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 About the GuestJesse Sapolu is a former professional American football player who played his entire career with the San Francisco 49ers. A native of Hawaii, Sapolu is of Samoan descent and played college football at the University of Hawaii. Over his NFL career, he achieved remarkable success, winning four Super Bowl rings with the 49ers. Beyond his playing career, Jesse is known for his dedication to his roots, exemplified by his decision to remain in Hawaii for his college education, influenced greatly by his coach, Dick Tomey. Episode SummaryIn this episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks dives deep into the incredible journey of Jesse Sapolu, a former NFL player and four-time Super Bowl champion. Jesse shares his inspirational story from his teenage struggles in Hawaii, where he faced educational challenges and a tumultuous high school experience, to becoming a professional football player. A pivotal moment was meeting Coach Dick Tomey, whose profound understanding of culture and community shaped Jesse’s decision to stay at the University of Hawaii, altering the course of his life. Through engaging narratives and vivid recollections, Jesse describes Coach Tomey’s unique recruiting style that emphasized cultural respect and family values. This episode captures the essence of what made Tomey a transformative figure in football, particularly highlighting his impact on the Hawaii football program and his ability to cultivate talent and loyalty among his players, even without the allure of high-profile national championships. Listeners will gain insights into the enduring legacy left by Coach Tomey, showcased through Jesse’s path of personal and professional development. Key TakeawaysCoach Dick Tomey’s respect for and understanding of Samoan culture profoundly influenced Jesse Sapolu’s decision to remain at the University of Hawaii.Jesse Sapolu’s career illustrates the role of perseverance and right opportunities in achieving professional success, emphasizing that early challenges can lead to great achievements.The unique recruiting approach of Coach Tomey, focusing on familial bonds and cultural respect, helped shape a strong community-oriented football program in Hawaii.Despite not winning national championships, Coach Tomey’s ability to build character, community, and culture led to lasting impacts on his players' lives.The episode serves as an inspiring testament to how leadership rooted in respect and understanding can transform individuals and build enduring legacies.Notable Quotes "Coach Tomey attended church, and Coach joked about that because the church is conducted in the Samoan dialect. So, you know, he's sitting there for an hour and a half not understanding what's going on." - Jesse Sapolu"Jesse was one of the most highly touted local products coming out of Farrington High School in Honolulu." - Toby Brooks"What Coach Tomey did was just connect the culture with how he was going to coach me if he was going to be the guy that was going to take care of me for the next four or five years." - Jesse Sapolu"I think what Coach Tomey means to me is that he Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About the GuestDick Vermeil: A legendary American football coach renowned for his passionate coaching style and impeccable leadership. Vermeil has been named Coach of the Year at four levels (high school, junior college, NCAA Division I, and NFL) and has an illustrious career, including a Super Bowl victory with the St. Louis Rams. His extensive experience in football spans over decades, having coached and worked alongside some of the sport's most iconic figures.Episode SummaryIn this illuminating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks dives deep into the storied legacy of Coach Dick Tomey, a revered figure in college and professional football. Speaking with Hall of Fame coach Dick Vermeil, Brooks unravels the unconventional and impactful journey of Tomey, known beyond his technical aptitude for his empathetic and transformative coaching style. The episode highlights how Tomey's genuine care and teaching shaped not only successful athletes but also principled individuals off the field.Over the course of the conversation, Vermeil shares captivating anecdotes from Tomey's time at UCLA and the University of Arizona, underscoring Tomey’s unique ability to turn underdogs into champions. The discussion is interspersed with thoughtful reflections on leadership, legacy, and the understated art of connecting with and inspiring people to achieve their best. Through personal stories and insights, Vermeil articulates why Coach Tomey, although not having won national championships, left an indelible mark on so many lives.Key TakeawaysLeadership Philosophy: Dick Tomey was celebrated for his ability to coach people, not just football players, focusing on building individuals capable of exceeding expectations.Impact and Legacy: Tomey's influence extended beyond the football field, with many players and assistants crediting him with life-changing lessons that carried into their personal and professional lives.Empathy in Coaching: Tomey's approach combined toughness with compassion, setting high standards while demonstrating profound care for the personal development of his athletes.Underdog Champion: Throughout his career, Tomey thrived in roles considered challenging, consistently outperforming expectations and fostering a culture of winning against the odds.Respect and Admiration: Despite not having the glitter of championship titles, Tomey's true legacy lies in the respect and admiration he commands even years after his passing, as described by Dick Vermeil.Notable Quotes"Football isn't complicated. People are." – Toby Brooks reflecting on Tomey's coaching philosophy."He loved to coach the guy that wasn't quite good enough to be good enough." – Dick Vermeil on Tomey's commitment to all athletes."To be demanding and compassionate at the same time is a hard mixture." – Dick Vermeil discussing Tomey's unique coaching methodology."He was no pushover as a technician, X and O's, he was excellent." – Vermeil highlighting Tomey's technical prowess."He's special. He's choked me up. Think about it. Special." – Dick Vermeil fondly remembering Coach ToReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About the GuestMike Flores is a seasoned executive leadership coach and former assistant football coach. Throughout his impressive career, Flores has worked at institutions such as UCLA, the University of Hawaii, San Jose State, and the University of Arizona under distinguished figures like Dick Tomey and Dick Vermeil. Currently, he is the founder and president of Inner Champion Consulting, where he provides executive coaching and leadership training to upper-level executives and sports professionals. Episode SummaryIn this captivating episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks takes listeners through the inspiring journey of legendary football coach Dick Tomey, focusing on his lesser-known early years. The episode opens with a powerful story about how one small act of kindness can lead to monumental change, ultimately setting the stage for a series of discussions on the cascading effects of positive mentorship and leadership. Brooks passionately narrates the lineage of renowned coaches and athletes whose lives were touched by these moments, emphasizing the ripple effects of effective leadership. As the episode progresses, Brooks delves deeper into Tomey's journey, reflecting on the early days of his coaching career before joining the University of Hawaii's program. Notable guest Mike Flores shares firsthand insights into Tomey's remarkable ability to unite diverse staff and athletes, bringing them together under a single vision. Enriched by the narratives of Tomey's contemporaries and protégés, this episode provides an introspective look at how Tomey's leadership style transformed various athletic programs and impacted the lives of countless individuals. Integral themes explored include the importance of people-centric leadership, fostering respect and unity among a diverse team, and the enduring influence of a beloved mentor. Key TakeawaysMentorship's Impact: The influence of early mentors like Edward Kimball and Hank Johnson had massive ripple effects, akin to that of Dick Tomey's in the athletic world.Leadership Style: Dick Tomey's unique ability to unite diverse individuals and instill respect and a sense of community is underscored. His people-first approach was pivotal in his transformative leadership journey.Challenges and Triumphs: Tomey's transition to Hawaii is a testament to his resolve in overcoming initial obstacles to build a respected program and culture.Enduring Legacy: His ability to push individuals to their limits while deeply investing in their personal development is highlighted as a hallmark of his career.Personal Memories: Insightful anecdotes from Mike Flores reflect personal and professional experiences with Coach Tomey, painting a vivid picture of a coach who led with intensity intertwined with compassion.Notable Quotes"Football is easy. People are complicated." - Dick Tomey"Dick was the toughest…most intense person I've ever been around. His intensity was contagious." - Mike Flores"He believed in Dick Tomey and that belief helped shape the foundation of a coaching career." - Toby Brooks"Just think about it,Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About the GuestLance Tominaga is a seasoned sports journalist and ESPN Honolulu web editor known for his deep understanding of the college football landscape, especially concerning the University of Hawaii. He is the co-author of "Rise of the Rainbow Warriors," which chronicles the journey of Hawaii football from 1977 to 1987 under the leadership of Coach Dick Tomey. Tominaga has built a career on documenting the moments that shape teams, programs, and lives within the sports world.Episode SummaryDelve into the riveting journey of legendary college football coach Dick Tomey in this episode of Becoming UnDone. Host Toby Brooks sits down with respected sports writer Lance Tominaga to explore the remarkable life and legacy of Coach Tomey, spanning his transformative years at the University of Hawaii, his pioneering spirit, and the enduring impact he left on players, staff, and the sport itself.In this episode, Toby Brooks and Lance Tominaga walk through Dick Tomey's initial years in Hawaii, highlighting his inclusive philosophy of treating the football program like a family. They discuss how Coach Tomey embraced Hawaiian culture, significantly influencing his coaching success. The conversation touches on the challenges of coaching in modern college football, where NIL (Name, Image, and Likeness) deals and the transfer portal have reshaped the landscape, making the traditional role of a coach far more complex. Through captivating stories and insights, they underscore how Tomey's approach remains a gold standard for leadership in sports.Key TakeawaysCultural Immersion and Family Values: Dick Tomey's success at the University of Hawaii was significantly shaped by his ability to immerse himself in and embrace Hawaiian culture, treating the football program as a family.From Humble Beginnings to Impactful Leadership: Despite lacking head coaching experience, Tomey's hard work, honesty, and relationship-building were key to his development into a transformative leader in college football.Challenges of Modern-Day Coaching: The complexities and demands of today's college football landscape, influenced by NIL and transfer portals, contrast sharply with Tomey's era, exemplifying his timeless leadership style.Legacy Beyond Wins and Losses: Though Tomey never won a national or outright conference championship, his legacy is defined by the profound personal impacts he had on those he coached and worked with.Personal Stories and Anecdotes: Shared memories from players and staff illustrate how Tomey's personal touch and care for his players’ growth extended far beyond the football field.Notable Quotes“Coach Tomey wasn't just teaching football, he was teaching life.” – Toby Brooks“In Hawaii, family ohana is very important, and he immersed himself into that culture.” – Lance Tominaga“Football isn't complicated. People are.” – Coach Dick Tomey“He made you feel important, even if it was the first and last time he was meeting with you.” – Lance Tominaga“The program has never really recaptured that magic that coach had… because it was something new, it was something exciting.” – LanceReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About the GuestMary Reiss Farias is a former Division 1 gymnast, successful business owner, transformational mindset mentor, and author. A decorated collegiate gymnast from the University of Arizona, she transitioned into a dedicated coach before becoming a self-development coach. Mary is passionate about helping others reframe their self-image and achieve their full potential. She co-authored the book "Discovering Something Greater" and wrote the Gym Rat book series to inspire young gymnasts. Her journey is a testament to persistence, reinvention, and the courage to embrace new challenges beyond gymnastics.Episode SummaryIn this episode of "Becoming UnDone," host Toby Brooks engages in a compelling dialogue with Mary Reiss Farias, a remarkable former gymnast whose journey of self-discovery and growth is both inspiring and transformative. As a collegiate athlete, Mary thrived not just on the mats but also in the nurturing environment of the University of Arizona, where her passion for gymnastics was matched by her desire to excel as a person. Through a narrative that intertwines personal struggles with professional achievements, Mary shares the pivotal moments that shaped her life after gymnastics, as she transitioned to coaching and later embraced her role as a mindset mentor helping others discover their true potential.Mary's story is one of reinvention and resilience. She vividly recounts her journey from being a gymnast to operating a successful gymnastics gym, only to bravely shut it down in pursuit of something greater—a role in self-development coaching. This interview explores the emotional challenges of identity shifts, the power of setting audacious goals, and growing through change. In the face of adversity, Mary exemplifies what it means to embrace transition and thrive in a new arena. Her journey underscores a universal theme: that while life's chapters may close, new opportunities await for those willing to step into the unknown with courage and faith.Key TakeawaysSelf-image transformation: Mary's journey highlights the significance of altering one's self-image to embrace new roles and challenges effectively.Resilience and growth: She illustrates that true growth comes from consistently pursuing new goals and evolving beyond past achievements.Navigating transitions: Mary’s career shifts serve as a powerful lesson on the courage needed to step away from comfortable identities and into new arenas of growth.Belief and audacity: Her story emphasizes the power of belief in oneself and the audacity to pursue dreams regardless of challenges.Role of mentorship and support: The value of nurturing environments and supportive mentors is highlighted as crucial elements for achieving success.Notable Quotes"I realized I was one of the only ones who still loved the sport." – Mary Reiss Farias"I had to make a major self-image shift in order to realize that it was, that wasn't me… it's okay to move on." – Mary Reiss Farias"You have to act as if you're that new version of you in order for that version to come alive." – Mary Reiss Farias"Our duty iReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About the GuestRyan Kalish is a former Major League Baseball player who made his mark in professional sports as a promising athlete with the Boston Red Sox and Chicago Cubs. Known for his speed and athleticism, Kalish navigated a career punctuated with challenges, including numerous surgeries and injuries. After baseball, he transitioned into entrepreneurship, co-owning Birdman Bats, and explored therapeutic modalities, becoming a Pilates instructor. Currently, he is focused on innovative training techniques aimed at injury prevention and recovery, drawing on his experiences as a professional athlete.Episode SummaryIn this inspiring episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks chats with Ryan Kalish, a once-promising Major League Baseball player whose journey has been marked by incredible highs and devastating lows. From his early days as a celebrated athlete in New Jersey to his time with the Boston Red Sox and Chicago Cubs, Kalish's story is a testament to resilience and reinvention. Despite the physical and mental toll of enduring 14 surgeries, Kalish has transformed his experiences into new opportunities, paving the way for his next chapter as an entrepreneur and innovator in fitness training.Ryan Kalish delves into the realities of his professional baseball career, sharing candid insights into his struggles with injuries and the mental health challenges he faced after retiring from the game. His journey underscores the importance of purpose and reinvention, as he channels his competitive spirit into entrepreneurial ventures and innovative fitness methodologies. Through this compelling narrative, listeners gain a deeper understanding of what it means to confront adversity and emerge with newfound strength and insight. Kalish's openness about his journey offers invaluable lessons on finding purpose beyond setbacks, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration in the face of life's challenges.Key Takeaways:Ryan Kalish's impressive athletic career was overshadowed by the challenges of 14 surgeries, underscoring the physical and mental resilience required to navigate professional sports.The transition from professional athlete to life beyond baseball involved a profound struggle with depression and a quest for renewed purpose.Kalish's entrepreneurial journey, including his involvement with Birdman Bats and real estate ventures, highlights his drive to find fulfillment post-baseball.The unique fitness concept developed by Kalish, focused on decompression and reverse methodologies, showcases his innovative approach to training and rehabilitation.The episode emphasizes the power of overcoming negative self-talk and the potential of pursuing groundbreaking ideas, no matter how unconventional they may seem.Notable Quotes:"What am I going to do now and what's next? Like, I don't know anything else.""It was extremely difficult mentally and physically… I always had to just have this fight mentality.""I felt I was invincible… and that's just not… It wasn't true.""Can the reverse of a squat be useful? I shouldn't feel ashamed about asking that question.""Believe yReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About the GuestCarl Banks is a legendary NFL linebacker, recognized for his influential career with the New York Giants where he secured two Super Bowl championships. The #3 overall pick in the 1984 NFL Draft out of Michigan State, Banks transitioned successfully from sports to business. Currently, he serves as the president of G-III Sports, a division of G-III Apparel Group, overseeing the production of licensed apparel for major sports leagues. Banks also played a pivotal role in revitalizing the Starter Corporation, a once iconic sportswear brand, through innovative business leadership.Episode SummaryIn this engaging episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks sits down with NFL legend Carl Banks to delve into the story of his rise from a multi-sport athlete in Flint, Michigan to a renowned College All American, NFL All-Pro, and business leader. Brooks and Banks explore the trials and triumphs of Carl's journey, beginning with his standout college career at Michigan State, where he emerged as a Big Ten defensive standout despite playing for underperforming teams. Banks' journey is a lesson in resilience, underscored by influential mentorship, like that of NFL icon Jack Ham, who honed his skills for the professional stage.In transitioning to the NFL's New York Giants, Carl Banks quickly cemented his status in the league with his championship spirit and fierce work ethic—a blend that went unnoticed by none, including fellow Giants like Lawrence Taylor. Beyond the gridiron, Carl's story doesn't halt; it shifts into a transformative business career where his creative passions and leadership spurred the rebirth of Starter as a pivotal brand in sports fashion. Through this insightful exchange, listeners gain a vivid understanding of Banks’ dedicated mindset and how key life lessons from sports can transfer into successful business ventures.Key TakeawaysCarl Banks’ journey from Flint, Michigan, to NFL stardom embodies perseverance and resilience, despite early adversities in college football.Influential mentorship from NFL legends like Jack Ham played a crucial role in Banks’ development and success in football.The transition from the NFL to business was natural for Banks, integrating his creative pursuits with leadership in sports apparel.Rejuvenating the Starter brand under Banks' guidance signifies his impact on sports fashion, making nostalgia relevant in contemporary markets.The principles of hard work and unwavering confidence are central to Carl’s career, both on and off the field.Notable Quotes“I had a champion spirit, you understand? I always had great coaching, and not just great coaching, great teachers.”“George Perlis obviously had come from the pros, and he said to me, ‘you're a pro football player.’”“Lawrence Taylor practiced faster and harder than I ever played in a game in college, so I knew I had to ramp up.”“I just held on to my one and only call with Parcells post-draft… ‘I didn’t draft you to sit on the bench.’”“I knew where I stood in the Big Ten amongst players.”ResourcesCarlReach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

About the GuestDr. Brittany Bankhead is an accomplished trauma surgeon known for her resilience and determination. She is a double board-certified academic trauma surgeon with an impressive history that includes transforming setbacks into stepping stones for success. Despite early challenges in her academic journey, including starting in an international medical program, Dr. Bankhead went on to complete her residency at prestigious institutions such as the University of Texas at Austin and a fellowship at Harvard Medical School. Beyond her medical expertise, she is an educator, researcher, entrepreneur, and a social media influencer who advocates for authenticity and balance in professional and personal life. Currently, she is a part of the Medical University of South Carolina.Episode SummaryIn this riveting episode of "Becoming UnDone," Dr. Toby Brooks interviews Dr. Brittany Bankhead, who shares her inspiring journey from struggling undergrad student to a double board-certified trauma surgeon. The episode sheds light on Dr. Bankhead's fortitude and willpower as she navigates the trials of medical school in the Caribbean, eventually securing a fellowship at Harvard. Her story is a testament to perseverance, evidenced by the uplifting message she later shared publicly, challenging naysayers who doubted her potential. Throughout her journey, Dr. Bankhead has embraced vulnerability and authenticity, carving a path that inspires budding medical professionals and beyond.Moreover, the conversation delves into the personal aspects of Dr. Bankhead’s life, including her experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic as an ICU fellow in Boston. Her candid recounting of the profound personal and professional challenges faced during that time underscores the importance of mental health support in high-stakes environments. She discusses her journey of self-discovery and resilience that led to a rekindled marriage. By openly sharing these impactful experiences, Dr. Bankhead emerges as a beacon of hope and strength, advocating for authenticity and balance in multifaceted roles as a mother, surgeon, and emerging entrepreneur.Key TakeawaysDr. Brittany Bankhead's journey from international medical school to Ivy League fellowship is a story of perseverance and determination against the odds.The importance of authenticity and embracing one's true self in professional settings is highlighted as a key to feeling a sense of belonging and maintaining mental well-being.Dr. Bankhead's experience during COVID-19 emphasizes the need for healthcare professionals to have access to mental health resources, considering the high stress and emotional challenges they face.A testament to second chances, Dr. Bankhead's remarriage to her husband illustrates personal growth and the importance of self-awareness in nurturing relationships.Notable Quotes"It's a pretty story on the other side, because now I can sit here and say, oof, that gave me grit. Oof, that gave me resilience.""It turned out that once I started being me, then I felt like I belonged a lot more."ResourcesDr. Brittany Bankhead on Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Episode SummaryJoin Dr. Toby Brooks in this introspective episode of "Becoming UnDone" as he dives into the complex and riveting life story of Mike Tyson. Known for embracing failure, setbacks, and adversity, the podcast delves into how Tyson's early life of chaos and subsequent rise to become the youngest heavyweight boxing champion encapsulates resilience and redemption. Through Tyson's turbulent career, Brooks reflects on the lessons one can extract from his journey, creating a narrative filled with redemption, vulnerability, and growth.In the episode, Brooks emphasizes the duality of Tyson's life as both a story of unprecedented success and formidable downfall. With a history marred by personal struggles, Tyson's raw tenacity the episode highlights, serves as a powerful example of how pain, if channeled effectively, can be turned into a pressing force for good. Tyson's evolution, from facing incarceration to rediscovering his identity beyond the ring, represents an extraordinary tale of the human spirit's ability to reintegrate and reinvent itself. Through Tyson's journey, listeners can identify key life lessons applicable to their own experiences, solidifying this episode as both a profound analysis and motivational discourse.Key TakeawaysPain as Power: Discover how personal pain, when harnessed effectively, can transform into a source of power and drive.Support Systems Matter: Examine the critical role that support systems play in sustaining success and dealing with pressure.Redemption Journey: Embrace the belief that it's never too late to change and redefine your narrative, as exemplified by Tyson's transformation.Grounding Necessity: Understand the importance of staying grounded, especially when faced with rapid success, to prevent eventual collapse.Self-Reflection and Growth: Gain insight into the necessity for self-reflection and confronting personal demons as a pathway to personal growth and reinvention.Notable Quotes"I'm not the guy I used to be. I've learned that pain is just part of the process and that you don't grow without it." – Mike Tyson"Your pain can be your power." – Toby Brooks"Success without grounding is fragile." – Toby Brooks"Redemption is always possible." – Toby Brooks"Who's your Cuss? Who's keeping you grounded?" – Toby BrooksResourcesReferenced People: DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince, Lewis Howes, Joe RoganEvents Mentioned: Fight with Buster Douglas, Bite fight with Evander HolyfieldEncouraging listeners to explore these themes further, this episode of "Becoming Undone" is a testament to the resilience found through the human spirit. Tune in to gain more profound insights into using life's raw materials for personal transformation and growth. Subscribe and listen to past episodes to continue your journey of self-discovery and empowerment with Toby Brooks.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Episode SummaryIn this episode of Becoming UnDone, host Toby Brooks dives into the core idea that traditional paths to success are not always the best or only options. Drawing from personal experiences and anecdotes, Toby explores the notion that real growth and fulfillment often lie in daring to carve your own path and questioning societal norms. This episode challenges listeners to step away from outdated blueprints of success and find their true selves through authenticity and self-discipline. Throughout the episode, Toby emphasizes the importance of discipline over motivation, arguing that routine commitment and setting personal goals are essential for achieving true satisfaction in life. The episode also highlights stories of individuals who have dared to pursue their own dreams and defy the expectation of conformity, including references to the inspiring film "Rudy." Brooks encourages listeners to engage with his community, share their experiences, and support one another in forging individualized paths to growth and fulfillment. Key Takeaways Challenge Conventional Paths: Real success often requires stepping away from societal norms and creating a unique path that aligns with personal values and aspirations.The Power of Discipline: Unlike fleeting motivation, discipline fuels sustained commitment toward goals and dreams, even when external results are not immediately visible.Growth Beyond Rules: True growth involves questioning the status quo and being willing to rewrite the rules, especially when conventional wisdom does not resonate personally.Authenticity Over Conformity: Building a life that fits one's own passions and dreams, rather than conforming to societal expectations, leads to deeper fulfillment and success.Community Support: Engaging with supportive communities can enhance accountability and encouragement as individuals pursue unique and fulfilling paths.Notable Quotes"Disciplined commitment to your own path can reveal a success that's fulfilling and uniquely yours.""Zigging when the world is zagging takes guts.""Motivation is a mirage; what you need is discipline.""Life is too short to follow instructions that don’t align with your soul.""Success isn't just about hard work. It’s about building a path that feels right, even if no one else understands it."ResourcesVisit the Undone Facebook Group to share your experiences with the community: TheUnDoneTune in to this episode for an inspiring conversation on breaking free from the norm to achieve personal success. Don't miss upcoming episodes as Toby continues to explore transformative stories and insights on Becoming UnDone.Reach out to Becoming UnDone! Text Toby here!Support the showBecoming Undone is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyJBrooks. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.