different levels, against different circumstances, against different people.""You don't know how strong you can be until you have to be strong.""If winning the state championship is the biggest moment of their life, then they haven't lived.""You promote what you allow.""The moments that make me feel like we are really reaching our kids are when they invite me to their weddings or their children's events."Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.