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Whether in a boardroom with global business leaders or simply with your family in the comfort of your own living room, we negotiate with other people every single day. Saying “Hey, Wait” is about giving yourself permission to express yourself and own your reality while also acknowledging the reality of the person you're in conflict with. Skillful negotiating works in exactly the same way. Today’s guest, Kwame Christian, is a leading expert in the field of negotiation. He’s the host of the Negotiate Anything podcast, the number one negotiation podcast in the world. In this insightful conversation with Jay, Kwame explains why fear is often the main reason we avoid the conversations we need to have. He also offers practical steps that you can use right away to improve how you communicate and connect with others. In this episode, Kwame talks about: How overthinking is a sneaky manifestation of fear Focusing stoically on things within your control Whoever needs to make the deal more will lose the negotiation, so make your “Plan B’’ as enticing as your “Plan A” Leading with compassionate curiosity To learn more about Kwame’s speaking, his podcast, and more, visit his company’s website at negotiateanything.com  And To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.   Connect with Kwame Christian: Negotiate Anything Official Website: https://negotiateanything.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kwamenegotiates/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian  Negotiate Anything Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/negotiate-anything/id1101679010   Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

If you’re someone who feels deeply—and often feels alone, even when around other people—you likely carry a quiet longing for more in your relationships. Other people—even you—might mistake this wanting as wanting more attention, or wanting more time with the other person. But the true, deeper longing is for more connection. For the sense that someone is truly with you. “Resonance” is a term frequently used by today’s guest, Sarah Peyton, to describe a way that you can find deep and healing connection with yourself and others. Sarah is an author and educator of relational neuroscientist, and her conversation with Jay will challenge the way you think about loneliness, shame, human interaction, and self-empathy. When you allow yourself to open up to another person, when you truly connect and feel their presence and your own, you begin to shift your entire perspective on both yourself and the world around you. In this episode, Sarah talks about: Why cortisol is the hormone of loneliness—and what emotion spikes it most The difference between resonance, empathy, and compassion What it takes to find your internal resonant voice—and what’s possible when you speak to yourself in a warm, inviting way How you’re trained in childhood to either over-attune or emotionally insulate yourself How emotional insulation can travel from generation to generation as a learned habit Being “known” by others can actually rewire your brain To learn more about Sarah’s work, her writing, and more, visit her website at https://sarahpeyton.com/  And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode.   Connect with Sarah Peyton:   Official Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahpeytonauthor/  20% Off Sarah’s Book “Your Resonant Self”: https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393712247?promo=SUMMIT20  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empathybrain/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/resonantself Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPJ_wotaL-ZoZefuLdgEGkQ  Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Accepting your humanity means embracing every part of yourself, including your emotions. The image we often associate with a Navy SEAL is toughness, resilience, and strength. That’s what makes today’s guest, Jon Macaskill, so compelling. A retired Navy SEAL with 24 years of service, Jon has been through some extraordinary experiences. But instead of using his past as an excuse to close off from his emotions, he has chosen to express them openly and confidently through his widely successful podcast Men Talking Mindfulness. Jon is a layered and complex person. In this conversation with Jay, you’ll have the chance to experience so many different sides of him. He is a warrior, a kind and thoughtful man, a father, a speaker, and someone who knows the value of pausing to reflect. As someone who has worked directly with Jay, Jon is a great example of what it looks like to stop, say “Hey, Wait,” and hold space for both your own experience and the experience of others. In this episode, Jon talks about: Lessons learned through the Navy SEALS The continued value of practicing mindfulness Being “Nice” is not the same as being “Kind” Having resilience in yourself starts by having faith in yourself You’re more confident than you’re giving yourself credit for To learn more about Jon, explore his podcast, work, and offerings at jonmacaskill.com/links. And To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jon Macaskill:   Official Website: jonmacaskill.com/links   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalkingmindfulness  “Men Talking Mindfulness” Podcast: https://mentalkingmindfulness.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonmacaskill  Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields  

Improv is about saying “Yes, and.” It’s about listening to others, embracing the moment, and choosing to input your own reality. In that way, improv and “Hey, Wait” are actually very similar. Today’s guest Erin Diehl is as authentic as they come. She’s a speaker, author, podcast host, “edutainer,” “failfluencer,” and self-proclaimed professional “Zoombie.” Erin fully owns who she is, and yet she still finds herself struggling with people-pleasing. Whether it’s through their shared love of Oprah, discussing a messy trip to Mexico City, or hitting heavy topics like the importance of empathy and alignment… Jay’s conversation with Erin is one that I think you’ll really be able to relate to. It’s funny, it’s engaging, but most importantly it’s entirely authentic. In this episode, Erin talks about: The powerful health benefits of aligning mind and body. How she’s learned to say “Hey, Wait” in her own life. Why The Gift of Peace isn’t just a nice-to-have. It’s essential. What it looks like to let go of ego in service of the mission. Feeling inspired to try the Chicken Dance yourself? Visit itserindiehl.com to learn more about Erin, and click here to purchase a copy of her book I See You! To stay connected with Jay Moon Fields, head to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Erin Diehl: Official Website: itserindiehl.com  Improve It’s Website: learntoimproveit.com  Instagram: instagram.com/itserindiehl  Workday Playdate Podcast: learntoimproveit.com/podcast-page-empathy  Empathy Cheat Sheet: mailchi.mp/8331b3185dac/empathycheatsheet Erin’s Book “I See You!”: https://www.itserindiehl.com/i-see-you    Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

You’re not picking a fight. You’re picking yourself. Saying “Hey, Wait” might feel like confrontation… But what if it’s actually one of the most loving and respectful things you can do? In this solo episode, Jay closes out her three-part series on the “Hey, Wait” method with the final and most tender step: actually saying “Hey, Wait” to another person. Whether you’re someone who keeps the peace at all costs or someone who only speaks up when you're already at a boiling point, this practice will help you to find a healthy space in between. A way to stay with yourself while staying true to your relationships. A way to speak up without burning it all down. Because “Hey, Wait” isn’t just about learning how to use your voice. It’s about learning that your reality matters. In this episode, Jay shares: Why “Hey, Wait” can feel so charged, especially if you’re used to staying quiet How to turn “Hey, Wait” into a true bid for connection How to start practicing in low-stakes situations before tackling the bigger ones What to say next, and how to keep the moment grounded in your truth In this episode, Jay also opens up about her course, Yours Truly: a self-paced program designed to help you come home to yourself in your nervous system, your voice, and your relationships. For a limited time, you can join for just $148. Visit jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly to learn more, and use the code wholeness at checkout to receive your discount. Have a question for the podcast? We’d love to hear it! Send Jay a DM on Instagram, you might just hear your question in a future episode. Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

You don’t need to stand up for yourself. You need a “self”. Saying “Hey, Wait” is just the beginning. The real magic? Learning how to actually speak from your own reality. If you’ve been with us from the start, then you already know how much Nancy Dreyfus means to Jay. She’s been Jay’s mentor for years, and has shaped so much of the “Hey, Wait” approach you’ve been hearing about. Think of Nancy as the “Yoda” of helping people get their insides to match their outsides. She’s a psychotherapist, an author, and, more than anything, a deep well of wisdom. If this podcast has been resonating with you, you’ll love this episode. It’s packed with thoughtful insights and practical takeaways that’ll help you get one step closer to being Radically and Embarrassingly True to Yourself. In this episode, you’ll hear Nancy talk about: Why being authentic can feel both embarrassing and liberating How to stand in your truth and honor someone else’s reality What it really means to “do the work” with your partner And how you’ll start to notice your own growth when you take healing seriously Want to go deeper? Grab Nancy’s book, Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love, and flip through the flashcards one by one. Don’t just read them… say them out loud. Let the words settle into your body. Here’s the link to grab the book. And don’t forget to stay connected with Jay Moon Fields—check out jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. Got a question for the podcast? Send it in! You might just hear it in a future episode. Connect with Nancy Dreyfus:   Official Website: https://nancydreyfus.com/  Nancy’s Book: “Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love”: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399162003/  Nancy’s Psydbar Substack: https://nancydreyfus.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instahttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399162003/ref=s9_simh_gw_p14_d1_i3gram.com/nancydreyfus_psyd/  Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/nancydreyfus.bsky.social  Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Welcome back to the “Hey, Wait” Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. In each episode she shares stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life.   In today’s episode, Jay is joined by Jane Bond. Jane is a powerhouse in luxury real estate (Naples, NYC, Philly), and a fierce advocate for women. Having “unpacked her life,” Jane now inspires women through her podcast, Unpack Your Life, to pause and take an honest look at their lives—and to ask themselves if what they’re going through is allowing for their growth or keeping them hostage?   When her career, marriage, finances, and ego all collapsed at once, Jane had to let go of everything she thought made her who she was. In this major “Hey wait” moment, she stepped out of performance and into reckoning—with her truth, her fear, and her power. Together, she and Jay talk about what it takes to stop performing and to start living from presence.   Except it took two takes…because the first time Jay and Jane sat down to record the interview, they both fell into old patterns of performing and people pleasing, and it didn’t come across as authentically as they knew they were capable of being. So two women who, in earlier chapters of their lives, would’ve either kept the inauthentic version or thrown it in the trash and walked away, instead chose to stay, have an honest and hard conversation and give themselves and each other a second chance. Give it a listen to see what came out of their second conversation.   And Hey, Wait! Before you go, make sure to subscribe to the “Hey, Wait” Podcast so you can follow along with every new episode as soon as it is released. And be sure to connect with Jay Moon Fields on her website (jaymoonfields.com/) and  across all social media platforms (instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/) so you can submit your questions to the Podcast. You just might be featured on a future episode! Key Takeaways:   Unpacking your life is about reclaiming your power & walking through fear If this chapter of your life isn’t serving you, then rewrite it Withholding your truth disconnects you from the people who need to show up in your life The fear of being misunderstood, being too much, and of starting over again Self worth doesn’t need an audience You don’t owe the world your whole story to be impactful Connect with Jane Bond:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janebond___/  Unpack Your Life Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/unpack-your-life/id1789819668  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebondtbg/  Real Estate Website: https://www.compass.com/agents/jane-bond/  Connect with Jay:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields  

Welcome back to the “Hey, Wait” Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we’ll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life.   In today’s episode, Jay Moon Fields is joined by Somatic Therapist, Social Worker, and Founder of Somatic Therapy Partners, Maira Holzmann. Maira’s work with Somatic and Psychedelic Therapy brings her clients to incredible breakthroughs, many of whom have struggled to find help through traditional therapeutic outlets.   Maira’s “Hey, Wait” moment came when she was driving through a fancy neighborhood and felt a whisper suggesting “You Belong Here.” She grew up as an immigrant, and constantly felt the desire to be a person of status within society. It was when she finally felt comfortable in herself, in her family, and in her surroundings, that she was truly able to embrace her wisdom and her career.   Understanding Somatic Therapy goes hand in hand with saying “Hey, Wait.” As soon as you are able to pause and soften your body, you are totally able to refocus your mind, reclaim your moment, and move into a more productive headspace. In an absolutely can’t miss episode, you’ll get a collection of tips that you can immediately implement into your own “Hey, Wait” journey, such as “Joy Spotting,” “Facial Softening,” and more.   And Hey, Wait! Before you go, make sure to subscribe to the “Hey, Wait” Podcast so you can follow along with every new episode as soon as it is released. And be sure to connect with Jay Moon Fields on her website (jaymoonfields.com/) and  across all social media platforms (instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/) so you can submit your questions to the Podcast. You just might be featured on a future episode! Key Takeaways:   Spending Time in Nature is a Fantastic Way to Find Yourself & Recenter The Body Whispers Until it Has to Yell When You Include the Body in Your Healing Work, Your Resistance will go Down Embodied Work is All About Starting Small, in a Way That You Can Access The Most Important Thing You Can Do When Under Duress is Soften Your Body If There is a Rupture in a Relationship, Try to Fix it in 20 Minutes or Less Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy Won’t Lead to Addiction   Psychedelic Therapy Will Break You Out of Your Survival Self Your Homework:   Practice Softening Your Body. Your Gaze. Your Face. Your Eyes. Practice “Joy Spotting” in Your Body & Review Your Day. Feel the Moments That Were Good in Your Day Share this episode with someone else who needs to hear it. More on Maira Holzmann:   Official Somatic Partners Website: www.somatictherapypartners.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somaticindenver/ Denver Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/SomaticInDenver LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maira-holzmann-2a2b4b1b6/ Ready to Dive Deeper? More on Jay Moon Fields:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields  

Welcome back to the “Hey, Wait” Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we’ll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life.   In today’s episode, Jay Moon Fields is joined by Bill Schiffmiller, the founder and CEO of Akoio, a company that specifically addresses auditory needs in the workplace. Bill’s real-life experience with hearing loss has informed every aspect of his life, and today Akoio is helping companies around the globe recognize the value of accessibility.   Through his conversation with Jay you’ll learn that there truly are so many auditory elements of life that may be causing you stress… that you aren’t even aware of. This is an invitation to take a “Hey, Wait” moment to pause, listen, and to consider what your experience of your daily soundscape is, and what you might need within it. Because learning to tune into what you actually feel—including noise–allows you to stop accepting discomfort as “just the way things are” and start making space for more joy.   And Hey, Wait! Before you go, make sure to subscribe to the “Hey, Wait” Podcast so you can follow along with every new episode as soon as it is released. And be sure to connect with Jay Moon Fields on her website (jaymoonfields.com/) and  across all social media platforms (instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/) so you can submit your questions to the Podcast. You just might be featured on a future episode! Key Takeaways:   Make a Point to Be Present & Enjoy the Moment When You Offer Attentive Listening, New Things are Revealed Improved Sound Solutions in the Workplace Increase a Company’s Bottom Line Everyone’s Relationship to Sound is Different Noise Isn’t Just What You Hear– It’s What You Feel Be Aware of the Noise Around You & Track How it Makes You Feel You Can Close Your Eyes– You Can’t Close Your Ears Crying As A Practice For Emotional Release Your Homework:   Make a journal. Become aware of the way different sounds and soundscapes make you feel. Share this episode with someone else that needs to hear it. More on Bill Schiffmiller:   Official Akoio Website: https://akoio.com/ Bill’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/billschiffmiller Forbes Profile: https://www.forbes.com/sites/billschiffmiller/  Ready to Dive Deeper? More on Jay Moon Fields:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields  

Welcome back to the “Hey, Wait” Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we’ll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life.   In today’s episode, Jay Moon Fields returns solo to the mic, answering listener questions for the first time as she dives deeper into the essential– yet often challenging– Second Step of the “Hey, Wait” process. Emily, a listener of the podcast, recently faced an upsetting moment at choir practice when someone took her stand without asking. Many of us have been in situations where we later wished we had spoken up, asserted ourselves, or found our voice. In this episode, Jay uses Emily’s story as a starting point to explore somatic experiencing– a practice that uses imagination to unlock bodily sensations– and explains how it can help Emily (and you!) move forward with more agency. As we learned in Episode One, the “Hey, Wait” process has three key steps. Today, we focus on Step 2: Pausing– the moment you stop reacting and start tuning into your inner experience. It’s a deceptively difficult practice, requiring you to actually feel what’s going on inside. Jay breaks it down with clarity and compassion, offering real tools to help you integrate this step into your own life. And Hey, Wait! Before you go, make sure to subscribe to the “Hey, Wait” Podcast so you can follow along with every new episode as soon as it is released. And be sure to connect with Jay Moon Fields on her website (jaymoonfields.com/) and  across all social media platforms (instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/) so you can submit your questions to the Podcast. You just might be featured on a future episode! Key Takeaways:   Somatic Experiencing is a Body Based Therapy About Healing Trauma that is Stored in the Body Allowing Your Mind and Body to Imagine What Being Safe Would Have Felt Like in Traumatic Moments… Can Release Your Trauma Give Yourself a Replay Of What it Would Have Felt Like to Say What You Would Have Wanted to Say Matching Your Insides to Your Outsides is about having an Essential Self Within You that you know how to Inhabit and Express Your Strategic Parts Developed When You Were Young to help you Survive There are 3 Steps to Staying Within Yourself The “Touch In” Track Yourself “Of Course.” As in… “Of Course I Feel This Way.” Your Homework:   Practice following the 3 Steps for yourself, wherever you are at. Touch In. Track Yourself. Tell Yourself “Of Course.” Share this episode with someone else that needs to hear it. Ready to Dive Deeper? More on Jay Moon Fields:   Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/  “Yours Truly” Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields’ Book “Teaching People Not Poses”: https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields