Speak The Truth

Episode Notes: ◎ Andy reports being angry all the time◎ Things we would address with Andy based on the summary of his behavior and his own perspective on life◎ what does he think is going on◎ what does he really get angry about◎ Does Andy have a victim mindset?◎ Was he motivated by his dad’s approval?◎ What is uninteresting about God◎ Does he consider himself as a Christian?◎ More discussion around his understanding of God. ◎ How does he understand his own anger? ◎ What does Andy think his problem is?  

Episode Notes:Marks from Joseph Pipa's book - The LORD's Day◎ Scriptures: Isa 58:13-14; The purpose of the Sabbath - ◎ pg. 13; 17 (Rev. 1.10)Original Intent Gen. 2.1-3; ◎ The market day of the Soul Exod. 20.9-11; ◎ pg. 42; 44-45; First Day Sabbath Heb. 4.9-10 Ex. 20:8-15: In the same way the 7th commandment speaks to the ordinance of marriage - the creational mandate - by not committing adultery, and the 8th structures the creation ordinance of work. Episode Resources: Joseph Pipa - The Lord's DayJames K. A.  SMITH - HOW NOT TO BE SECULAR James Taylor - Secular Age

Episode Notes:◎ Self-Care: how to avoid burnout.◎ Going beyond our Sunday services and quite times to ensure we’re investing in our soul’s with God’s Word.  ◎ Psalm 73.26, not Psalm. 76.13, there is no verse 13. ◎ 26 My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.  (Ps. 73.26)◎ Establishing a rhythm of rest at least one day of the week. ◎ Physically, Spiritually, Intellectually, Emotionally◎ Ps. 46.10◎ A way to prevent taking things home is resting in the theological doctrine of God’s sovereignty - realizing God’s care and concern for those that we’re counseling.  ◎ How do I work through the burden for them and their circumstances and be ok with how my circumstances are not nearly as difficult◎ Taking those thoughts captive when we begin to feel guilty that our lives aren’t “as bad as others who suffer more”.  ◎ Counseling will invariably stir up our own stuff. ◎ Who’s in our life to speak into our life when we get stirred? ◎ Physically, we need to be far more intentional with being active and creating a healthier diet. ◎ Planning is the most important part of self-care. Episode Resources: Call the sabbath a delight - Walter J. Chantry The Lord’s Day - Joseph A. Pipa, JR. Instruments In the redeemer’s hands - Paul Tripp 

Episode Notes: ◎ How would you dig into some of the particulars that they’re struggling with that affecting their sex life and ultimately, their marital life?◎ how they’re day-to-day grind is affecting their marriage, sexually, emotionally, and intellectually. that they’ve become so horizontally focused that they’ve lost sight of the vertical importance to their horizontal. ◎ Defining the Why of what we do. ◎ Do they see how they're destroying one another? ◎ How can they incarnate a merciful spirit?  ◎ Identify the schema of their belief…go to those hurtful places and their beliefs of one another, that reinforces their spirit of justice.◎ Fill in the blank statements that reveal their primary schema, and begin to offer ways to tweak their thinking. ◎ 1 Pet. 2.16-23; a text to demonstrate our call to good regardless of what’s being done to us. ◎ Working through the biblical category of removing and replacing. Episode Resources: ◎ Sex and the supremacy of Christ◎ Sexual Sanity (men)◎ Sexual Sanity (women) ◎ Christiancounseling.com◎ Speakthetruth.org   

Episode Notes:– Marital Case study – Doing a thorough assessment of their sexual backgrounds, what they’ve experienced personally, what they’ve observed by their parents or familial context, etc. – Are there emotional, physical, or psychological issues that are affecting the there sex life, frequency, duration, etc. – What’s going on in their hearts? – Be quicker to focus on the vertical than the horizontal in their marriage.   

Episode Notes: ◎ Self Forgiveness: Can you forgive yourself? ◎ In order to have forgiveness, there needs to be an offender and a victim. ◎ People who use this statement are really dealing with something, but this isn't a correct articulation or rendering of what one is working out. ◎ 2 Cor. 7.8-10 is a text that does speak to grief; worldly grief vs. godly grief.  ◎ Godly grief produces life and worldly grief produces death. ◎ they need to move through worldly grief, over sin,  to godly grief over sin to life and freedom. ◎ We cannot remove or renounce God’s judgment, and pronounce ourselves as judge….we need to humble ourselves and let God be God. ◎ It’s not self-forgiveness, but rather, receiving the full measure of grace that Christ accomplished on the cross.   ◎ It's not self-forgiveness, but embracing God’s grace. ◎ Self-forgiveness is emotively based.  ◎ The object of godly grief was not to alleviate the grief, but that it would produce something beautiful in a person, an effort to change one’s life.   Episode Resources- Piper Audio from DesiringGod- Gospel Coalition Article - Robert D. Jones Book - I can't forgive myself 

◎ The counselor and their counseling methods◎ How to’s ◎ the time away from the counseling room is where the majority of our method is drawn for homework. ◎ the extent of homework is contingent upon the counselee; every counselee is different therefore, the amount or frequency of any homework is based on the nature of the situation and the person working through it. ◎ ABC offers a variety of "homework helps" for counselors and their counselee’s. ◎ The heart of the matter series; practical sheet - heart log - where the counselee captures the situation, their emotions, thoughts, desires, and behaviors.  ◎ Often times, our homework given is based on reorienting someone’s way they interact with scripture. ◎ Watch out for those “Sunday School” answers, help your counselee wrestle by engaging with the scriptures in a way that incites their hearts and their situation.  Episode Resources: Christian Counseling - counseling homework helps 

Episode summary:In this episode, the hosts discuss cultivating some counseling methods with the analogy of a farmer, which as biblical counselors we're taking God's Word and sowing it with our counselee's, and the importance of being encouraged through engaging our peers with prayer, and God's Word. Episode Notes: Discussion based on Ch. 13 of Jeremy’s new book, “biblical counseling basics”As Counselor’s we’re bringing access to a  myriad of identities; we could be an ambassador for another kingdom, we could be being used as an instrument of mercy and grace. Biblical counseling is a process of learned dependency. We're farmers in those moments in counseling; it's God who brings the harvest in someone's life and how he chooses to use the seeds we plant as biblical counselors. As biblical counselors, we have something that even the most renown scholar in psychology doesn't have, we have the Holy Spirit. And he is even more committed to the people we counsel, so we don't need to be doubtful in our ability. As a farmer, we're focusing more on the scriptures than the skills.

Show Resources: Bigstuf CampSalem Heights ChurchCCEF Conferences 

Episode Notes:   A biblical anthropology rooted in the gospel completely rewires human psychology from the way we think and to our affections. In counseling, we’re not trying to better the old man, but rather, we’re trying to cultivate the new man.  Humanism’s anthropology is to try and better the old man, which cannot accomplish what it sets out to do.  Gospel driven counseling is set to cultivate the new man as described by scripture.  Loyalty war that rages within, the fight for worship. The flesh is set on worshiping creation and self, where the spirit is set on having us worship God.  The Holy Spirit is at work in us to transform our desires, and to set them upon The LORD.  The hierarchy of needs model is a passive heart approach, but a biblical model says the heart will elevate an appropriate desire to an inappropriate level rendering them even sinful.  Episode Resources: Ed Welch Paul Tripp  St. Augustin Martin Luther James K. A. Smith You Are What You Love Johnathan Edwards - The Freedom of the will Abraham Maslow - Hierarchy of needs